Life Lesson Learned

This & That: Credit Edition 3 Allowance Mistakes to Avoid (Part 1)

Life Lesson Learned

Some lessons are harder to learn than others. There are things I've beaten my head against the wall on until I thought it would explode. Inevitably when I'm struggling with something it is because I haven't yet realized that in amongst the trees there is a path. All I need do is find the path.

I have come to believe that when we do that head-bashing thing, it is because there is a life lesson we must learn; we must find the path.

There was the month in which every single plan I laid – in an attempt to balance all the balls I tend to keep in the air – went off-track. The first two times my plans went for crap, I was frustrated… angry even. By the third one, I got it. Yes, I'm a control freak and The Big Lesson was that it didn't matter how well I planned, crap happens. Time to stop freaking out.

So by the time the fourth Change In Direction came along, I was already in a different headspace. I had had my Big Wake-up. I wasn't about to lose my temper or let myself become discombobulated!

And you know what? It feels better. It's a hard lesson, but one well learned.

I have found that some of the hardest lessons to learn are the ones that make the greatest difference in my life. There's a lot of that head bashing, followed by a big "a-ha!" and then the peace that comes from knowing I now know the answer to the question, "What was the lesson?"

Even when I am too busy to listen, the universe talks to me. Sometimes it has to shout to get my attention. Sometimes it must take a hammer to my head.

Perhaps this is one of the reasons why I believe that regret is a waste of emotion. How can you regret the very things that have been sent to teach you some major life lesson? How can you regret growth?

Pushing through the hard cold earth to bloom is tough. When we do get to open our petals to the warmth of the sun, when we become all we can be, we become beautiful. But it takes hard work, persistence and the willingness to push forward.

I consider myself a very lucky woman. It's not because my life has been particularly bless… although it has been with happy children, good friends and wonderful challenges. I think I'm lucky because I learned to ask, "What's the lesson?" And I learned to keep asking until I figured it out, no matter how much my head was hurting.

So, what life lesson did you learn the hard way?