Belts, floggers and hot biscuits
Today is special for we have with us Nora Blackwell, the author of “Butter My Biscuit.” It’s a collection of torrid hot BDSM short stories. We appreciate her taking the time out of her schedule to answer our questions. Nora has been generous enough to offer a giveaway, a $20 Amazon Gift Card and a surprise gift. The details how to win are further along in the article.
1.There is no doubt the title of your book, “Butter my Biscuit” is cute but also brings a naughty smile to most of us. How did you come up with the title?
Actually, my daughter suggested it. First, I am about as southern a girl as you can get. Second, I had originally chosen a different title that had to do with starting a Model T (because you crank start it), but after reading the stories to help with editing (YES, my daughter read my book) and also having trouble finding a suitable cover to go with the title, she suggested this title as an alternate, based on a story in the book, and it stuck.
2.In reading the stories, there is strong BDSM overtones. You are a sweet Alabama girl, where or when did the BDSM interest start?
OH. Well, I was a very young newlywed and one night during a moment of intimacy, my husband swatted me. It wasn’t hard, or even painful, but I was shocked. He’d never hit me in ANY way before that, but then it turned into something else and I figured out that it had excited me. It took years, though, before I figured out there wasn’t something “wrong” with me for liking the fact that he did that – or how to explain to him that I wanted him to do it again. This is one of those things where I have to say thank you for the internet, because I was awake late one night and we’d just gotten our first computer and I stumbled on a whole world I had never known existed. It was sort of all over from there.
3.I also noticed, the men are totally alpha. Strong dominant types. Do I presume you to be 100% Crimson Tide submissive? Better yet, how did you see yourself in those scenes?
In truth, more than one of those stories is based on an actual experience. No, I’m not going to tell you which ones. So, how did I see myself in those scenes? Nearly all of them I could easily see myself in although I might have reacted differently in one or two. Yes, the men are totally alpha. It’s what I’m drawn to, and always have been, I suppose. Even in stories that involve a female dominant, the men are, on the surface, very much alpha males. You’d never know if you saw them in a normal setting that they bow at a woman’s feet and submit. And while my mind does have a very creative dominant streak, I believe I have a submissive heart.
4.One of the stories involved a belt. Belt scenes are so psychological. Where did that emanate from?
That’s probably the hardest one for me to answer. I attribute that to the “little girl” in me that sometimes still needs to be disciplined. I hope when I say that the readers will understand it has nothing to do with age play. I do not engage in age play that even remotely involves pretending to be a child. It’s more like the rebellious young woman needing to be put back in her place. Having the belt used instead of a crop or cane or flogger, for me, makes things more personal, more intimate. In my own mind I can, and have, detracted a part of me from a scene involving a crop or flogger – as if I’m watching instead of participating – if things get harder to bear, but when that belt is licking my back side, there’s no way for me to pull away from that. Whoever is swinging that belt OWNS all of me at that moment. For those familiar with BDSM, they will understand when I say when the belt is involved, I almost instantly drop into “subspace” like someone dropping a stone into water. There’s only one thing that makes me drop faster, and that’s a “need to know” basis. Ha.
5.To follow up on the Belt play, you gave us a taste of some breath play. You don’t see it much in erotica writing, did that happen by accident or was it in your mind day one?
First let me say I hope everyone who purchases the book reads and heeds my warnings about edge play and embarking on things they are unfamiliar with. Breath play is a very dangerous thing if you don’t know what you are doing – probably the most dangerous thing you can do with or to someone else as far as edge play is concerned. NEVER trust someone else with your life. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Trust that little voice in your head, or gut, that starts screaming “Danger”. It knows what it’s talking about! I highly discourage breath play with someone you aren’t deeply intimate with and trust very much. I struggled with whether to even include the story for fear of someone reading it and then doing something irresponsible. But then I began to think about the number of couples out there who are curious about things like this, and something few want to write about in such an intimate setting for fear of “what might happen”. It isn’t a story to be taken lightly, or giving permission for someone to go do something stupid. But it is one more reminder that BDSM and edge play can be done responsibly and safely, and in a loving manner. So I included it as well as my disclaimer, and the links for information, and my warning here. Now, all of that being said, I’m not really sure of the date, but some time ago, once again during an intimate moment with my husband his hand found its way around my neck. Not in a choking sort of way. More like he was holding my head back, but I distinctly remember how my body reacted and I think I pushed myself against his hand. I’m pretty sure I startled him, but then when he realized how turned on I became, then it became interesting. We’ve discussed it. And we are very careful about what we do and what each of us was and was not comfortable with. There are very specific limits to what will never be done. In the proper setting, with safety always in mind, it can be very erotic for some. For me, definitely.
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6.You did throw us a curve on The Flogger story. You portray Will as this quasi sadist but then you showed him in a softer light, a giver. Was that a challenge to show a man is such a light?
Yes it was, and no it wasn’t.
I will freely admit this story is one of the “true story” kind of deals. My husband is neither sadist or Master by many “BDSM community” standards. When I first revealed to him my interest and needs it was tough. But he was willing to explore some things and try new things, and that was important. I think this story was an important one for me to write because so many have this mind set that a Master or Dominant has to be a “hard ass” – that they don’t have these feelings or fears or worries, and it is exactly the opposite.
7.The last story which read more like flash fiction was about a Domme. Will we see more of that in future stories? Meaning Dommes.
It is possible. I enjoyed exploring that side of things and I am just as curious as the rest of you to see where it might lead. Who knows, I might blossom into Mistress Nora before it is over. ~said with a devilish grin~
8.You have another work on the market called, “Educating Karyn. Can you tell us about it?
“Educating Karyn” is actually a chapter from another book that isn’t yet finished. I had actually started that book first, but the story took a different turn than I had originally planned for Karyn. That happens, sometimes. You have a story in your mind, but then a character begins to develop and takes on a different life. Karyn threw me for a loop, and her story isn’t finished yet, but we are getting there.
9.What else are you working on presently?
I am currently working on completing Karyn’s story, from “Educating Karyn” and I’m also working on another story line that is loosely based on a true story. This second line is very different from Karyn’s story and “Butter My Biscuit”.
10.Last question, tell the readers what you like to read? And what genre really flips your trigger?
I’ve been a voracious reader most of my life, and when I got so busy I couldn’t sit down with a book I turned to audio books, and still rely on them a lot while traveling and commuting to that job that pays the bills. I don’t have any one genre that I stick to. I’m all over the place. I am and always have been a sci-fi and fantasy girl, but also love a good historical romance and a really good spy thriller. I’ve read nearly everything both Anne Rice and Laurell K. Hamilton have written. I love the Meredith Gentry stories and prefer them over Anita Blake (but I do like Anita!). Let’s see… LOTR, of course, and the Hobbit were favorites from early in high school. I’ve read the entire “Wheel of Time” series twice (once through audio books). I tried to do one of those lists on FaceBook or one of the social media sites of every book I’ve ever written and the list just became ridiculous! There were enough books listed there to start two libraries! Hm…. Erotica, of course, is a favored one. These days I tend to gravitate toward darker erotica. I love a good mystery and I love being frightened.
We are big fans of dark erotica too. Nora, again thank you for taking the time to visit and share so much of your creative insights.
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