But you don't LOOK gay…

Reference: "Really? You don't look gay!"

Compliment or insult? That's what we're going to talk about today – and since I tend to be a pessimist, I'm going to choose INSULT. If someone says to me that I don't look gay, my first thought is that they must have a very negative impression of "gay" and that I don't fit into their negative perception.

Yes, that means it's technically a compliment, but I'd rather focus on their negative use of the term rather than me rising to some new level. And besides,