Creflo Dollar: How to choose the right mate (Part 3)

Today we are looking at more steps that will help lead you into a successful dating relationship. Here are the next questions that I would like for you to consider: 

Does This Person Trust God or Fall  into Unbelief Regularly?

When adversity does show up, do you see him or her standing on the Word with a positive attitude, quoting the Word, believing God, and remaining motivated? Or do you see this individual depressed, speaking negatively, murmuring, and complaining? Notice what is going on in the midst of a situation. You should want a mate whose trust and confidence are in God and His Word, regardless of the circumstances.

Has This Person Ever Displayed Anger?

You do not need to walk down the aisle with anyone you have not seen angry. Don’t think for a moment your love interest does not get angry. Think about it. Haven’t you been angry before? We all get angry. Do you know the two people in the Bible who got angry the most? God and Jesus! The anger of the Lord was kindled many times. Jesus was in the temple and got angry at the money changers. He turned over tables and started whipping people. Be realistic about it. If God and Jesus got angry, do you think you will marry a man or woman who does not ever get angry? You need to know how this person expresses anger.

Have You Seen This Individual Angry with You?

What is this person like when angry with you? If your future husband or wife gets angry, loses control, and mentally or physically abuses you, that should be a big red flag.

Does This Person Resolve Conflict in a Biblical Way?

This is part of the previous question. When there was a conflict between the two of you, how was it handled? Was it handled in a biblical manner, by seeking wisdom from the Word? Were you in agreement on how it was handled? Was it resolved peacefully, or did the two of you simply ignore or fail to deal with it? The manner in which you handle conflict now is an indication as to how you will handle it in your marriage.

Does This Person Ask for Forgiveness?

I think it is terrible when couples have disagreements and one or both of them never ask for forgiveness or deal with the issues at all. Instead, they just choose to pick up and move on as if the incident never took place. How can a conflict be resolved when it is ignored? Consider whether this person acknowledges when he or she is wrong. Also, is he or she willing to forgive?

Ladies, Does He Have a Way to Provide for You?

The first time I asked my wife to marry me, she said no. I said, “I can’t believe you said no.” Taffi said, “Baby, we came to the park in your mama’s station wagon. You are living with your mama and working part time. You can’t take care of us yet, but when you get a good job and stability, my answer will definitely be yes.” At first it was a hard pill for me to swallow, but I eventually

understood where she was coming from. As a man, it is my responsibility to support my wife and household. Ladies, let a man be a man by allowing him to own up to his responsibilities. If he cannot financially support a household, he is not ready to be a husband. Love and support him enough to give him time to be a good provider and a stable head of the household.

I hope that these practical steps have helped you gain some insight that will help propel you into a successful dating relationship and eventually find that special someone that God has for your life.

-Dr. Creflo Dollar

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