I don’t know about big reference books. The only big reference ‘bible’ thing I ever got was when I was working on Superman in Action Comics, and it was mostly a huge stack of copies of various key stories with some notes in there. It was helpful.
There was never a hard and fast limit on powers, and inventing new things is always encouraged with new characters. With the icons, you’d have to get it approved. I did once have to get approval for Wonder Woman to survive a nuke, which I thought was perfectly fair.