Video: Start Conversations with Confidence

“How do you get the confidence to go up to someone in real life?” – Jaime 

In today’s video, I answer this question from Jamie in Florida. 

The bottom line is that we all want to create meaningful connections with others. Human connection and being seen by another person is a fundamental human experience.

Most of us also have a deep rooted fear of rejection.

I remember how insecure I felt when I arrived to this country, because I had such a thick accent. The worst was starting a conversation, or talking over the phone. Then I noticed that one of my teachers was turning what seemed like a liability into an asset. He too had an accent — maybe ever more pronounced than mine. I learned to leverage my point of difference, and highlighted my accent, instead of trying to hide it. Instead of fearing ridicule, I realized it invited a natural entry into conversation. 

When dating and seeking connections with others, we can hide behind screens and profiles. Step outside of your comfort zone, and try to connect with someone in real life. 

I want to hear from you, how are you connecting with people in real life? 

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