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Quiz: Do You Have a Radical Marriage?

(Excerpted from the book Radical Marriage: Your Relationship as Your Greatest Adventure)

Most couples don’t want an ordinary, boring, routine relationship. They want excitement, fun, closeness, love. We need security, but we also need adventure. Radical Marriage is a paradigm for the next evolution of marriage and new territory for committed relationships

Do you have a Radical Marriage? Take this quiz and see!

____ Our relationship is unique and different from any couple we know.
____ We are abso...

Is Marital Happiness an Inside Job?

Characteristic #8: A Radical Marriage has partners who prioritize each other’s happiness.

With the release of our new book, Radical Marriage, we recently received an interesting question from a reader who poignantly—and rightly—pointed out that “happiness is an inside job,” and wondered how that reconciles with being committed to her partner’s happiness.

First, we must understand that this query is what we call an either/or question, and in our new paradigm, marriage is not an either/or proposi...

Radical Marriage #1 Best Seller on First Day of Release

We are pleased and excited to share that Radical Marriage climbed to #1 Best Seller status in it’s genre on Amazon in the U.S., U.K. and Australia. Check out this amazing book on Amazon here. Screenshots below!

What is a Radical Marriage?

rad.i.cal (adjective): very different from the usual or traditional

Most couples don’t want an ordinary, boring, routine relationship. They want excitement, fun, closeness, love.

When we get married we make vows to be together until death do us part. That’s a long time, and sadly, half of marriages don’t or can’t keep that commitment. We have a dream or vision of how we want our life together to be. We become unhappy if we’re too far off track from that dream. If we don’t believe our dream is p...

Radical Marriage theme song- Love is a Choice

Here’s an inspiring music video of an original love song that will touch your heart and make you want to cuddle with the one you love.

Composed by Ariana Hall, David Steele, and Darlene Steele

Lyrics:

Verse 1:

Love is a choice

That you make when you are

In love with life!

Chorus:

I love,

Yes love,

I love you

I’m afraid

But can you feel my heart?

It’s my choice

And I choose love

Verse 2:

As soon as I knew

As soon as I knew

How to guide us through

The frustration

And all the pain

And back to love…

Chorus:

I love

I lo...

Beyond “Happily Ever After”

What you conceive and believe, you can achieve.

– Napoleon Hill (paraphrased)

If Napoleon Hill is correct, this also means that what you don’t conceive or believe, you can’t achieve.

As relationship coaches our clients want to live “happily ever after” and we help our clients achieve their dreams. This is cool, but there are big limits to the “dream”-

1. You might have a desire (“love”) but not a clear idea or dream or vision for what it looks like, so you’re stuck with “what is“

2. You might have...

Five Promises of a Radical Marriage

My love, you are the love of my life and I’m grateful for each day with you. Our relationship is the most important part of my life and I am committed to being together forever.

Though we are surrounded by cynicism and challenges, I resolve to love you and be with you for the rest of my life. Through our relationship we will nurture each other and make the world a more loving and positive place for ourselves, our family, and everyone we share this planet with.

Five Radical Promises to My Love

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Commitment- The Foundation of a Radical Marriage

by David Steele, Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute

I recently realized that in more than 30 years as a counselor, therapist, and coach, I have never been able to help anyone who wasn’t committed to what they wanted.

Having a strong rescuer/hero complex, for many years I tried for a 100% success rate helping couples save their marriages, individuals find happiness, business owners achieve success, and so on, taking personal responsibility for the outcome. Whenever the desired results di...

Benefits of Committed Relationships

We have a powerful need and desire for coupling that drives us into and out of relationships. The desire for partnership is pervasive and universal, reaching back to the origin of our species, spanning almost every culture and civilization.

85% of us marry at least once. In a recent survey, 94% of young adults stated that finding a “soul mate” was one of their highest goals. The vast majority of us want partnership and are driven into and out of relationships seeking- what? Love? Happiness? Se...

The Most Important Relationship Skill

By David Steele, Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute

The single most important relationship skill is not communication, it’s taking ownership.

Successful relationships require taking ownership of your “experience.”

WHAT IS YOUR “EXPERIENCE?”

Your “experience” is what happens inside your body and your mind in response to events. It is composed of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.

Your experience is involuntary, it just “happens.” It’s neither good or bad or right or wrong. Y...