Forgiveness Takes Time

Sometimes I wish I were one of those quick to forgive people. How when I feel dishonored, disrespected, or disavowed, or otherwise holding onto memories of someone's mistreatment of me, I can just go "I forgive you" and all of the hurt and ill will just vanishes. It's like we feel this tacit pressure from other Christians. They hear our struggles with the pain of our situations—the anger, the hurt, the sheer pain of it—and confuse that with not being able to forgive. Almost as if we aren't fo