Why We Stay…

[image error]I wrote of this once. In fiction. It was easier to speak in third person, hiding behind the characters I created. "When he choked her to near unconsciousness", I could protect myself with that invisible wall.

But it's time. To speak out. To use my name in telling my story. For myself. For others. Because I have the words to speak of it when so many others don't. And then the question inevitably arises…

Why do women stay in abusive marriages? This is what most people think, if they don't ask it outright. Hell, I STILL ask this question, as I have yet to come up with an adequate answer for myself.

The short answer is I don't know. But it's not why you think. How do I know? Because I stayed for almost 10 years. And it wasn't for any reason that most people imagined.

After all, why does a dying frog stay in a boiling pot of water? Because it takes time for the heat to be a true threat.

By then it's too late.

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