Jennifer Soldner's Blog

The Empathic Parent

Intense Emotions of Parenting As an empathic parent, it is easy to find yourself drained and struggling with emotional separation day in and day out. Children have very little control over their emotional state and, while some may find their tantrum over receiving the red cup instead of the blue one as tedious and unimportant, the empathic parent feels the genuine level of emotion

Own Your Place

Put yourself first. Seriously. Just do it. You have permission, you have the *right* to put yourself first. Can you imagine a world where everyone put themselves first? I think most conjure up this image of a large mass of individuals stomping over others to get to the top with no regard for anyone else's emotions, wants or needs. We think that if we put ourselves first then we are

The Misunderstood INFJ: Making Real Connections

Does this sound like you? I have been learning all I can about being an INFJ and it is so relieving to know I am not crazy! But as I am learning more about myself, I want to help other people understand me too. Whenever I explain it, it seems like they just don't get it or they shrug me off. They seem to think they know me, but I still

I Define Me

For quite a while, I struggled through life. I was surrounded by abusive people, day in and day out. I was unaware of my empathic abilities. I was hyper-defensive and unnecessarily judgmental. I was angry and I took things personally. After some intense life shifts paired with the realization that I am an empath, I continued to struggle. I was in this middle ground of self-awareness where

On Those Lonely Days

Some days are harder than others. Some days you feel so alone, wishing there was someone you could connect with. Someone who could understand how you are feeling without needing to say a word. Empaths and intuitives view the world differently than others. Not better or worse, just different. On the difficult days, you can feel saddened that your lens is a different color than everyone else's.

Fabricated Protection of the Superego

There are times when I get angry. Times when I am stubborn. Times when I am wrong. There are moments when I am selfish and unkind. There are areas in which I struggle. Things I attempt and fail...miserably. I am never the best and may sometimes even be the worst. What makes these pieces of me even more difficult is when people call me out on them. My first response is to throw up

Push the Bounds of Psychology

Have you read The Empathic INFJ? It is a book I really enjoyed writing as it steps outside of the normal perception of what it means to be an INFJ and takes the reader a little deeper. While being an Empath may not be a popular concept, it was important to me to push the boundaries of what is comfortable in Myers-Briggs terminology in order to help those who perceive the world

Inside Your Head

INFJs can spend a great deal of time deep inside of our heads. Some days it feels like hours go by as we are floating around in our minds, not accomplish much in the physical world. We appear lazy or sluggish. Sometimes we can become very hard on ourselves thinking of all the things we haven't accomplished but feeling overwhelmed because there is just still so much more to think about.

Am I Empathic or Bipolar?

One of the most common questions I receive from readers who have recently discovered that they are an INFJ or empath is how do you know you are an empath and not just struggling from a mental disorder like bipolar disorder? Living in a society that not only does not understand empathic abilities but even goes as far as to dismiss them as

Intuitive Wordview

Some people have a level of intuition which can confuse and even frighten those who do not understand. These people experience life in ways science doesn't yet explain, making every day a battle to understand themselves and to hope others will understand them. Feeling alone and exhausted with seeing the world in a different way, they cope by denying who they really are and just trying to be "