beyonceprivilege:mousefactors:dynastylnoire:Hey everyone....

beyonceprivilege:

mousefactors:

dynastylnoire:

Hey everyone. If you or someone you know are in a relationship where there is pressure to not use birth control or condoms here is some information about that can help.

Coercive reproduction is when someone puts pressure, threatens violence, acts in way that makes you feel afraid, calls you names, and or with holds resources or tempers with birth control or refuses to wear condoms.

It’s not okay for any one to make decisions for you and your body. Healthy, loving relationships don’t hurt and they definitely don’t make you make decisions out of fear.

Holy fuck… toxic heterosexuality at its best.

“if your partner is abusive, just get a UTI!” 

fuck fuck fuc fuck. 

GET A-OUT OF A-THERE ASAP!!!!

no. he will not change. it is not your fault. it is not better for the kids you already have to stay. nobody will judge you. Save yourself. Call the police. this is illegal in most countries.

I’m reblogging this from you directly because I want you to read this since I truly believe that you want what’s best for women in these situations but, coming from someone who grew up in a house with DV and who volunteers at a domestic violence shelter, what you’re saying right now is victim blaming. 

This pamphlet is offering an alternative birth control that is not easily tampered with for women who are unable to escape an abusive relationship. Which is, frankly, most women in an abusive relationship. 

Victims of domestic violence have heard this before. “GET A-OUT OF A-THERE ASAP!!!!” is such useless advice. I know you have good intentions but did you also know that chances of being murdered increase 75% when the victim tries to leave her abuser? Did you know that on average a woman will try to leave her batterer seven times before she can successfully leave for good? Or that abusers oftentimes ensure that their victim is completely financially dependent on them so they can’t escape? Then that they isolate their victims from their friends and families so means of escape become even more difficult?

Did you know that abusers intentionally tamper with a woman’s birth control in order to ensure that they have a child together because they know that that will give them another pawn to manipulate? That they can threaten to call CPS on the mother if she tries to leave? Or talks to her family? Or calls the police? That abusers are more likely to seek custody of their children than non-abusive parents and that they’re granted that custody 70% of the time? Not because they love the child, of course, but because they want to continue to torment their victim for daring to leave them. 

Did you also know that cops are twice as likely to be batterers than the general population?

If you really want to help a victim of DV you can do so by volunteering or donating to you local shelter. You can also actively try to change the narrative so people are no longer uselessly blaming victims for being in their situation.