Forgiveness: What It Is and What It Isn’t

“Here you go again…”

“Maybe if you didn’t always…”

“Let’s not forget it was you who…”

These are scripts of unforgiveness that inflamed many an otherwise common argument in my marriage.  The phrases were hot coals left smoldering from past unforgiveness. While small statements, they packed such heat that when thrust into an argument the fire invariably burned and wounded the relationship far more than the initial argument warranted.

There have been times Mark and I have hurt each other deeply...