The Top 10 Boundaries Blog Posts of 2016

As we approach 2017, it’s time to take a look back at the most popular blog posts of 2016. There’s something here for everyone, such as posts about marriage, dating, family life, children, and more.

So sit back, grab a warm cup of hot chocolate, and enjoy reading the best of the best of 2016.

10. Why Church can be a Dangerous Place (Dr. Henry Cloud). The church is not a totally safe place, and it does not consist of only safe people. As much as we would like for it to be totally safe, the truth is that the church has to be seen the way God describes it.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/safe-people/where-are-the-safe-people

9. Boundaries and Biblical Submission (Dr. John Townsend). Whenever I (Dr. Townsend) talk about a wife setting boundaries in marriage, someone asks about the biblical idea of submission. What follows is not a full treatise on submission, but some general issues you should keep in mind.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries-in-marriage/setting-boundaries-marital-submission

8. Are You Carrying Someone Else’s Knapsack? (Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend). Everyone has responsibilities that only he or she can carry. These things are our own particular “load” that we need to take daily responsibility for and work out. No one can do certain things for us. We have to take ownership of certain aspects of life that are our own “load.”

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries/burden-boulder

7. The Best Boundaries Words for Kids (Dr. Henry Cloud). I (Dr. Cloud) can still remember what happened that day when I was eight years old. I made a big mistake, but I didn’t know it at the moment. I thought I was getting back at my sister, who was sixteen at the time. Opportunities for revenge were few and far between, and I was not about to let this one slip by.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries-with-kids/best-boundary-words-for-kids

6. How to Determine the Right Consequences When Setting Boundaries (Dr. John Townsend). Not long ago I (Dr. Townsend) took my kids and some of their friends to a major league baseball game for an outing. While we were watching the game, a young boy sitting behind us was making everyone miserable. He was out of control, loud, and rude.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries-with-teens/set-consequences-and-boundaries

5. Is Complying Out of Fear the Same as Lying? (Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend). Many Christians fear that setting and keeping limits signals rebellion or disobedience. In religious circles you’ll often hear statements such as, “Your unwillingness to go along with our program shows an unresponsive heart.” Because of this myth, countless individuals remain trapped in endless activities of no genuine spiritual and emotional value.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries/complying-lying

4. The Best Boundary that You Can Have in Your Dating Life (Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend). Romance is great. Sexuality is great. Attraction is great. But here is the key: If all of those are not built upon lasting friendship and respect for the person’s character, something is wrong.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries-in-dating/boundaries-secret-sizzling-relationship

3. How to Forgive When It’s Hard to Forget (Dr. Henry Cloud). People have been hurt, and they do one of two things. Either they confront the other person about something that has happened, the other person says he’s sorry, and they forgive, open themselves up again, and blindly trust. Or, in fear of opening themselves up again, they avoid the conversation altogether and hold onto the hurt, fearing that forgiveness will make them vulnerable once again. How do you resolve this dilemma?

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/boundaries/how-to-forgive-hard-to-forget

2. Why Unhealed People Attract Unhealthy Relationships (Dr. John Townsend). Unhealed relational wounds drive us to compulsive attempts to repair the damage. That is, without being aware of it, we seek out people we believe can “fix” what’s wrong with us or help us find a piece of ourselves we feel is missing. We function emotionally like the starving man who looks in a dumpster and sees lunch instead of garbage. His perception is so driven by his need that he is willing to eat something that might make him sick.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/beyond-boundaries/unhealed-people-attract-unhealthy-relationships

1. Why Smart People Accept Unacceptable Relationships (Dr. John Townsend). When smart people accept unacceptable relationships, they tend to see traits and abilities in others that they think will make life better for them. We see positive aspects of a person’s psyche that we are drawn to or feel we need. A longing for them dulls an awareness of that person’s darker side.

Continue Reading: http://www.boundariesbooks.com/beyond-boundaries/smart-people-accept-unacceptable-behavior

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