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The Power of Love

Love has its mysterious ways of being fulfilled. All of us seek fulfillment in some form or other. Some seek it in relationships; others seek it in power, name, fame or making money. But all of us seek fulfillment. Everything else other than love puts you in a ‘wanting mode’ but not in a ‘fulfilling mode’. Love is the only mysterious energy which makes you feel fulfilled. So in the corporate context, can you bring in love?

Do what you love and love what you do. Love your work, love your difficulties, and love the richness of difference between you and your boss. What is wrong with difference? Why should you see it without the energy of love? If you bring this energy to your work front then you don’t need a holiday from work, for work itself becomes a holiday.

Love is experienced in a way that you accept people as they are and motivate them to peak their potential. Love makes one enjoy one’s relationships and work and it builds trust in a relationship. Through that you accept the weakness and faults of the other; be it your boss or spouse and learn to love them as they are.

During the civil war someone approached Lincoln and said, “We have got an enemy, and somehow we should get rid of them. Destroy them”. But Lincoln’s commitment was to make friends of his enemies. Can we learn from Lincoln the power of love? Lincoln responded, “If I turn my enemy into a friend, have I not slain my enemy?” This is the power of love. Lincoln continued his commitment. In your organisation there could be internal enemies but instead of being stressed out, learn to love them, accept them, make friends and transform them. The whole process is love and in the whole process there is fulfillment.

Love gives the power of “direct perception”. In daily or ordinary living, there is no direct perception. Because our perception is through resistance, we resist it through our likes and dislikes. You are rigid with your likes and dislikes and they become your rigid framework. With this background in your corporate world, you can’t see others objectively, for, your rigid likes and dislikes interfere in your perception. You try to safeguard and protect what you want and hence are not free to see the other objectively.

Understanding the other at work or home comes when you see the other as he is. Understanding comes through being aware of “what is”. To know “what is” you should not allow your interpretation, prejudice, conclusion to interfere in your perception. You should see “what is” without condemnation, without giving your personal slants to your perception. You always give personal slants for you are caught up with your own point of view and hence is in “Self love”.

Love is not “self love”. “Self love” is exclusive. Love is always inclusive. When you exclude the other, you are in conflict with the other and hence there would be chaos. When you truly love the other, include the other, you are not in conflict. Team spirit happens in such an inclusive space. The corporate world will be in order if one learns to explore how love can be the basis of one’s work. This should be our real goal. From this backdrop, go ahead in reaching your materialistic targets. Then life is truly fulfilling.

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My Morning Affirmations

How Can You Know Yourself?

Most every self-help courses start with the idea that you must know yourself before you can know what you are going to do and how you will act with others. Even he Bible tells us to “Know thyself.” before you can know God. Even though most people would claim they know who they are, in reality they don’t. People may have a general idea of what they like or want or may even have some sort of direction; but they don’t pursue what really makes them function as they do. Why do you react the way you do? What makes you get angry or happy? Most people can’t begin to answer these questions about themselves.

This is why some people require long term therapy with an analyst to help solve their problems. Psychiatrist can detect the complexities of people much better than the individuals themselves. They realize the layers of entrenched beliefs within the human mind must be approached with caution and restraint.

Common people do not evaluate the physiological side of someone else, because they could not detect abnormal traits without proper training. Even if they tried it would still take a trained professional to make a valid evaluation. Any evaluation of a person would differ from person to person.

Certainly your evaluation of yourself would be strikingly different than any persons’ evaluation of you. You would tend to be harder in your assessment of yourself than someone else. Why? Because you know what your expectations are, and if you are living up to them.Only you would know what you believe in and how you would react to different stimuli. Another person’s evaluation would be based on their own value system and their perception of how it should be structured. We see ourselves and the world from the inside out, others see us from the outside in. They see a projection of us, like an actor in a play. Remember the

saying, “the world is a stage and we are only actors,” well it’s true. You project what you believe to be appropriate for the particular situation. That is why it is called “action” because you become engaged as the actor in the act. Because your actions are determined by your associations and experiences. How past encounters are interpreted will establish precedence for how it affects you in the future. No two individuals will make the same judgments and have the same reactions to a given situation. Just like everyone looks different and sounds different they also see the world from a slightly different angle, color and emotion. For a person to know him/herself is to have self assurance, but then, everyone harbors some fears and doubts that they don’t know about.

You can set down and self-evaluate yourself, but your examination would be bias and would never be true in the eyes of someone else. Their examination of you would always be tainted by their own self serving eccentrics. You can only make a determination of how you are going to accept or reject any particular person or thing, but not why you made the assessment. True assessments come from a mixture of previous determinations. These are accounted as values and morals which are driven by your individual, social, financial, physical, interaction, and religious considerations. These differences are what makes you an

individual. The fact is, you can know what you want but never totally why you want it. The most valuable contribution you can make to yourself is in the quality of your relationships with others. Be truthful, faithful, and diligent in all that you do. Honesty, and forthrightness, comes as a result of your doing the right thing. So, don’t worry who you are but rather concentrate on how you are.

Develop a positive attitude

No one is guaranteed to live life in a rose garden. You are bombarded daily with stressful and negative events that there is no getting around. At times life really stinks but you still have to face the relationships, jobs, financial matters, physical fitness, religion which all pose questions and all present challenges. Each phase of life will present complexities unique to that particular period in your life. How is your inner self contending with all the complexities you face on a daily bases? You will never be completely free from challenges but by knowing yourself you can face adversities with confidence. Each life event can be met with the assurance that you can and will triumph. It is important that in the face of adversity that you are collected and maintain a positive attitude. Anything can be overcome by a person who knows what his/her limits are and with the right attitude. It is attitude, without a doubt, that is the one most important things you possess, and guess what, you are in control of it. It’s up to you how you greet the world and everyone in it. Positive is met with positive, and your positive attitude will reflect a winning personality. Let’s face it, success and failure are the same, only on opposite sides of the rule. It’s the law of cause and effect. If effects are to be changed, the cause must be altered. It’s the law, nothing personal, it’s the same for everyone

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10 Powerful Affirmations for Inner Clarity

To live the life of abundance and to create the life you have been seeking for will manifest once you have inner clarity of your greatest desires. To manifest your greatest desires, you need to create a clear, vivid picture of the desired in your mind, nurture that with love and passion and carry on the with this picture till it is brought into reality, Affirmations for Inner Clarity when practiced daily helps in maintaining the much needed momentum towards attaining your goals, your coveted life. Practice the following affirmations for Inner Clarity with deep love and gratitude in your mind to create your desired world.

Today I awaken to my higher wisdom.
My inner voice guides me in every moment.
I am peaceful, calm and clear.
I always know the right actions to achieve my goals.
When I know where I’m going, getting there is a cinch! T
oday I am completely tuned in to my inner wisdom.
Harmony is always a sign that I am balanced from within.
Thank you for showing me the way to my dreams. I trust my feelings and insights.
I am detached and open to divine guidance.

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10 Powerful Affirmations for Self-Love

Whom do you love the most? This is a baffling question and many would give different views on this. But at the end of the day, it is ‘you’ whom you love the most. Because you are doing everything those makes you happy, including the feelings that comes from loving your parents, spouse, children, near & dear ones and people who touches your life with so many different shades of colors. You are infact in absolute love with yourself.

Affirmations of Self-Love is aimed at giving you the much needed elixir to boost your self esteem, to let you know that you are special. See yourself in the mirror and while you see yourself, with great love say………………………

I am filled with light, love and peace.
I treat myself with kindness and respect.
I don’t have to be perfect;
I just have to be me.
I give myself permission to shine.
I honour the best parts of myself and share them with others.
I’m proud of all I have accomplished.
Today I give myself permission to be greater than my fears.
I love myself no matter what. I am my own best friend and cheerleader.
Thank you for the qualities, traits and talents that make me so unique.

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