Jennifer Soldner's Blog, page 3

The Problem with "Good Touch, Bad Touch"

Teaching our children the differences between "good touch" and "bad touch" has been preached about for quite some time as a means of protecting those children from possible sexual abuse. It sounds good and makes a great deal of sense to the parents. Good touch referring to hugs, kisses and gentle brushes meant out of love and bad touch means touching any private areas. Sounds simple and

When Shame Has No Power

I have been thinking a lot lately about the different paths to personal discovery and self-improvement. The continuous stream of emails, comments, reviews and connections from readers keeps me aware of the many different places we each are in life. It is no secret that everyone is in their own place on their own journey, yet I feel as though this notion is pushed far back in our brains rather

I'm a Real Woman, Too

Well, I recently saw the latest article circulating reminding me that I am not "normal." It was a very thorough account of what a normal house with children looks like. The woman is a mother to 3 boys under the age of 5 and she lists all the aspects of her home that are clearly the norm and ensures that anyone who does not fall in that list is lying, trying to guilt other mothers or, my personal

Some INFJs Just Suck

There is one thing that is fairly common among the INFJ boards, forums, blogs and discussions: we all love to discuss that we are a special breed. We are unique, intuitive, compassionate, selfless, filled with love for all things, have tulips growing out of our ears, rabbits and deer frolicking at our feet and rainbows are glowing out of our backsides. Conversations are filled with the

Parenting an Empathic Child: Tips for Recognizing and Coping With an Empathic Child

Recognizing an empathic child can be quite a challenge, especially if you are not an empath yourself. Often times their abilities go overlooked and they are left to cope with overwhelming emotions and a lifetime of feeling broken.

When we as parents are able to recognize the signs that our child may have empathic abilities, we can set them up for a lifetime of wholeness and success,

How to Deschool So You Can Unschool

Unschooling can be a difficult concept to wrap one's mind around, especially if they have not yet "deschooled." Since most people spent their youth traditionally schooled, whether within schools walls or homeschooled with a curriculum, it is hard to comprehend what life without school would be like, let alone attempt to live it. The

5 Reasons Why Introverted Relationships Work

Everyone is familiar with the age-old saying that "opposites attract." There is a certain catchiness to it that lures in those who are looking for relationship advice. But it may not always be true.

When it comes to the introverts and extroverts, a lot of relationship advice pushes the dynamic duo, bringing the introvert out of their

Why Do You Punish Your Child?

Children today have it pretty rough. We ask them to carry loads that most adults could not fathom, from grueling school and homework schedules to perfect attitudes and behavior at all times.

On top of the overwhelming responsibilities, they must carry around fear of punishments for things no adults would ever be punished for. And for

When Your Child Can’t Speak

Signs of Sexual Abuse in Young Children


The idea of anyone bringing harm to a young child is heart-wrenching
for parents everywhere. But the reality is that child molesters do
target younger children, including infants and toddlers. Sometimes the
abuse is ongoing and since the child cannot speak, it continues until
they are older making disclosure more and more rare as, to the

The INFJ Empath Explained

INFJs often struggle with certain aspects of life without ever fully understanding why. Many times they know they are more sensitive than others (I would be shocked to find an INFJ who has not been told to "stop being so sensitive" on more than one occasion), but they may not understand why. This can lead them to look at this sensitivity as a