"I live my life between reality and fantasy..."
This was an awesome quote I heard from Lady Gaga on Ellen that I've decided to adopt as my own personal mantra. I'm not going to lie – I took a lot of flack (all good natured of course) for taking a day off to watch the Royal Wedding.
Words like… "pathetic" and "no life" were used with great frequency. Again no one was intending to be mean spirited but it did make me think a little. I mean I really really loved watching that wedding.
The sad truth is if I could - I would live my life reading books, watching movies and television. Now I'm not a total recluse. I have a fairly active life. I've traveled a lot and enjoyed everyplace I've visited. But if someone said to me you can never leave your home again – as long as I had access to books I would be okay with that. If someone said you can travel the world extensively but you can never read or write again – I would be devastated beyond anything I could imagine.
This is probably not great. I would love maybe a little more balance in my life. My mother would REALLY love for me to have more balance. (Interpret balance as husband, children, white picket fence etc). But I realize that part of my content with my single-no-kids life is the fact that it gives me more time to read.
And truly any real relationship I've had has always fallen flat in comparison to a really good romance novel. Real relationships are complicated and messy and tricky and up and down. Blind dates are typically boring and awkward and 99% are total busts.
A good book has romantic tension and instant chemistry and great sex. It gives me all of the complications of a relationship but ties it up in a nice ribbon at the end to my total satisfaction.
Now some might think I need therapy and please know that much of what I'm saying is tongue in cheek. Of course I know that a real relationship is better than a good book. (Except let me remind everyone you never have to pick up dirty socks from a good book. A good book doesn't NOT unload the dishwasher… just saying.)
However, I can own up to the idea that I do live my life between reality and fantasy. I need both sides. In fact since my writing has been next to nil these last few months I find myself agitated like never before. Like I'm being pulled too far into reality and it's chafing me. I need to go back to fantasyland.
So am I crazy or could this be the truth for all writers? That to truly produce a story (in any format) they have to spend at least part of their life in fantasyland.
Words like… "pathetic" and "no life" were used with great frequency. Again no one was intending to be mean spirited but it did make me think a little. I mean I really really loved watching that wedding.
The sad truth is if I could - I would live my life reading books, watching movies and television. Now I'm not a total recluse. I have a fairly active life. I've traveled a lot and enjoyed everyplace I've visited. But if someone said to me you can never leave your home again – as long as I had access to books I would be okay with that. If someone said you can travel the world extensively but you can never read or write again – I would be devastated beyond anything I could imagine.
This is probably not great. I would love maybe a little more balance in my life. My mother would REALLY love for me to have more balance. (Interpret balance as husband, children, white picket fence etc). But I realize that part of my content with my single-no-kids life is the fact that it gives me more time to read.
And truly any real relationship I've had has always fallen flat in comparison to a really good romance novel. Real relationships are complicated and messy and tricky and up and down. Blind dates are typically boring and awkward and 99% are total busts.
A good book has romantic tension and instant chemistry and great sex. It gives me all of the complications of a relationship but ties it up in a nice ribbon at the end to my total satisfaction.
Now some might think I need therapy and please know that much of what I'm saying is tongue in cheek. Of course I know that a real relationship is better than a good book. (Except let me remind everyone you never have to pick up dirty socks from a good book. A good book doesn't NOT unload the dishwasher… just saying.)
However, I can own up to the idea that I do live my life between reality and fantasy. I need both sides. In fact since my writing has been next to nil these last few months I find myself agitated like never before. Like I'm being pulled too far into reality and it's chafing me. I need to go back to fantasyland.
So am I crazy or could this be the truth for all writers? That to truly produce a story (in any format) they have to spend at least part of their life in fantasyland.
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