Slack from Hunger
We faced a setback in Costa Rica when one of our volunteers fell from the scaffolding and dislocated his arm. Jim couldn't leave the job site so it was up to me to drive the man to wherever he could receive medical care. We were in yet another tin-can of a truck—not as pretty as Donald's but it had wheels that rolled and an engine that ran reliably enough. Unfortunately it had no shock absorbers to speak of so each time we hit a bump in the rutty, dirt roads, Jenks moaned as pain ripped through his arm. Barney had sworn he knew the way to the nearest emergency room so I let him take the lead from the tiny back seat, but he steered me wrong to the point that we became terribly lost. Even with my limited Spanish, I knew the words for emergency room but he insisted on speaking with the people when we slowed down to ask for directions and, given that he'd drank three or four pints of Guaro—and it was only noon—his thick tongue couldn't wrap itself around emergencia. I finally lost patience and yelled the words when the fifth person stared at him like he was speaking in Swahili.
With the man's help, we finally found our way to Guapiles, which had a well-appointed clinic—by Costa Rican standards—that served the workers of the town's banana processing plant (to use the word loosely). I sat with Barney as the clinicians examined Jenks, who winced as they tried to pull histee shirt up over his uninjured arm. When they attempted to lift it over his head, disturbing his busted arm, he yelled, "Cut the damn thing off!" Even after his outburst, they were so frugal they were reluctant to damage the cement-stained shirt. Jenks grabbed the scissors from a nurse and clipped the bottom edge, holding the gashed fabric up to her. She grabbed it from him and finally ripped it from his body. The next insult awaiting him was at the end of a trek to the facility's interior courtyard, where they splashed the construction muck from his upper body with rainwater from the roof that had collected in a barrel.
I could tell by the grimace on his ashen face that he was feeling beset, understandable given that the level of medical care he was accustomed to receiving was so superior to this, and it must have made him feel all the more uncomfortable in his weakened state of mind that conditions were so unsanitary by our standards. Needless to say, he was over it by the time he'd been given a sedative and had a cast covering most of his arm. The episode really shook me up and I couldn't sleep that night for reliving the nightmare of seeing his twisted body on the rock-strewn dirt, not knowing until he stirred if he was dead or alive.
The next day, Barney had a grand time telling Jim his rendition of our road trip. The inevitable disclaimer—"I don't know the word in Spanish" was followed by, "I've been here so long, I've forgotten my English!"— peppering his repertoire to the point that it was comical. He was a small man—all of about 5'5"—with a protruding stomach that pillowed above the sagging waistband of the same pair of baggy jeans he always wore. The frayed pants were perpetually sliding down what was left of his naturally narrow hips and butt, which had become gaunt from years of inactivity. The only way he managed to keep them up was a continual cinching of a ratty leather belt threaded through the two existing loops on the waistband. The action was repeated so often it was as if he had a tick of sorts or was participating in a bizarre modern dance sequence during which his hand reached for the belt and flung the end of it in the air at waist level. He'd snap his arm straight and then lower it to his side exactly the same way each time, as if the dance's end required the formality of an Olympic dismount.
He claimed that his body was ravaged not by alcohol but by the "action" he saw in Vietnam, which was unlikely. I knew this because once when he was particularly intoxicated he had admitted to me that his supply ship had never been anywhere near warfare and that he'd been a cook, not a soldier. His face was rugged and pocked with sores, and I'd never seen him when he was clean. His head was covered in a furry pate of hair, which wasn't long but was never perfectly shaven. His mouth was drawn in from missing teeth—frozen in a sort of perpetual circle—which meant his words came out in mumbles even before they were slurred from drinking.
His eyes were large and hooded, and he would stand with his hands on his thin hips, staring off with his lids closing slowly as if he were dropping into a trance. After a few seconds of swaying, he would jerk back to reality and immediately begin to prattle on about nothing even if someone else had the floor. At first I thought he just talked to hear himself speak but I later realized it must have been the only thing keeping him awake.
He had a filthy mouth and was indignant about almost everything, including race relations. He'd been born in Birmingham and had been in Alabama his entire life until he had "sailed off to war." The small jungle village he had decided to claim as his new home allowed him to stay backwards by the sheer fact that he could barely communicate with anyone. It was clear that he stayed because he knew he would be left to his own devises as he drank, ranting and raving his way through his waning years.
The environment supported his hostility by fostering the old prejudices because no one there cared what he thought about the ancient state of affairs in a faraway country. Though he was so insultingly verbose, I tried to look beneath his diatribes and I found that he wasn't a cut-and-dried hater. One of the clues was his relationship with his dog Girl because he cared for as well as anyone I'd ever seen nurture a pet. He was always talking to her as she limped along beside him, wagging her chewed-up tail at the sound of her name.
Another way I recognized heart in him was through his adoration of Jim. He called him Mr. Jim and would go to the ends of the earth and back for him. He was continually asking him questions about things and I watched one day as he queried why we were using the catheads we'd brought from the states on the ends of the protruding rebar. As Jim explained, his gaze followed his pointing finger to the top row of blocks and it was as if he was receiving the equivalent of the ten commandments, so great was the look of hero worship in his eyes. He followed along as closely as his Guaro-addled brain would allow, scratching his head as his puckered lips to mouth some of Jim's words a few beats behind. "Well, I'll be," he said when Jim paused to see if he understood what he'd said. "Did you hear that, Girl? We got fancy stuff here in our little town thanks to Mr. Jim, don't we?"
I'd seen Jim bring this out in people before but it was exaggerated in Barney, who seemed to have a desperate need to believe in something, and Jim seemed to be that "something" in spades. I think he loved his dog so much because she gave him unconditional love, and I suspected he'd never had anything close to that, which had left him starved for it. The only thing that made sense regarding his oversized Jim adoration was that he saw in him the kind of man he'd longed to be but had given up on when he had sunk into an alcoholic fog. He wasn't so unlike that beaten-down dog that roamed the Pocoran streets—skin and bones and hungry eyes, all gone slack from hunger—though Barney's starvation was emotional rather than physical.
I heard M Scott Peck's words echoing in my head: "We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be lived." I'd not understood this when I'd treated the sick dog's condition as a problem to be solved rather than letting the mystery of life play itself out at the animal's expense. Why did this have to be so hard? I wondered. At what point had the mystery gone out of Barney's life, and how in the world could I get mine back?
I certainly didn't want to end up carrying around as much pain as Barney did but it sure felt as if that's where I was heading if I couldn't get a handle on myself. "Problems do not go away," Peck wrote. "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers."
Could it really be that I was experiencing some of the most splendid moments of my life? What a strange concept that seemed given the confusion that reigned inside my head and my heart! I was riddled with unhappiness and was lugging a heavy load of grief from feeling so unfulfilled. The idea that, in hindsight, this discomfort would shine a light on my finest hours seemed far-fetched and foreign to me.
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