Alpha Shmalfa
Today I have the great pleasure of welcoming a friend and amazing writer onto my blog - C Zampa, author of Candy G. Carol is going to be talking about alpha males. Just what makes an alpha, an alpha? What do you think? Carol, take it away.
Heroes may not be braver than anyone else. They're just braver five minutes longer. ---- Ronald Reagan
The other day, during a discussion on alpha males, a good friend chided me—quite good-naturedly—and said I was a 'true beta lover'. Why? Because I simply love a man who has that trace of something in him that lets him cry, lets him be in touch with—and, damn, does this ever sound cliché—his sensitive side. I was going to say 'his feminine' side, but who says crying was strictly a girl thing? Bushwa to that.
Busted. She's right. I accept my crown graciously and wear it with pride.
But, wait. The truth of the matter is, I decided to research alpha and beta males.
After studying, I will admit my perception of what constitutes an alpha male was pretty much off target. For some reason, I believed alphas had to be perfect in every way—strength, confidence, looks, charm, the whole checklist of qualities to make him…well, a hero. Turns out, like I said, I was slightly wrong. The distinction between alphas and betas is really nothing more than a matter of leadership, a take-charge, protector persona as opposed to a more secondary male role.
The role a beta male was, however, more clearly defined. And it was as follows: An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk and confrontation. Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma and confidence of the Alpha male.
Aha! Turns out, according to that description, I may have to relinquish my Queen of the Beta Lovers crown because that does NOT personify the male characters I love.
Here's the question, then, if the above is truly a portrait of a beta male. Who the hell IS the character I love? So he cries, sure. But he does not avoid risk or confrontation, he certainly does not lack physical presence, and most assuredly DOES have charisma and confidence.
So. Is he an alpha or not? I don't know. You tell me.
In my novella, Candy G, my hero is physically and courageously about as macho as macho can be. He carries all the alpha trademarks: good looks, good body, charisma, power. But, alas, he is sentimental, he is emotional. He cries. He's jealous where his lover is concerned. He plays La Paloma while making love. His boyhood teddy bear shares the glove compartment with his glock.
Here's a snippet of a scene where the hero's lover, Carlos, worries over being the care-taker of this man's heart:
"That's just it." Carlos slunk back in the chair, wrapping his arms around himself. "That heart of his. This man, this powerful man, so fucking fearless." A tiny chuckle. "Sorry for the language."
She nodded gravely, absolving his stronger-than-usual cursing.
He continued, "And yet nobody would guess what a delicate heart he has." Sitting forward, he cupped his hands. "And he's put that heart, that beautiful, fragile heart in my hands. My hands." He twined his fingers together and pressed them to his mouth. "It scares me fucking shitless." Her disapproving glare stabbed him, and he added, "Sorry."
Tapping a finger to her lips, Aunt Dahlia closed her eyes, clearly weighing her words. Finally, she squared her shoulders. "You are right that Candelario is a strong man. He is. And you are right that he has a tender heart. The community knows this, he is loved.
But, I'm not talking about his kindness to the community. I'm talking about his love for me. That's—"
"Do not interrupt me." She pursed her lips, and her hand shot up. "His gentle heart and his power are separate. So far, the two have never fought in his soul, but they will if you throw his heart back at him, damaged." Drawing a finger over the stitches on the mitt, she added, "He has put his heart for safekeeping in your hands. So, rather than falter under the responsibility, should you not stand as strong as he does? He will give his life to protect what he loves. Can you not at least protect his heart while he protects you?"
So there. I think my hero is no less an alpha for having a fragile heart.
Although many writers and readers feel that an alpha male indeed CAN be vulnerable, can cry and that, in fact, they love them more when they DO exhibit these tendencies, others argue that it emasculates them to some degree, strips them of the alpha status. Many see this in the case of real-life relationships as well. Let a man cry at something, and he is out the door on his bum faster than you can say Jack Be Nimble.
Does crying, being easily affected by emotion, make a man less masculine? Personally, I don't think so. If anything, I think it makes him more masculine, simply for the fact that he is strong enough, confident enough to not feel the need to hide behind a macho persona.
Jose Saramago said this: I never appreciated 'positive heroes' in literature. They are almost always clichés, copies of copies, until the model is exhausted. I prefer perplexity, doubt, uncertainty, not just because it provides a more 'productive' literary raw material, but because that is the way we humans really are.
Interesting!
An example who comes to my mind is King David. Powerful leader of Jerusalem, fearless leader of legions in his army. Wise. Yet one of the most romantic, poetic souls in history. The Psalms contain some of the most agonizing, tearful, poignant prose ever written. Yet his constant inner angst personified the beauty of his character without negating his power.
I think I shall not choose to categorize my heroes into alpha, beta, or any other Greek alphabet. They just are who they are. How about if I just call them the heroes of the story?
But for those who might feel there should be that distinction—alpha as opposed to beta— what is your opinion? Does a hero lose critical points for being sensitive and possibly vulnerable? As long as these softer sides of his persona do not thwart his ability to take control, can he still be an alpha male?
Once again I'd like to thank Carol for taking the time to appear on my blog, and for the very interesting subject matter she chose to discuss. What is your opinion? Just what makes an alpha, an alpha? And do you prefer to read about alpha males or are you all about the beta?
You can find out more about Carol at her blog here: http://authorczampa.blogspot.com/
And if you'd like to purchase Candy G after reading that wonderful excerpt, it can be purchased directly from Dreamspinner press here:http://www.dreamspinnerpress.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=2204
The Blurb:
What kind of man drives a bulletproof Mercedes and carries a high-powered pistol in the glove compartment along with his boyhood teddy bear? Candy G does, that's who. Once the exclusive attorney for the most powerful drug lord in San Antonio, he turned his back on Teirso Flores and walked away. But at what price?
Moving on with his life despite the threat of Teirso's revenge, Candy meets gorgeous, streetwise Carlos Alvarez, and thus begins a passionate love affair rife with danger, secrets, and specters from the past that just won't let go. When truths are revealed, will the one thing that brought their worlds together be the test that strengthens their love or the knife that severs their bond forever?
Thanks for reading!
Heroes may not be braver than anyone else. They're just braver five minutes longer. ---- Ronald Reagan
The other day, during a discussion on alpha males, a good friend chided me—quite good-naturedly—and said I was a 'true beta lover'. Why? Because I simply love a man who has that trace of something in him that lets him cry, lets him be in touch with—and, damn, does this ever sound cliché—his sensitive side. I was going to say 'his feminine' side, but who says crying was strictly a girl thing? Bushwa to that.
Busted. She's right. I accept my crown graciously and wear it with pride.
But, wait. The truth of the matter is, I decided to research alpha and beta males.
After studying, I will admit my perception of what constitutes an alpha male was pretty much off target. For some reason, I believed alphas had to be perfect in every way—strength, confidence, looks, charm, the whole checklist of qualities to make him…well, a hero. Turns out, like I said, I was slightly wrong. The distinction between alphas and betas is really nothing more than a matter of leadership, a take-charge, protector persona as opposed to a more secondary male role.
The role a beta male was, however, more clearly defined. And it was as follows: An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk and confrontation. Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma and confidence of the Alpha male.
Aha! Turns out, according to that description, I may have to relinquish my Queen of the Beta Lovers crown because that does NOT personify the male characters I love.
Here's the question, then, if the above is truly a portrait of a beta male. Who the hell IS the character I love? So he cries, sure. But he does not avoid risk or confrontation, he certainly does not lack physical presence, and most assuredly DOES have charisma and confidence.
So. Is he an alpha or not? I don't know. You tell me.
In my novella, Candy G, my hero is physically and courageously about as macho as macho can be. He carries all the alpha trademarks: good looks, good body, charisma, power. But, alas, he is sentimental, he is emotional. He cries. He's jealous where his lover is concerned. He plays La Paloma while making love. His boyhood teddy bear shares the glove compartment with his glock.
Here's a snippet of a scene where the hero's lover, Carlos, worries over being the care-taker of this man's heart:
"That's just it." Carlos slunk back in the chair, wrapping his arms around himself. "That heart of his. This man, this powerful man, so fucking fearless." A tiny chuckle. "Sorry for the language."
She nodded gravely, absolving his stronger-than-usual cursing.
He continued, "And yet nobody would guess what a delicate heart he has." Sitting forward, he cupped his hands. "And he's put that heart, that beautiful, fragile heart in my hands. My hands." He twined his fingers together and pressed them to his mouth. "It scares me fucking shitless." Her disapproving glare stabbed him, and he added, "Sorry."
Tapping a finger to her lips, Aunt Dahlia closed her eyes, clearly weighing her words. Finally, she squared her shoulders. "You are right that Candelario is a strong man. He is. And you are right that he has a tender heart. The community knows this, he is loved.
But, I'm not talking about his kindness to the community. I'm talking about his love for me. That's—"
"Do not interrupt me." She pursed her lips, and her hand shot up. "His gentle heart and his power are separate. So far, the two have never fought in his soul, but they will if you throw his heart back at him, damaged." Drawing a finger over the stitches on the mitt, she added, "He has put his heart for safekeeping in your hands. So, rather than falter under the responsibility, should you not stand as strong as he does? He will give his life to protect what he loves. Can you not at least protect his heart while he protects you?"
So there. I think my hero is no less an alpha for having a fragile heart.
Although many writers and readers feel that an alpha male indeed CAN be vulnerable, can cry and that, in fact, they love them more when they DO exhibit these tendencies, others argue that it emasculates them to some degree, strips them of the alpha status. Many see this in the case of real-life relationships as well. Let a man cry at something, and he is out the door on his bum faster than you can say Jack Be Nimble.
Does crying, being easily affected by emotion, make a man less masculine? Personally, I don't think so. If anything, I think it makes him more masculine, simply for the fact that he is strong enough, confident enough to not feel the need to hide behind a macho persona.
Jose Saramago said this: I never appreciated 'positive heroes' in literature. They are almost always clichés, copies of copies, until the model is exhausted. I prefer perplexity, doubt, uncertainty, not just because it provides a more 'productive' literary raw material, but because that is the way we humans really are.
Interesting!
An example who comes to my mind is King David. Powerful leader of Jerusalem, fearless leader of legions in his army. Wise. Yet one of the most romantic, poetic souls in history. The Psalms contain some of the most agonizing, tearful, poignant prose ever written. Yet his constant inner angst personified the beauty of his character without negating his power.
I think I shall not choose to categorize my heroes into alpha, beta, or any other Greek alphabet. They just are who they are. How about if I just call them the heroes of the story?
But for those who might feel there should be that distinction—alpha as opposed to beta— what is your opinion? Does a hero lose critical points for being sensitive and possibly vulnerable? As long as these softer sides of his persona do not thwart his ability to take control, can he still be an alpha male?
Once again I'd like to thank Carol for taking the time to appear on my blog, and for the very interesting subject matter she chose to discuss. What is your opinion? Just what makes an alpha, an alpha? And do you prefer to read about alpha males or are you all about the beta?
You can find out more about Carol at her blog here: http://authorczampa.blogspot.com/
And if you'd like to purchase Candy G after reading that wonderful excerpt, it can be purchased directly from Dreamspinner press here:http://www.dreamspinnerpress.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=2204
The Blurb: What kind of man drives a bulletproof Mercedes and carries a high-powered pistol in the glove compartment along with his boyhood teddy bear? Candy G does, that's who. Once the exclusive attorney for the most powerful drug lord in San Antonio, he turned his back on Teirso Flores and walked away. But at what price?
Moving on with his life despite the threat of Teirso's revenge, Candy meets gorgeous, streetwise Carlos Alvarez, and thus begins a passionate love affair rife with danger, secrets, and specters from the past that just won't let go. When truths are revealed, will the one thing that brought their worlds together be the test that strengthens their love or the knife that severs their bond forever?
Thanks for reading!
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