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March 3, 2015
Author spotlight – Trillium Miller
Trillium Miller
How did you get started writing BDSM erotica?
I’ve been writing all my life, so that part came naturally! Like many other women, I stumbled on The Story of O and found it turned me on as a fantasy. While it wasn’t a life I wanted to live, it was definitely erotic! Early in this new century, before the world turned totally erotic, I penned a short story for a magazine with a BDSM theme and they bought it. Come to think of it, it was the first fiction story I’d sold!
What’s the most difficult part about writing BDSM erotica?
While writing erotica of any kind, it’s important to remember it’s a story. It needs to have all the elements of any story—character goals and motivation, as well as conflict. The reader needs to see the characters grow and change. Even the sex scenes need to move the story forward and indicate a change in one or more of the characters. When I’m writing something “juicy,” it can be difficult to remember that.
Do you self-publish or traditionally publish?
I sold my first erotic story to the now-defunct Silver Publishing. I was so excited! Then, I learned I should have done my homework. Getting my royalties was worse than pulling teeth. I finally got my rights back and have started re-issuing the titles under my self-publishing press: Lights Out Press. My vanilla titles are primarily published by small presses with a much better character than Silver.
What do you like best about writing erotica?
Um … it turns me on?
What’s the most important thing you’d like people to remember about your writing?
It’s fantasy. Some of my books skirt close to non-consensual acts—although consent is always there in the beginning, as it must be to conform to the conventions of BDSM practice.. This is particularly true of the books set in 1960’s New York City. It was a different time then. Amazingly, spanking a female employee was still accepted practice! In real life, I totally support a woman’s right to equal opportunity and reward on a parity with men. I write male-dominated stories, but they are simply that—stories.
Where can we find your books?
All my books are on Amazon, and a few are on Smashwords which distributes them to other platforms like iTunes and Barnes and Noble.
Author spotlight – Trillium Miller
I’ve been writing all my life, so that part came naturally! Like many other women, I stumbled on The Story of O and found it turned me on as a fantasy.Hi everyone :-) here is my interview with Trillium Miller
How did you get started writing BDSM erotica?
I’ve been writing all my life, so that part came naturally! Like many other women, I stumbled on The Story of O and found it turned me on as a fantasy. While it wasn’t a life I wanted to live, it was definitely erotic! Early in this new century, before the world turned totally erotic, I penned a short story for a magazine with a BDSM theme and they bought it. Come to think of it, it was the first fiction story I’d sold!
What’s the most difficult part about writing BDSM erotica?
While writing erotica of any kind, it’s important to remember it’s a story. It needs to have all the elements of any story—character goals and motivation, as well as conflict. The reader needs to see the characters grow and change. Even the sex scenes need to move the story forward and indicate a change in one or more of the characters. When I’m writing something “juicy,” it can be difficult to remember that.
Do you self-publish or traditionally publish?
I sold my first erotic story to the now-defunct Silver Publishing. I was so excited! Then, I learned I should have done my homework. Getting my royalties was worse than pulling teeth. I finally got my rights back and have started re-issuing the titles under my self-publishing press: Lights Out Press. My vanilla titles are primarily published by small presses with a much better character than Silver.
What do you like best about writing erotica?
Um … it turns me on?
What’s the most important thing you’d like people to remember about your writing?
It’s fantasy. Some of my books skirt close to non-consensual acts—although consent is always there in the beginning, as it must be to conform to the conventions of BDSM practice.. This is particularly true of the books set in 1960’s New York City. It was a different time then. Amazingly, spanking a female employee was still accepted practice! In real life, I totally support a woman’s right to equal opportunity and reward on a parity with men. I write male-dominated stories, but they are simply that—stories.
Where can we find your books?
All my books are on Amazon, and a few are on Smashwords which distributes them to other platforms like iTunes and Barnes and Noble.
February 28, 2015
Review of Fifty Shades of Grey (originally posted February 14th 2015 on Facebook)
Ladies night was movie night for myself and two of my friends. Our movie of choice was the long awaited #FSOG… In the past couple of days there have been positive reviews and negative reviews. Well, everyone, my review of the film will fall into the positive column (to an extent and that’s because of the inaccurate depiction of BDSM/D/s in the movie). The movie starts at an easy and casual pace… and as the movie progresses and the characters begin to develop and we see the many sides to them… Dakota Johnson stands out from the jump. She nailed it as Ana Steele and brought the depth of the character from the pages of the book to the big screen. As for Jamie Dornan bringing Christian Grey to life, I have to say… he did a pretty good job despite the reviews of his performance. I went into this film with a set of expectations, based on reviews I’d read. As a rule, never do that when you’re going to see a movie. Sam Taylor the director had an opportunity to veer away a little from the book and give the audience more, but she didn’t… here’s hoping the second instalment does. The sex scenes were drummed down and could have been a little more exciting, but again there is always the second instalment. Back to the point about BDSM… BDSM was not depicted accurately in the series or in this first film. And there is a danger in that… individuals will see the film adaptation and want to try what was depicted without doing the proper research. This is where I hope people will take the initiative to educate themselves and seek out members in the LS community for guidance and support to name a few. There are a wealth of books out there by renowned BDSM experts and educators (BDSM The Naked Truth written by Dr. Charley Ferrer and Domination and Submission written by Mike Makai to name a few). Over all, the movie did what it was made to do and that was entertain. The ending was right on key with the first book and set the stage for next film in the series.
February 22, 2015
Intimacy
My Master has taught me so much about intimacy. What I thought I knew about intimacy paled in comparison to what he has shown me. There are different levels of intimacy and different ways to show and feel intimacy as well. I thought that the only way to truly show and feel a deep level of intimacy was during lovemaking.
But my Master has shown me and taught me that intimacy is not just felt or shown when making love. It can be when the two of us are sitting on the sofa in our sitting room watching yet another “Tom Cruise” film. That is a level of intimacy, because my Master knows that I am a big fan of Tom and I love his movies.
Intimacy is also felt when we are lying in bed together and he is gently stroking his left hand up and down the right side of my face, and when he is stroking up and down my arms and thighs. It is the non-spoken word, which the intimacy between us deepens. I feel like I can read his mind sometimes.
We can just look at each other and know what the other is thinking and what the other needs. God I find myself questioning how intimacy this deep can even be. My Master tells me, that the reason is because I was made for him and he was in turn made for me.
I love that I can be myself with him and he can be himself with me. When we are making love, I can feel a different level of intimacy. It is so profound and so much deeper when our bodies are connected together as one.
When he touches me, I feel myself going up in flames. He doesn’t even have to say words. Just the look in his eyes tells me everything that I need to know. I know with certainty that when he looks into my eyes he sees the same thing reflected back to him.
The level of intimacy I feel when we are in our love nest, our playroom is amplified to the tenth degree. The unconditional trust I feel when I am with him, is beyond explanation. That amount of adoration and devotion takes our intimacy even higher. I know that without a doubt, he would never hurt me. I feel that intimacy when he touches me.
The way he massages his hands over my body, how he reverently touches me, as if I am a previous gift he will cherish for all time. He is so firm yet gently when we are here. Our time in our playroom is our Sanctuary.
It is more than just the flick of his wrist, when he is about to bring the flogger down upon my body. It is more than being bound to the spanking bench or bound to the Saint Andrew’s cross. It is more than being tied to the bed, open for his scrutiny and his pleasure. The gift of my submission has increased the level of intimacy that I feel for him. My Master, the man I love, who is Dominant over my mind, body and spirit. He control’s every aspect of my pleasure, and in doing so he fulfills me, beyond anything that I could even imagine.
His Dominance over me, giving me what I need, never judging me, is another piece of the puzzle that catapults our intimacy. When I am in need of his guidance, but I cannot find the words to express myself, he is there, patient providing me with the nudge I need. His experience and knowledge at first was intimidating.
But now, I relish in it, because his experience and knowledge has given me the strength I need. I couldn’t imagine my life without him by my side. I truly do not know if I would even have the strength to carry one.
I kneel here now, naked waiting patiently for my Master to enter. My legs are spread apart so that he can have a clear sight to my pussy. My back is straight and my hands are down folded neatly in front of me.
My head is lowered and my eyes are cast down. I take pride in my personal grooming, because I know that he prefers it. So I have no issue with ensuring that my pussy is shaven to his standards and likeness. I have no problem wearing my hair down with a little “flip” because he likes it. God I love this man and serving him, bring me nothing but pleasure.
That’s way I have no issue with using daily exfoliating body gloves when in the shower or in the bath, because he loves how soft my skin is to touch. In the grand scheme of things, all that he likes and enjoys is exactly what I like and enjoy.
I take satisfaction in that, because it shows the level of growth on my part, and the level of intimacy that has grown within our relationship and us. I am pulled from my musings when I hear him on the stairs. And my anticipation is about to hit the roof. Here the outside world has no bearing on us, and it cannot infringe on us.
February 19, 2015
February 17, 2015
Fetish lovers begging for freedom: ‘Fifty Shades of Grey is our Stonewall moment
Check out the following article from the Guardian… excellent writing Kim Wall :-)
January 27, 2015
January 17, 2015
A Question of Consent
I wanted to post my first journalism story for my online workshop. The story is important because it talks about the issue of consent… It’s surprising to see some still cannot clearly differentiate what is consent. The story does not mention BDSM, however, it’s important when speaking in a general discussion on what consent is. The following is the link: http://unews.ca/a-question-of-consent/
Interview with Silk Jones
I wanted to give a shot out to Silk Jones and for the awesome interview I had with her smile emoticon here it is… http://silkjones.com/interview-cara-downey/
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