Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even If They Say They Don’t)

Your ex will tell you a lot of things after the breakup, but you
can’t really believe everything they say. Heck, you can’t even trust
their action. Overanalyzing your ex’s behavior will drive you crazy. And
in reality, analyzing their behavior is not going to help you get your
ex back or move on.

For example,

They will like your status on Facebook and then Unfriend you.

They will text you when they are drunk but won’t pick up your calls the next day.

They will be sitting at your favorite coffee shop but won’t come and say hi to you.

They will start dating someone else but will get angry when they find out you started dating someone else.

The truth is your ex is hurt and probably confused about their
feelings for you. Luckily, there are a few signs that will tell you
whether or not your ex still loves you. But first let me make it clear
that these signs do not mean that your ex wants to get back together. In
fact, since you and your ex were in a meaningful relationship, I am
sure that they still like you (or maybe even love you) and they still
have strong feelings for you. But this does not mean that they want to
get back together. If they want to get back together, they will show
completely different signs.



Even though these signs don’t mean they want to get back together,
there are still something you can do when you see these signs that will
increase your chances of getting back together. You can find it in the
“What you should do?” section under each sign.


Sneaky Sign No. 1: Emotions
Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is. If an ex shows any
type of negative emotions for you (including anger and hatred), it’s
because they are hurt. It’s because they had expectations that you
didn’t meet. It’s because they are an emotional mess because of you.





But the truth is, they are only hurt because they love you. You broke
their expectations because they have expectations from you. And the
reason they are an emotional mess is because they still have feelings
for you.

Think about it, why would someone spend so much time and energy into
hating you or being angry at you? They broke up with you. Wouldn’t it be
easier to just forget about you and move on? The reason they say they
have these negative emotions you is because they still have feelings for
you. They just don’t want those feelings to be there, so they are
confusing those feelings to be hatred or anger.


What You Should Do?
Give them time and space. Just stop contact with them and let all the
negative emotions subside. There is literally nothing you can say to
them that will turn their negative emotions into positive ones. But if
you say nothing to them, time will eventually kill all the hatred and
anger inside them and they will start remembering the good of the
relationship. Time is the only thing that can make their hatred and
anger go away. And when it does go away, they will realize that they are
still in love with you.


Sneaky Sign No. 2: They Are Being Competitive
Is your ex trying to make you jealous? Do they post pictures on
facebook specifically to push your buttons? Are they going out of their
way so that you know that they are dating someone new? Do they become
extra flirtatious with other people when you are around? Then
congratulations, your ex is probably still in love with you (aside from
being a little immature).What your ex is trying to do is win the post breakup competition. Not
only is it a pretty immature way of dealing with the breakup, it’s also
a very ineffective way. The fact that they are doing this means that
you are on their mind most of the time. And the fact that you are still
on their mind means that they are still in love with you.


What You Should Do?
Let them play their game while you actually try to improve your life. Do the three things that you must do during the no contact rule.
Do the things you enjoy and start going out on dates. If they are being
competitive, they are probably watching everything you do. Seeing you
actually improving in your life is going to make them second guess their
decision to breakup.


Sneaky Sign No. 3: Push/Pull Behavior
If your ex is cold one minute and hot the other, then you can be sure
they have feelings for you. They will pull away and won’t talk to you
for weeks, and then suddenly push to spend time with you. They will
ignore your calls and then start calling you everyday. They will stop
responding to your texts and then start texting you randomly.

This behavior simply means that they are confused about their
feelings for you. Their heart is still in love with you but they are
trying to convince themselves that they should stay broken up. They miss
you and want to spend time with you, but they are stopping themselves
because they think you are not good for them.


What You Should Do?
Be cool. Stay calm and don’t let their irrational behavior get to
you. If you respond to their unstable behavior, you are showing a sign
of neediness. Whatever happens, don’t ever ask them “Why you didn’t
reply to my text?” or “Why you didn’t pick up my call?”

If they become cold, you become cold. Simple as that. Don’t reward their cold behavior by paying them more attention.


Sneaky Sign No. 4: Drunken Dialing
If your ex calls you when they are intoxicated, then it’s an obvious
sign that they still have feelings for you. However, you should be very
careful about what you say to them when they call you or text you drunk.
It could be that they confess their love to you when they are drunk and
they become completely cold the next day.


What You Should Do?
Any drunken calls from your ex should be received with caution. Do
not talk about YOUR feelings when they are drunk. It doesn’t matter how
much they ask you “If you still love them”, you should not reply. Just a
simple “You are drunk and I don’t want to talk about it right now”
should do the trick.

Do not confess your love to them when they are drunk. It will only
make them realize the next day that you are still not over them and that
they still have you third point of this article to understand why they shouldn’t feel like they still have you).


Sneaky Sign No. 5: Contacting You During The No Contact Rule
If you’ve read the 5 step plan, I recommend you start no contact with
your ex after the breakup. This is perhaps the most effective way to
win your ex back for good. During this no contact period if your ex
contacts you, then you can be sure that they are thinking about you and
they still have feelings for you.


What You Should Do?
Don’t pick up the phone. Talking to them is going to defeat the
purpose of no contact. You need to prove to yourself that you can
survive without your ex for at least 30 days. It’s hard but in the end,
you will realize it was worth it. Also, when you don’t pick up their
phone, they are going to start wondering whether or not you have moved
on. They will start realizing that you are not a needy person and that
you are not available for them whenever they need you. Trust me, you are
going to become more attractive in their mind by not answering them.