How to Manage Your Siblings While Falling in Love, From A Chaotic Courtship

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Earlier this year, I had the privilege of being a guest blogger on a site called The Silver Petticoat Review. This is what I talked about, which was fun. It’s a bit of a peek into my last book, A Chaotic Courtship.

In A Chaotic Courtship, Diana Forester finds herself with the unenviable task of keeping her siblings from ruining her courtship. Of course they mean well, but everyone knows the proverb about where good intentions can lead a person.

Step One: I went upstairs and collected the gifts I had brought with me. —A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Three

Perhaps bribery is not the most moral route to go, but it can never be wrong to stay on your siblings good sides with gifts from London. Not just any gifts, but ones chosen specifically with their interests in mind. For her sister, Diana brings new music and for her brother, a book on steam engines, items which will surely keep them occupied.

Step Two: “It was almost like you were—flirting.”…..Perhaps if I informed her of the whole situation, she wouldn’t be angry?—A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Four

What could be more awkward than for one of your siblings catch you enjoying time with your suitor, especially when you haven’t acknowledged your own feelings? The best course of action is to be up front about everything. As Diana learns when she confesses to her sister, there may be hurt feelings, but honesty really is the best policy.

Step Three: “Sarah, I’ve never heard you talk so,” I said.—A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Five

This, of course, goes along with step two. Acknowledging the feelings of one’s sibling can only promote a closeness between you. If your sibling chooses not to accept your attempt at peace, wait a bit. A late night heart to heart discussion when your parents are not there to overhear might be in order, as Diana discovers with Sarah.

Step Four: The warning and real question in his voice was clear, even to me: Don’t mess with my sister and Is this man bothering you?“I am perfectly fine, Will.” —A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Six

There will be times when your sibling may be a little overprotective. While this is endearing and sweet, it can put a damper on romance. Assure your sibling immediately that all is well. With any luck, something will distract your sibling and you may continue a pleasant conversation with your suitor. Diana’s younger brother, Will, keeps his eye on the situation, much to Diana’s chagrin.

Step Five: “I will not allow you to blacken Mr. Richfield’s reputation for no reason!”—A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Seven

If your sibling pronounces a wild accusation along with the threat to find proof, it is best to take a firm stand and put your foot down. Who knows what could happen if anyone outside of the family heard? For Diana, this involves discovering ways to separate Sarah from her supporters, such as Will and Sarah’s close friend.

Step Six: “I want you to help me prove Mr. Richfield isn’t the highwayman.”—A Chaotic Courtship, Chapter Sixteen

When all else fails, take it upon yourself to get to the bottom of matters. Diana takes charge by enlisting her siblings to accomplish this task.

Yes, it is not an easy task to keep your siblings at bay while you pursue a courtship, but a young lady with enough determination just might manage it!