What Men Don’t Talk About Enough

Sometimes I worry about the guys. Men are every bit as human as we women are, but it feels like they get to open up about it less.

My husband Craig tells me that ninety percent of his conversations with other men are about weather, news, and sports.

I know this isn’t true for all guys.

But it feels true for many.

And I think it’s really dangerous to be part of a culture that insists you hide your vulnerable self all the time. I don’t think this hiding is good for men or their people or the world. Somebody’s gotta set the guys free.

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And I think a lot of people agree, because often when I’m out speaking, someone will raise her hand and say, “Hey, Glennon, where’s the truth-telling and hope-spreading revolution for the guys? My husband needs it.”

That happens all the time.

And that is why I cried my way through reading Scary Close. When I finished this book, I was in a little bit of shock and so I left it on Craig’s side of the bed with a sticky note that said, “Is this book as freaking good as I think it is?”

And THE NEXT DAY, Craig walked into my office teary-eyed and said, “Yeah. It’s that freaking good.”

He’s not a huge reader, but he finished Scary Close in one day, and he’s on his third reading now.

So, anyway.

Just wanted you to know that some help is on the way. I’m really, really grateful for my friend Donald Miller and all the amazing people at Storyline. Craig is grateful, too.

Also, I just really like saying, “my friend, Donald Miller.” How you doin’ Donald Miller, old buddy, old pal? I hope my friend Donald Miller is having a good day today.

K, I’m done.

Well almost. I wanted to leave you with this quote from Craig when I asked what he loved about Scary Close:

I don’t know. I’m still soaking it in. But I think what Don just convinced me of is that all these thoughts I’ve been thinking, all these feelings I’ve had my whole life, all these fears I’ve been keeping to myself… they’re okay. They’re normal. I’m not nuts. Or maybe it just means that Don and I are both nuts. But I’ll take that. I’ll take it. I’m just so glad I’m not the only one. After I finished reading Scary Close, I just felt relief. Relief is the right word.

And if you haven’t read the book yet, you can get it here.