Alis Rowe's Blog, page 18

The work-life balance: how to achieve it

Working or studying full time exhausts me to the point where I am not normally able to do much else during evenings and weekends. I know that a lot of neurotypical people say their work is tiring but I observe that most neurotypical people can still have a ‘life’ during evenings and weekends. This is in comparison to autistic people. I have read so many autistic people’s experiences of work and education and how it completely exhausts them or leads to burnout. ‘Free time’ ends up being ‘recovery time’ and relationships, hobbies and ‘life’ suffer.

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5 ways to be more assertive

Assertiveness means being able to stand up for yourself in situations where you feel uncomfortable or under threat in some way. As a person with ASD, a lot of situations make me feel uncomfortable! I haven’t however always been able to be assertive in order to properly manage the situation. Unfortunately I have suffered being around people I didn’t want to be around, doing activities I didn’t want to do, experiencing little ‘internal’ meltdowns as my stress levels built up and having no way to cope until I got home.

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The steep learning curve

Do you remember the first time you were able to ride your bicycle without stabilisers? Or the first time you could read? Do you remember the feeling inside your stomach of joy and satisfaction? And then what happened thereafter? That skill was mastered and you were able to carry on with it forever.

The process of learning anything technical, to me, looks like the beginning of a mountain to climb. At the start there is a massive, very steep incline, then there is a summit to get over, and then afterwards it flattens out.

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One skill you need for a less overwhelming life

Ever since I learned the skill of being able to prioritise, life for me has become so much less overwhelming. To prioritise means to determine the order for dealing with a series of tasks according to their relative importance. To be a successful prioritiser means executing the tasks in that order.

I realise why a lot of autistic people may have trouble prioritising. The fundamental answer is that prioritising is a skill controlled by executive function, which is an area of difficulty in people who are autistic.

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Motivated salesperson required

We are looking for a motivated salesperson to work for our social enterprise that supports people on the autistic spectrum

This is a very rewarding role as our organisation makes a difference to thousands of lives every day

Key features of the role:

Self employed, commission only
Work remotely
12 month contract with immediate start

Essential skills:

Sales experience necessary
Access to your own contact management system or you have another means of tracking contacts
The ability to learn a bit about autism and a lot about what our social enterprise does
IT skills – Excel, Word, email, social media
Excellent communication skills – written and verbal

Responsibilities:

Selling tickets for our autism training events (public events) for nominated areas
Selling training packages to schools, medical/health, and other organisations (private events) for nominated areas
Selling our Organisation website license

We suggest you do this via as many channels as possible including:

Social media (Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram)
Emails
Calls

Payment:

Public events: You will be paid 10% of total ticket sales for each autism training event once expenses and VAT have been deducted

Example: An event generates £1000 of ticket sales once VAT and venue fees have been deducted. You earn 10% of £1000 = £100

Private events: You will be paid 10% of what the client has been charged once travel expenses and VAT have been deducted

Example: Client pays £485 plus VAT plus travel expenses. You earn 10% of £485 = £48.50

Organisation website license: you will be paid £40 for every license you sell

Staying in touch with us

You will need to be easily contactable via phone and email as we would need to be in touch with you at least a couple of times a week. We would expect to receive an official update from you every week.

Application Process

Application is through submission of your CV to Sam Ramsay, Manager via sam@thegirlwiththecurlyhair.co.uk

Please highlight how you are able to meet the needs of the role.

Deadline for applications: Friday 21 June 2019 at 12.00 noon.

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5 amazing ways to manage deadlines

Deadlines are vital for everything that is important because they facilitate people actually getting things done. Without a deadline, tasks can just get left or forgotten about. I love deadlines and I have them for every single thing that I do, however, if not carefully managed, they can cause me to feel very stressed.

One of the reasons deadlines can make me feel stressed is because my perception of time can be a bit distorted. I often have that feeling of everything needs to be done right now!! It is probably an impairment in executive function that means I have trouble thinking about when things need to be done and how long things are going to take.

Another reason deadlines can make me feel stressed is because I feel I can’t relax until a deadline has been met and a task ticked off. I like that feeling of having an empty diary with nothing in it apart from my own, fun things! Outstanding tasks can stop me from being able to enjoy my own projects and hobbies.

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How to cope with overwhelming thoughts

Some autistic people have a great number of thoughts all the time throughout the day. In fact, they can have so many thoughts that they feel completely consumed by them. I thought I would write an article about the different types of thoughts that a person may have and how they could sort and manage them, and ultimately de-clutter their mind!

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Food crazes and autism

Eating can be another challenge that comes from having autism. One of the challenges that I personally have is having a craze about particular foods. This means that I eat the same thing for a long period of time. The positives of being like this are that 1) I always know what I’m going to eat and 2) it’s easier to manage my money. But there are some drawbacks as well:

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5 ways to cope with disappointment

I wonder whether disappointment is a feeling that autistic people more commonly experience. The reason I say that is because when someone is disappointed it is usually because a situation has not occurred in the way they had expected. This is perceived as an unplanned change or that what was predicted did not happen. Here are my top 5 ways to handle disappointment.

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What does “different not less” mean?

There is a phrase that goes around the internet that says, “Autistic people are different, not less.” I never understood what this phrase meant until I stopped and thought about it. There is actually quite a lot of deep insight behind this phrase that many people (including me!) do or did not understand.

What is ‘different’?

‘Different’ is commonly used to describe being autistic. It means that a person might:

have unusual strengths or uncommon interests in comparison to other people
find doing things that other people consider ‘normal’ and “straightforward” things very hard
think about a situation in a different way to most people





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