Joseph Grammer's Blog - Posts Tagged "repeat"
My New Catchphrase
"No one's coming to rescue you. No one's coming to save you."
Repeat that 1,000x, then keep going.
(I mean this in a positive way, not like in a bitter-dad-life-is-tough-get-over-it-I'm repressed-way.)
The world is not always a bleak hellscape full of hostile psychos. I actually believe it's mostly good, and good shit happens in it fairly frequently. ... But even so, I can reconcile that relatively happy idea with the fact that no one's going to swoop down and save me from my troubles. The tricky part, then, is not turning that mantra into resentment or cynicism or lack of faith in my environment, or in other people.
No one's coming to rescue me -- and that's good. Insert ideas about dignity, self-worth, pride here.
I say this having like very rarely done stuff on my own or without guidance. Most of my life I've relied on other people to do stuff for me, to pave the way financially or explain how I should think or act, so this is absolutely new territory for my brain (see: manchild).
Eventually you become responsible for other people, and you can't throw up your hands like you used to and cry, "Shit! I have no clue what to do." Or like you can do that, but then also just make sure to take action after, preferably a decision that has a real value underpinning it.
For going on two decades, I've spun a really nice story to myself that I'm some helpless victim, when in reality I've been like making life harder for other people around me. I don't get to be the curl-in-a-ball guy all the time. It's pretty lame, and to be honest no one wants to be a part of that.
Now I need to work work work work work work.
Repeat that 1,000x, then keep going.
(I mean this in a positive way, not like in a bitter-dad-life-is-tough-get-over-it-I'm repressed-way.)
The world is not always a bleak hellscape full of hostile psychos. I actually believe it's mostly good, and good shit happens in it fairly frequently. ... But even so, I can reconcile that relatively happy idea with the fact that no one's going to swoop down and save me from my troubles. The tricky part, then, is not turning that mantra into resentment or cynicism or lack of faith in my environment, or in other people.
No one's coming to rescue me -- and that's good. Insert ideas about dignity, self-worth, pride here.
I say this having like very rarely done stuff on my own or without guidance. Most of my life I've relied on other people to do stuff for me, to pave the way financially or explain how I should think or act, so this is absolutely new territory for my brain (see: manchild).
Eventually you become responsible for other people, and you can't throw up your hands like you used to and cry, "Shit! I have no clue what to do." Or like you can do that, but then also just make sure to take action after, preferably a decision that has a real value underpinning it.
For going on two decades, I've spun a really nice story to myself that I'm some helpless victim, when in reality I've been like making life harder for other people around me. I don't get to be the curl-in-a-ball guy all the time. It's pretty lame, and to be honest no one wants to be a part of that.
Now I need to work work work work work work.
