Overcoming Fear of Creative Failure, Part 3: Putting the Work In Its Place

We spend so much time developing our projects that it's hard not to see them as extensions of ourselves. That's why the fear of creative failure can be so crippling.
If my work is misunderstood, then I'm misunderstood. If it's a flop, I'm a flop. 
Perhaps even more damaging, I may believe that if my work's valued, I'm valued. If it's worthy, I'm worthy. If it's beloved, I'm beloved.
Oddly, I never felt this way when I worked in a commercial kitchen. If I turned out a bad batch of something,...