#RelationshipGoals-To Those Who Post Their Relationship Details Online by Sade Andria Zabala(Author Of War Songs and Coffee & Cigarettes
Let me just say it outright – the more a couple
posts online about their relationship, the
higher the chance that relationship will
eventually fail.
My theory is not going to be true in all cases.
7 billion people in the world and there is
bound to be some head-over-heels lovers who
enjoy detailing their adventures on social
media. However on average, or at least with
the friends I have on my Facebook, couples
who have a tendency to spam us with their
selfies, sweet dates, and declarations of
passion are actually hinting at their
insecurity over their relationship.
No, this is not Donald Trump yelling, ”Social
media is bad! The Chinese invented the
internet to destroy America!” In fact, I am a
selfie advocate. Your eyebrow game on-
point? Immortalize it in a selfie. Your man
treated you to a cozy dinner for two? Show
your appreciation online! Got engaged? Share
your happiness with a proposal video.
But there comes a point where we gotta say
stop.
Raise your hand if you know of that one
couple, that one friend who posts about
everything .: The girl who throws shade and
makes a Facebook status every time she gets
pissed at her boyfriend. The guy who posts a
photo of him and his girlfriend when he fucks
up and has to offer a long-ass apology in the
caption. And, my favorite, the couple who
literally makes the entirety of Facebook (or
other social media) their chatroom.
While we may be tempted to make every
detail of our lives up for public consumption,
kids, I can not stress this enough – do not air
your dirty laundry online. Yes, we see you
and your beau fighting on your not-so-subtle
status update. Yes, we read your conversation
in the comments section of your best friends’
photo wherein your comments have nothing
to do with your best friend or what they
posted, and are more similar to the script of
The Notebook.
No, we do not need to see ten selfies of you
and your partner doing some mundane thing
every. other. freaking. day. And I definitely
do not need to frequently see you sucking
each other’s face. You might think you’re
allowing the world to see how deliriously
#blessed #relationshipgoals you both are, but
trust me when I say you and your
relationship needs to grow up.
It’s cool to show-off sometimes. We all have
bragging rights, especially when we’re
enjoying a fantastic time with our amazing
partner. But save some of those selfies and
videos on your phone or laptop so you have
photos of your lover no one else can see. Save
some of those ’I love you’s’ to say during
random, quiet moments in the day. Save the
fights for a heart-to-heart conversation
where you can both learn and grow from
each other. Save some of those emotional,
tear-jerking posts to write in a classic love
letter (and if your partner DOES write you
letters, you don’t always need to take a photo
captioning exactly what they wrote).
Would you fully appreciate reading a novel if
you knew the juiciest details of the plot? The
identity of the murderer? Don’t you get super
pissed when someone spoils your favorite TV
show?
This logic also goes for couples who engage in
excessive online posting, or what I’d like to
call F-LSS – Facebook Love Story Syndrome.
Your love story doesn’t need to be told in
explicit detail, especially its negative sides, in
order to be fully appreciated. Unless you’re
Kardashians earning big bucks over the
drama you make, it does your relationship no
good for us to know whenever you’re doing
bad or great, even if the great part includes a
grand gesture with 50 balloons and
chocolates after you’ve made-up-or-break-up
for the second time this month.
The over-publication of romantic affairs
borders on toxic behavior. Your relationship
is not a joke and it should not be a source of
entertainment for the people in your Friends
List, unless you let it.
Learn to balance pride and privacy.
Otherwise, your audience will be waiting
with their bowl of popcorns ready.
