Digging Your Marriage Out of The Hole of Selfishness

Let’s start with the anger that most every woman feels in the early years of marriage. He’s not spending enough time with you. He never does anything special for you. He’s not picking up his stuff or doing the chores you’ve asked him to help with a thousand times.

It’s not fair.

What about all the housework and bill paying and laundry you’re doing? Should you just stop doing all of it, because he doesn’t seem to appreciate your constant labor on his behalf?

You try, “Can we talk?” He listens but doesn’t hear you.

Nothing changes.

You ask to talk again. Again. Again. Again. He makes some promises in the moment, but you don’t see any change down the road.

Here’s what I have to say to you: This is normal.

Marriage is Refining

Do you know what marriage does? It refines you and your husband in a hot fire. In the refining process, all the impurities (dross) come to the top and are removed by the refiner.

The first nasty layer of dross is selfishness.

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