Rebecca Reilly's Blog - Posts Tagged "intimacy"
My Bed Is Too Big!
“In a survey, 1,000 people reported their preferred sleeping positions, and also gave information about their personalities and relationship quality. It turned out that the farther apart people in relationships slept from their partners, the worse they rated their relationships.”
Fabulous. Another thing to worry about. George sleeps far enough away from me we could fit a 200-pound dog between us. Not only that, he sleeps with his back to me and he stuffs a pillow between his legs to protect his private parts from any roaming hands that might wander his way. Does that mean I have to worry about our relationship?
Sure, when we were first married, we spooned while we slept. Of course, at the time we were so poor we couldn’t afford a bed big enough to sleep any other way. But still, it was nice and cozy. And romantic. I miss it.
How did we move so far apart?
Money, I guess, is the first answer. We earned enough to buy that king-sized bed. Suddenly, space to sleep in seemed important. Why should we breathe in each other’s bad breath when we could spread out and only smell our own? Why should my hair tickle George’s nose when all he had to do was turn his back on me and scooch over to avoid it? Why do we need to spontaneously touch in the middle of the night when we could routinely schedule intimacy twice a week whether we felt like it or not?
Time would have to be the second answer. We’re both so busy running from work to chores to kid-stuff to friends to church to bible study to whatever makes us feel busy and productive and self-righteous that we both want to get the most rest out of the time we set aside to sleep. We sleep deeper when we sleep on our own side of the bed. That makes me sad.
Our state of sheer exhaustion leads to more than a separation in our sleep. I am so busy with life that I’m too tired to invest in our relationship. I’m too tired to invest in our sex life. I’m too tired to invest in him.
Did God design us to run from activity to activity, from work to play, from ministry to bible study, from to-do list to to-do list without time to rest? Does our business give us some false sense of holiness or self-righteousness while we neglect our relationship with our spouse?
If we gave up some of our activities, could we give up that space between us at night? I don’t know. After fifteen years of marriage, we’re kind of stuck.
I wonder what George would do if I surprised him one night by getting rid of our king-sized bed and replacing it with a twin?
Written as "Phoebe" from Diary of a Christian Woman: How I Used 50 Shades of Grey to Spice Up My Marriage
Diary of a Christian Woman: How I Used 50 Shades of Grey to Spice Up My Marriage
You can read the article, What Your Sleeping Style Reveals About Your Relationship
By By Agata Blaszczak-Boxe at http://news.yahoo.com/sleeping-style-...
Fabulous. Another thing to worry about. George sleeps far enough away from me we could fit a 200-pound dog between us. Not only that, he sleeps with his back to me and he stuffs a pillow between his legs to protect his private parts from any roaming hands that might wander his way. Does that mean I have to worry about our relationship?
Sure, when we were first married, we spooned while we slept. Of course, at the time we were so poor we couldn’t afford a bed big enough to sleep any other way. But still, it was nice and cozy. And romantic. I miss it.
How did we move so far apart?
Money, I guess, is the first answer. We earned enough to buy that king-sized bed. Suddenly, space to sleep in seemed important. Why should we breathe in each other’s bad breath when we could spread out and only smell our own? Why should my hair tickle George’s nose when all he had to do was turn his back on me and scooch over to avoid it? Why do we need to spontaneously touch in the middle of the night when we could routinely schedule intimacy twice a week whether we felt like it or not?
Time would have to be the second answer. We’re both so busy running from work to chores to kid-stuff to friends to church to bible study to whatever makes us feel busy and productive and self-righteous that we both want to get the most rest out of the time we set aside to sleep. We sleep deeper when we sleep on our own side of the bed. That makes me sad.
Our state of sheer exhaustion leads to more than a separation in our sleep. I am so busy with life that I’m too tired to invest in our relationship. I’m too tired to invest in our sex life. I’m too tired to invest in him.
Did God design us to run from activity to activity, from work to play, from ministry to bible study, from to-do list to to-do list without time to rest? Does our business give us some false sense of holiness or self-righteousness while we neglect our relationship with our spouse?
If we gave up some of our activities, could we give up that space between us at night? I don’t know. After fifteen years of marriage, we’re kind of stuck.
I wonder what George would do if I surprised him one night by getting rid of our king-sized bed and replacing it with a twin?
Written as "Phoebe" from Diary of a Christian Woman: How I Used 50 Shades of Grey to Spice Up My Marriage
Diary of a Christian Woman: How I Used 50 Shades of Grey to Spice Up My Marriage
You can read the article, What Your Sleeping Style Reveals About Your Relationship
By By Agata Blaszczak-Boxe at http://news.yahoo.com/sleeping-style-...
