In Defense of Jess Mapplethorpe

Let me spin a little tale for the Jess-haters (there's a lot!) out there, a contextual allegory. I do it to maybe inspire some compassion for this poor woman...

You're a dude. Your wife comes to you and says, quite embarrassedly, that she would enjoy watching you make love to another woman. You reject it, doesn't feel right to you. She persists and eventually it feels like it might become a reality. You get close a few times but you feel too guilty to commit. You enjoy turning your wife on say...