When Your Relationship Falls Apart While Building a Lifestyle Business

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You don’t plan on it happening, but life doesn’t always work out as planned. You simply want to build something for the person you love, but situations get in the way of your plans. You try hard to make the best out of a bad situation, but nothing that you do fixes the situation.

The distance is hard. The time away is hard. It feels like everything is all going wrong at the same time. You want to make things better, but you feel your relationship slipping away from you. Before you know it, you’re having the “talk.” The relationship is over.

You feel conflicting emotions. You are happy that your business is doing well, but you are sad that you lost the person you love in the process. You tried everything you could, but you can’t get them back. You try to reason beyond reason, but some things can’t be reasoned. What you do next determines how the rest of your year—and possibly your life—will go.

You have to make smart decisions—not only for your life—but also for your business. You have to look past what you feel and do what’s right for the situation. You have to think rationally even though everything inside of you is screaming. You have to find a way to pick yourself up when all you want to do is hide underneath the covers.

This is the situation I currently find myself in. Despite all my plans, things have not gone as planned at all. Every day I wake up and feel a wide range of emotions. I’m also dealing with attacks from all kinds of people because of half-truths that have been spread about me. I’m not writing theories here. I’m writing from real life experience.

Reaching Out for Support

I was in a funk for two months. I didn’t think about business. I didn’t want to take care of myself. All I wanted to do was listen to music whole hiding under the covers. It wasn’t until my best friend, Chaka, came to Colombia to visit me that I woke up. Seeing him and talking to him did something for me. It helped me see past my situation and see what I was doing.

During those two months, I did a lot of damage. I lost some customers. I lost some opportunities for speaking and consulting at a few new companies. I lost some friends. It was not a good time. That support from my best friends was my lifeblood. When you’re going through it, you want to handle things all by yourself. You want to hide and try to forget what you’re going through. You can’t do this alone. Don’t try to do this alone. Reach out for support because it’s one of the smart things you can do.

Don’t Neglect your Money  

One of the biggest mistakes I made was letting my business go. I worked so hard for five years to build my dream business and I let it all slip because of how I felt. My income decreased and I’m not sure if I can get it back. Money is not everything, but you do need it to survive. You can’t neglect what needs to be done because of your feelings.

As hard as it is, you have to find a way to work and earn during this difficult situation. You have to find a way to serve those who you want to help despite everything inside of your screaming. Be honest with those you’re blessed to help. You don’t have to give them all the intimate details of what’s happening, but you can let them know something is going on. You would be surprised at the level of support you’ll get. I’ve been blown away by the people who have reached out to me and offered support.

It’s hard, but you can overcome what you are feeling. You can keep your focus where it needs to be so that you don’t lose everything you’ve worked so hard to build—it’s important. I know what you’re going through and so do others. Don’t try to do this all alone. Don’t try to be stronger than you have to be.

Have you dealt with a relationship falling apart?

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