Feeling alone – how to get out of a slump…

Recently I had a friend of mine send me a message.

She told me she felt all alone and I knew what she was saying. I remember very distinctly the time that I realized I was also alone in this world.

I was sitting on the floor in my best friend's bed room. I was 19 years old. She had given me a choice. Were we going to go to Cape Cod and see the sunrise or not.

The circumstances leading up to that question were anything but normal, and sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing by replying yes, but I didn't want to reject her. I knew she was fragile as was I. (More about this in my memoir, Bad Girl Gone Mom.)

That was the day I realized I was all alone in this world. She and I had been really close or so I thought, but she had crossed a boundary, and broken a trust. I still loved her but was hurt by her actions. Life is complicated and simple decisions can become complex when friendship, and sometimes even a person's life was at stake.

The reality is we are all alone in this world. Each of us has to make our own decisions, our own liaisons, and have our own experiences.

The choices we make today lead us to develop relationships that make us fulfilled today and tomorrow, if we so choose.

It is important when feeling alone to choose a path that you are passionate about. Find ways to meet other like minded people whether it is chat rooms, publications, live events, social functions, or seminars.

Donate your time or participate in an activity that uses one of your skills. There are always people who need help. Contact your town, your school, the hospital, church, visiting nurse's association for some ideas.

The point is that when you are feeling alone, you tend to isolate even more. You sometimes have to consciously break this pattern by finding a way to give something of yourself to someone else. Seek not to be understood but to understand. In that, you will find connectivity, and connectivity will replace the feelings of being alone.