Red flags of dating violence!
My post on signs of an abuser in today's https://lovesgreatreadsblog.wordpress...
Girl on the Brink
is the story of an abusive relationship. Abusers tend to follow a set pattern of behaviors, and when you’re familiar with what they are, they are recognizable. In my novel, the main character Chloe experiences all the following in her relationship with Kieran.
Key Signs You Are Dating an Abuser
Rushed relationship.He presses for an exclusive commitment almost immediately. He claims to have never loved anyone like this before.
Jealousy. He’s jealous of any guy you even speak to and says his jealousy shows how much he loves you. He’s possessive, calling constantly, dropping in out of the blue, and gives you little room to yourself.
Controlling. He checks up on you, interrogates you about where you went and who you were with, monitors your email and phone. He wants you to ask him permission to do anything.
Unrealistic expectations.He puts you on a pedestal, expecting you to be perfect and fulfill his every need, and will tear you off the pedestal when you aren’t perfect.
Isolation. He tries to cut you off from family and friends.
Blaming.He faults others for his own mistakes and makes others responsible for his feelings: “You make me mad,” not “I’m mad.”
Hypersensitive. He’s thin-skinned, taking minor slights as major insults and blowing them up into more than they’re worth.
Verbal abuse. He criticizes you, calls you names, embarrasses you, uses your vulnerabilities against you.
Mood swings. He goes from normal to ragingalmost instantly.
Minimizes. He minimizes the harm he’s done to you: “You’re making a big deal out of that?” He promises to never do it again or get help. He goes on a charm offensive with gifts after an abusive incident.
If you think you may be in an abusive relationship, get help. Call the National Teen Dating Violence Hotline at 866-331-9474 or text loveis to 225522.
Girl on the Brink
is the story of an abusive relationship. Abusers tend to follow a set pattern of behaviors, and when you’re familiar with what they are, they are recognizable. In my novel, the main character Chloe experiences all the following in her relationship with Kieran.Key Signs You Are Dating an Abuser
Rushed relationship.He presses for an exclusive commitment almost immediately. He claims to have never loved anyone like this before.
Jealousy. He’s jealous of any guy you even speak to and says his jealousy shows how much he loves you. He’s possessive, calling constantly, dropping in out of the blue, and gives you little room to yourself.
Controlling. He checks up on you, interrogates you about where you went and who you were with, monitors your email and phone. He wants you to ask him permission to do anything.
Unrealistic expectations.He puts you on a pedestal, expecting you to be perfect and fulfill his every need, and will tear you off the pedestal when you aren’t perfect.
Isolation. He tries to cut you off from family and friends.
Blaming.He faults others for his own mistakes and makes others responsible for his feelings: “You make me mad,” not “I’m mad.”
Hypersensitive. He’s thin-skinned, taking minor slights as major insults and blowing them up into more than they’re worth.
Verbal abuse. He criticizes you, calls you names, embarrasses you, uses your vulnerabilities against you.
Mood swings. He goes from normal to ragingalmost instantly.
Minimizes. He minimizes the harm he’s done to you: “You’re making a big deal out of that?” He promises to never do it again or get help. He goes on a charm offensive with gifts after an abusive incident.
If you think you may be in an abusive relationship, get help. Call the National Teen Dating Violence Hotline at 866-331-9474 or text loveis to 225522.
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