Alathia Paris Morgan's Blog, page 4

Can you have a career as a mother and a woman? I think you can.

I have come across several people over the years that thought having a career while having a family was horrible. Why couldn’t I stay home and take care of my children? Why would I as a college educated adult not want to use all of my capabilities to find out the best way to change a diaper?

I had been a semi- nanny for several families during high school and loved children, so I was prepared to love and enjoy my babies as our family grew. What I didn’t understand was the answer to the question, why couldn’t I have a career and raise my children too?

I could do both, yet I’ll admit it has been a struggle. There are some days when nothing goes right, you are late to everything or you wind up wearing jeans and a t-shirt to church because that is what is clean and fits. I married a man that has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. OCD is not fun when you have children. They make messes, re-organize things and generally make you wonder where you left your sanity much less put things in the exact place that you left it. He has gotten better about being OCD and I have learned to lean closer to his way of organizing things. Teamwork helps when you want the best for everyone.

We worked it out, swapping shifts for work so that our baby was only at a sitter’s home for a short time. We live in a small town and most daycares were home kept which made it easier to leave my child in someone else’s care. I had always loved working and was given an opportunity to start selling Avon. I already had a job and was finishing college so adding another thing to my plate seemed crazy. We moved to the town where my classes were so my husband could start school as well. Now we were both full- time students and found out that number two was on the way.  This is when my husband asked me, “why I didn’t just sell Avon fulltime?” So I did. I knew that the amount of money that we needed would take a lot of work and most of the time when you start a business it takes up to five years before you start seeing a profit. So I worked around his schedule and found a sitter or daycare that would work with just a few hours a day that were needed.

Baby number two wasn’t terribly difficult and I felt able to juggle until about six months later baby number three was on the way. (Yes, we do know how that happens.) This time not only did I have to keep my business going, but I had two babies and was sick constantly. I was able to maintain my work and were very blessed to find a wonderful in home-sitter who loved my children when I was working and unable to be there for everything. Most would say why not just stay home until they all went to school?

I wasn’t built for that. I love to play with and love my children, but the only time that I was able to have an adult conversation was when I left home to work my business. When they got sick I stayed home or we took turns depending on who had what scheduled. Honestly we were just trying to survive a home with three children under four. They were all clean, fed and loved. While I can’t say that those years were my favorite as some mothers do, I can say that I love my three children. I work so that I can provide for them. They are proud of me and what has been accomplished while they have been growing up.

When I get to go on a trips for my company that I have earned, they do miss me. I love those two or three days when I am able to recharge and relax. Guess what? My children get to enjoy daddy time. They know that I am gone, but they also know that I will be back and sometimes I bring gifts. I come back refreshed and ready to see my children and husband. I have had many times when people thought I was terrible to leave my family for selfish reasons. Heaven forbid that a mother go have fun without her family by her side.

I have given my children the best example of how to become a well rounded woman. I think that I can love them and enjoy what I do for a living while being successful at the same time. Can you say the same?

The Void Unit: Shadows on the Wall Review

I was very privileged to read this book in the early stages and was completely blown away. I had no idea what genre it was until the story started to unfold. Paranormal fiction is very difficult to get right on the first try, but this author definitely pulled it off.

Ethan was a new/rookie cop and answers a call that sends him into a world that most humans only dream about. The story draws you into the emotions of The Void Unit until you are unable to put the book down because you cannot leave the characters in such dangerous situations. As a semi-military unit, they come to trust and rely on each other in the absence of their families.

Ethan was a new/rookie cop and answers a call that sends him into a world that most humans only dream about. The story draws you into the emotions of The Void Unit until you are unable to put the book down because you cannot leave the characters in such dangerous situations. As a semi-military unit, they come to trust and rely on each other in the absence of their families.

Ethan’s sister is not as convinced that he has disappeared without a trace. She convinces the police that they should search for him, but is caught in an underground fight/ bidding arena. Holding out hope that she will be rescued, the story takes some unexpected turns. Those who seemed to be the most trustworthy are hiding behind a mask that the Unit is ready to expose.

Maxwell A. Paris does an amazing job on her debut book. I closed the book, screaming, NOOOOOO….when will the next one be out?

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Also check out her author page at https://www.facebook.com/maxwellaparis

This author is the reason that I got hooked on #NaNoWriMo camps and was able to start my own book in April of this year until I got I published in September.

Enjoy!!! I know I did.

Getting to know me!!

So I am trying this blogging thing. Supposedly it helps to clear the soul out and let you share all of your thoughts on the big world platform. Who knew that we wanted to have people know everything about us?

About me: I have been a closet writer for many years, but didn’t feel that I had the time or opportunity to actually work on a book. I have only been working on my first published story for the past six months, but I have to say that my perspective has changed in the way that I read books now. I became an avid book collector because that was the only way I could find enough books to read by haunting library sales and used book stores. Now, my collection numbers over 6000 books and many want to know if I have read them all…not yet, I still need a little mystery in my life. My tastes vary from YA fiction to paranormal romance to westerns and crime/mystery/suspense thrillers with a little bit of erotica thrown in for fun. I manage to fit in 3-5 books a week in between all the other fun stuff that comes with being a mommy and a business owner. 

I have been happily married for 10 years last month to Hoyt and we have three lovely daughters who keep life from becoming boring.   

Being a mom and wife definitely doesn’t define me, but they are a large part of the woman that I am and what makes me who I am. My family are the ones that teach me the best life lessons in such unexpected ways.

As an Independent Sales Representative for Avon for almost 10 years now, I have enjoyed my customers and team through lots of interesting times, which I will share in later blogs as you get to know me.

I intend for my blog to cover lots of fun topics as I come across stories that will make you laugh and cry. I will bring up things that will make you question where you stand from a unique perspective. I will be reviewing and recommending books that I love or some that might need a little work. Hey, we all have to start somewhere, so here is mine start beginning with this blog.