Defining What Makes a Sister of the Heart

It’s important to have someone you can turn to in times of great celebration, great tragedy and great…boredom. LOL I have so many amazing friends. I have friends who I can call on if I need help, or want honest feedback. I have friends who hold my secrets and those who can make me laugh no matter what. But, there’s a difference between a good friend and a “Sister of the Heart”. It may seem subtle when we talk about it, but it’s important in ways hard to describe sometimes.

A Sister of the Heart is someone you have absolute trust in. You have unconditional love for each other. You can count on them regardless of time or distance or issue. They carry your secrets as their own. They are honest, even if it’s tough, but always in a supportive way.

I have several Sisters of the Heart that I know, without a doubt, I could call at 3AM and say “I need you” and their answer will always be “I’m on my way.”

And though I can’t write about every single one of these amazing women, I wanted to share something about some of those very dear women. And I want to invite you to tell me about one of your own sisters of the heart, or several if you are blessed to have many. I want to hear your stories, because in a way, it binds us all together.

Anita has been part of my family since I was a teen. She was my parents’ chosen child that they took in and loved as their own. And we all loved her. Anita is one of those people who is so easy to talk to. You feel like you can say anything without judgement from her. That she cares about what you say and how you feel. She’s fun and you just want to be around her.

Kathie is one of the sweetest, most gentle people I’ve ever known. She has so much compassion for people and animals. We tease her sometimes, good-naturedly, that she doesn’t even know HOW to be mean! LOL We’re pretty sure she’s never been mean in her entire life.

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(With Cheryl)

Cheryl is brilliant and funny. A great combination to have in a friend! I love discussing books with her. She can make me laugh, that fully-belly-laugh that leaves you begging her to stop because you’ve laughed so hard it hurts. She is loyal. And for that I am truly grateful.

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(With Sheila and Kathie)

Sheila is most like me. We could sit and talk or laugh for hours. Or we could sit quietly and still enjoy each other’s company. She is always there for me no matter what.

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(With Brenda and Kelley)

Kelley, Brenda and Kris are extremely special to me and I’m thankful they’re in my life. Their loyalty and love bolsters me. Just one phone call or message and no matter what is happening in their lives they will be there for me.

And perhaps, in the end, that’s the common thread to all of my Sisters of the Heart, those mentioned, those not. I can put my trust in that they will always be there for me, no matter what happens in my life. I trust them with my heart, and they know they can trust me with theirs.

In celebration of the release of Bound Together, the final book in the Sisters of the Heart series, I invite you to be part of this blog. Part of this story I just shared with you. Tell me about your own Sister of the Heart and why they are so special to you.
Bound Together (Sea Haven/Sisters of the Heart, #6) by Christine Feehan
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Published on March 27, 2017 09:23 Tags: best-friends, bound-together, christine-feehan, sea-haven, sister-of-the-heart, sisters
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message 1: by Janice (new)

Janice Sadly, I've never had a "Sister of the Heart". I've never had any close...non-family... friends. I think my interests were always different, than the girls my age. Never even had a real boyfriend, but at least I have many of my family, and my books.


message 2: by Joyce (new)

Joyce My Sister of the Heart is my best friend Cindy. We met when we were nurses aides at the tender age of 17 & 18. We instantly bonded. We've been through marriages, child birth, divorces, worked together several times. She was my Matron of Honor when I married my best friend and 12 years later was standing by my side as he earned his Angel wings almost 2 years ago. I know my quality of life would not be near as bright without her!!


message 3: by Christine (new)

Christine Janice wrote: "Sadly, I've never had a "Sister of the Heart". I've never had any close...non-family... friends. I think my interests were always different, than the girls my age. Never even had a real boyfriend, ..."

It's never too late to find that friend. But, family is such a treasure and really all you need is someone to turn to and someone you can trust.


message 4: by Christine (new)

Christine Joyce wrote: "My Sister of the Heart is my best friend Cindy. We met when we were nurses aides at the tender age of 17 & 18. We instantly bonded. We've been through marriages, child birth, divorces, worked toget..."

Cindy sounds amazing! A true Sister of the Heart for sure! Those long standing friends are not always easy to find, so we treasure them when we're blessed with one!


message 5: by Janice (new)

Janice Thank you so much. Even though I'm pretty much an introvert, I always try to keep reaching out to people. Never know, I just might still find my lifemate. Have a great day.


message 6: by Kelley (new)

Kelley I found this amazing author and though I had never reached out to one before I found myself emailing this one. Her stories touched something inside of me and I had to share that with her. Years have passed since I sent that first email and found a woman who not only let me into her heart but also shared her family with me too. Along the way we were blessed with a core group of sisters that I could not survive without. Thank you Chris for being an amazing sister of my heart and surrounding us with such loving good hearted souls that keep us grounded and laughing. Not sure what I would have done without you all these past 20 years!


message 7: by Melody (new)

Melody Williams Sadly, I lost my Sister of the Heart. We truly were twin daughters of different mothers. But, even though she is gone, she remains with me not only in my heart, but in my dreams too! When ever anything really good or bad happens with me, I dream of her that night, and we just sit together and talk about it.


message 8: by Zoey (new)

Zoey My Sister of the Heart is my old boss Priscilla. She was the first boss I had at what I consider my first adult job. We bonded right away and 20 years later, we are still just as close. she was there for me during my mom's and brother's illnesses and all my work craziness and I was there for her divorce and her work and family craziness. And while we don't see each other regularly, when we do, time and distance disappears and we pick up right where we were. I can't imagine my life without her and her humor and her support. I have a couple of others, but she is the main one for me. Sadly we didn't work together but the first 6 years of my career, but I have told her often (and mean it!) that I would work for her digging ditches, if that is what she asked me to do. She is definitely family found not born.


message 9: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Jansen My "Sister" Mary, is in some ways so much like me it can be scary, and yet we enjoy our differences. We constantly harass each other (good naturedly, of course) and laugh it up. But I know that in a pinch she will be there for me, and has been by my side through some of the toughest moments in the last few years. I really don't know what I would do without her.


message 10: by Amanda (new)

Amanda Brewer-Vermillion I've known my "Sister" for 23 years. We've lived through so much together, happiness and tragedy. We are nothing a like but I think that is what makes us work. She is a tomboy, down home country, likes to hunt, fish, all that stuff. I on the other hand am more girly, still down home country but without the hunting and fishing. Yet, some how the differences work for us. She has three kids and they all call me Aunt. I could not and do not want to imagine what my life would be like without her. She has definitely made my world a brighter place to be in and I love the time we get to spend together it makes life a lot easier to cope with when times are hard and a lot easier to laugh in when times are good. :)


message 11: by Polly (new)

Polly Wilson My sister of the heart is my friend Kim. She and I taught together for one year where our friendship began. Kim didn't return for a second year, but she became my cheerleader, confidant, and sister.
When my relationship with my soon to be ex fell apart, she supported my decision. Her husband spent an entire day packing up my home and transporting everything. Later, they welcomed me into their home and has even taken care of me when I was recovering from surgery. We visit at least once a month and chat daily. Love my Sis.


message 12: by Betty (last edited Mar 27, 2017 05:29PM) (new)

Betty I met my sister of the heart at the middle school bus stop when we were fourteen. We're now 64, so that's 50 years of friendship. When I went through an awful divorce, she drove from Atlanta to Richmond to hold my hand, bring me pots and pans, and give me hugs. When she had her hysterectomy I took a week's vacation & moved in to help her. We've been through 5 husbands total and 3 children. We've also been through so many good times together I can't count them; we've enjoyed concerts, movies, trips, family events, etc. We've made it a point to spend the last 20 Christmases together, and my son doesn't think it's Christmas unless we're together. I love my friend, Rosemary, and wish each of you could know her as I do.


message 13: by [deleted user] (last edited Mar 27, 2017 06:21PM) (new)

I've been lucky enough to find mine. We've been friends for 30 years now, and we met by reading at the same restaurant everyday for lunch. We've been there for each other through cancer, divorces and everything in between. I'd be lost without her


message 14: by Tee (new)

Tee Worrall The day I received Bound Together. I stayed up all night reading it. I loved it I couldn't put it down.


message 15: by Sue (new)

Sue I have been truly blessed to find a few sisters of the heart. There's my bf from high school, who still gets the first call for anything good or bad. One of the best days of my life was when I realized that I now lived "only" 3 hours from her instead of across the country. My girls, my crew, the ones I hang out with, the ones I cry with and celebrate with. When my MIL passed, they came and cleaned my house! EVEN MY FRIDGE! Who does that? Sisters do that. And then there's the DebDeb. She considers herself my kids other grandmother. We've shared so many family meals and quiet evenings on the porch. And not so quiet evenings on the porch I love them all.


message 16: by Wealie (last edited Mar 29, 2017 07:20PM) (new)

Wealie I met my 'Sister of my heart' Lisa when I was 30. She turned up wanting to learn Salsa dancing with her dead beat boyfriend. She ditched the BF and we bonded instantly over bad relationships, being strong willed and independent women, our love of all things dancing, an addiction to sexy shoes, having fun in fancy dress and general cheeky exhibitionism. I helped her plot getting her husband to realise she wanted him at one of my fancy dress parties and last August was her witness for their Wedding in Venice.

No matter the time or distance she's always there for me.


message 17: by Isatu (new)

Isatu I met my sister of the heart over 15yrs ago at high school. There was a time when I had no confidence in me, Jillo was the one who reminded me of the kind of person I am. She taught me to be patient with the flaws in others. OH WAIT!!!!! is she still trying to teach me......?. I know I will not have been the wonderful and understanding friend people claim I am if she hadn't been in my life. when I told my husband that JILLO will walk through fire to get to me on the other end when i need her.... she did not disappoint me when they finally me. now he thinks she's got wings (my guardian angel) and can walk on water. Literally!!


message 18: by Christine (new)

Christine Kelley wrote: "I found this amazing author and though I had never reached out to one before I found myself emailing this one. Her stories touched something inside of me and I had to share that with her. Years hav..."

I love that we have all stayed in touch and that we share some of the same "sisters"!


message 19: by Christine (new)

Christine Melody wrote: "Sadly, I lost my Sister of the Heart. We truly were twin daughters of different mothers. But, even though she is gone, she remains with me not only in my heart, but in my dreams too! When ever anyt..."

I'm so sorry for your loss.
A true Sister of the Heart never leaves you. I love that she visits you in your dreams.


message 20: by Christine (new)

Christine Joan wrote: "My Sister of the Heart is my old boss Priscilla. She was the first boss I had at what I consider my first adult job. We bonded right away and 20 years later, we are still just as close. she was the..."

The sisters like that, who've been with us so long that time and distance disappear, are true blessings. She sounds very special, Joan.


message 21: by Christine (new)

Christine Lisa wrote: "My "Sister" Mary, is in some ways so much like me it can be scary, and yet we enjoy our differences. We constantly harass each other (good naturedly, of course) and laugh it up. But I know that in ..."

Mary sounds fun! You can always tell a close friend by how much kidding you can do with each other. lol


message 22: by Christine (new)

Christine Amanda wrote: "I've known my "Sister" for 23 years. We've lived through so much together, happiness and tragedy. We are nothing a like but I think that is what makes us work. She is a tomboy, down home country, l..."

She sounds amazing! THIS is a true "sister". There for you in good and bad times. Alike enough to understand each other, and different enough to keep things always interesting!


message 23: by Christine (new)

Christine Malinda wrote: "I've had my Sister of the Heart, Rosalee, since Kindergarten (46 years and counting). Even though we are 3,000 miles apart, we speak to each other on the phone almost every day. When we do get toge..."

Nearly 50 years! Oh! I hope you have a reunion for your 50th! I love this!


message 24: by Christine (new)

Christine Polly wrote: "My sister of the heart is my friend Kim. She and I taught together for one year where our friendship began. Kim didn't return for a second year, but she became my cheerleader, confidant, and sister..."

Okay, you have to send Kim a hug for me, she sounds like such an amazing sister! I love that she is so supportive and I love that she and her husband even helped you pack and helped take care of you. Such a lovely friend!


message 25: by Christine (new)

Christine Betty wrote: "I met my sister of the heart at the middle school bus stop when we were fourteen. We're now 64, so that's 50 years of friendship. When I went through an awful divorce, she drove from Atlanta to Ric..."

Wow! I love this post so much. 50 years is a long time to hold ANY kind of relationship so I am in awe of you both and it does my heart good to know there's that kind of friendship in the world. Thank you for sharing this with me!


message 26: by Christine (new)

Christine Jill wrote: "I've been lucky enough to find mine. We've been friends for 30 years now, and we met by reading at the same restaurant everyday for lunch. We've been there for each other through cancer, divorces a..."

Wow! What are the chances you'd meet like that? Must have been fate! She sounds amazing!


message 27: by Christine (new)

Christine Tee wrote: "The day I received Bound Together. I stayed up all night reading it. I loved it I couldn't put it down."
So happy you enjoyed it!


message 28: by Christine (new)

Christine Sue wrote: "I have been truly blessed to find a few sisters of the heart. There's my bf from high school, who still gets the first call for anything good or bad. One of the best days of my life was when I real..."

It's just so nice to have someone like that in your life, right? It makes the brightest day even brighter and the darkest times more tolerable. You are truly blessed!


message 29: by Christine (new)

Christine Ruth (Wealie) wrote: "I met my 'Sister of my heart' Lisa when I was 30. She turned up wanting to learn Salsa dancing with her dead beat boyfriend. She ditched the BF and we bonded instantly over bad relationships, being..."

You have to love a friend who'll have adventures with you! Good times or bad, Lisa sounds like a true "sister"!


message 30: by Christine (new)

Christine Isatu wrote: "I met my sister of the heart over 15yrs ago at high school. There was a time when I had no confidence in me, Jillo was the one who reminded me of the kind of person I am. She taught me to be patien..."

Jillo sounds amazing! There's something special about a friend who helps you see the good in yourself.


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