Anger is not always a choice, but actions are.

I recently learned something new about myself. Every time I feel angry, I immediately feel ashamed. Then, I feel even angrier. Not only am I angry about what originally made me angry, I am also angry about being angry.

Hmmm....that's food for thought, is it not?

Ideally, I believe I shouldn't get angry because I should have control over my emotions. I realize now that emotions will come and go, and I won't always be able to control that. So, it's time to concentrate on what I can control.

Feeling angry is okay. How I act when I'm angry is completely within my control. I have the right to my feelings and emotions. I just don't have the right to act like a jerk when I'm feeling them. I can choose to act the right way even though I feel horrible.

Still, I guess I just wish I never got angry. According to Proverbs 20:3, "Avoiding a fight is mark of honor." But, oh man is that hard when I'm mad. My first response is to want to fight.

From now on , I vow to let myself feel anger, but to concentrate on how I act when I do...