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More than once I have reiterated that no one but you can choose your own path.

For some people this is really easy. They just KNOW without any doubts who they are and what they want to be. They answer whatever calling they receive – whether it’s to be a doctor, a member of clergy, a pro athlete, an artist, a teacher and so on.

For some, they go where they are pointed. Someone at some point told them that they should do ‘x’ or that opportunity ‘y’ was what they should choose. Though it was not exactly their heart’s desire, they went with it.

For some we just have doubts and uncertainty about which of our skills we should pursue. We may have different skills that present different callings, so we have a harder time choosing.

In college I found multiple avenues I wished to explore. I got really heavily into radio, I was majoring in theatre with a focus on directing, I was writing. When the four year ride was over, I looked at what I could do, and realized that I was filled with uncertainty about what I should choose.

This is something I have talked about before. I floundered for years because while on the one hand there were aspects of stability in my life, on the other I could not hold still if I tried. I chose for many years not to make any real choices, so I moved from home to home and job to job and relationship to relationship, finding occasional satisfaction but never truly settling.

True fact – I have never lived in one place for more than 10 years. A specific area, sure, but actual place I called home? Nope. I suppose having this even in my childhood made the notion of truly setting down roots sort of alien to me. But I digress.

This has been an amazing year for me thus far. I have received accolades, gotten married, published a couple books, finished another novel, continued Positivity and Pathwalking weekly. On numerous levels this year has been spectacular.

I have chosen this month to take a leap of faith, and focus on walking my own path. This is scary because my path is full of uncertainty, and I have been struggling with what this means to me.

I am, on the one hand, completely certain that I am supposed to be doing this. All of the signs and portents point this way, so I feel that I am on the right track, heading in the right direction, and doing what I should be.

On the other hand, though, my inner skeptic screams at me with doubts. You’re out of your mind if you think this will work. You can’t earn any money this way. You are not worthy of this. You are a failure and will never be able to do this. Do you really think you deserve to succeed here? All these negatives stand in my way, and have done so before.

There are paths others are pointing me towards. One I am certain I do not wish to take, despite the skills that I have in that direction. I know that I am able to do just about anything that I want to do, it’s just a matter of doing it.

Too long I have allowed my own doubts and indecisiveness dictate my life. I need to spend time with my inner skeptic, my negative self, let him say his peace – and then let him go. I don’t need to hold onto this part of myself, because it does not serve me.

How do you intend to do that? I need to meditate. I need to stop letting doubt and fear lead me to depression, and I need to take charge of how I am feeling and what distractions I allow to get in my way. I am the only one inside my own head, I am the only one who truly knows my mind, so this is on me.

I do not have to completely go this alone of course. I have my friends and family, and I have you. I know that sometimes this ride gets crazy, and my words get jumbled, but I share my experiences with Pathwalking because I have no doubt that you also go through these same issues.

Last week I talked about depression and how all-consuming coping with that can be. But it can be coped with, and we can find our way out when it hits us. We just have to acknowledge that there are issues in need of resolution.

I know how to make this work. I know how to manifest my desires into reality. Clarity of thought. Purity of emotion. Intentional action. I have to release my inner demons, I need to disperse my doubts and keep on track. I have to move past planning and act on what I know I want.

I need to take what I want out of the future and place it firmly in the now. I need to stop waiting for it to happen and see it as complete. That is the step I find hardest when I am in the space between, and I know full well what it is and what I need to do with it.

Is there a point to your ramblings here this week? Yes. The path before me is for me alone. Yes I share aspects of it with others in different ways, but it is still mine. Only I can choose it, despite the wants and desires of others. I know who I am, I know what it is I want, I just need to do the work and make it happen. I alone have the power here, so it is up to me to empower myself and walk this path.

This is my path. I have chosen it, and I am certain it is the right choice. I know what action is required on my part to go with the thoughts and emotions to truly live the life I want.

Thanks for following along in my ramblings this week.

Are you walking the path you wish to be on?

 

This is the one-hundred ninetieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: How do you feel?

How do you feel?

You probably get this question or some variable of it a lot. How are you? How you feeling? How’s it going? It is also highly probable that more often than not you either ignore the question, or give a non-committal eh or ok or fine or good or such.

This is a more important question than we give weight to, and it is in truth a powerful tool for generating positivity.

How DO you feel? It’s fine to give a monosyllabic answer on the surface, but it is surprisingly important that you actually are aware of your emotion. How you are feeling will either take you down a path of positivity or negativity.

Do you feel tired? Cranky? Annoyed? Sad? What emotion is lying there beneath the surface? Conversely, are you feeling awake? Content? Pleased? Happy? How you are feeling is going to determine if the experiences ahead of you will be positive or negative.

This may seem overly simple, but it is far more powerful than we realize. Just being aware of how you are, in fact, feeling, will majorly impact if you will experience good and positive things or bad and negative things.

The primary reason this is so important it this: you can control how you feel. You can control if you are feeling positive emotions or negative ones. Certainly circumstances and outside influences will create situations that will cause an emotional response, but you ultimately have control of what emotion you take in and hold on to.

When you recognize you are feeling negative emotions, you can either choose to hold onto those emotions, or to find means to shift that feeling to positive. I do not know anyone that actually WANTS to feel bad or depressed or unhappy. Sure, there are moments when we want to wallow in sorrow, but those moments always pass and we seek better for ourselves.

By actually taking the time to think about and acknowledge to yourself what you are feeling when someone asks, you become aware of your feelings, and you make the first step in taking control of them. This allows you to make the choice as to whether you want positivity or negativity. I know which one I prefer.

You are gifted with this power. Human emotions are rich, diverse and complex…and totally within our grasp and control. We get to choose how we want to feel, and we can work to have good feelings when we are feeling bad. This is a really incredible power we are able to wield.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing how you feel, you have the ability to take control of your feelings, and choose if you feel bad to work on changing that to feeling good. By acknowledging how we are feeling and gaining control of that, we thoroughly empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the eighty first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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One of the largest obstacles any Pathwalker will come across is depression.

Today we are going to explore a new avenue, because I am not sure it gets the attention it deserves. Depression afflicts FAR more people than anyone realizes.

The first and most important thing to recognize here is that none of us who suffer depression are alone. All of us experience different reactions and have different triggers, but depression is a lot more common than I think most people are willing to acknowledge.

What is depression? Depends on the person. For some it is a state of sadness, a feeling of incompleteness that makes no sense logically but emotionally is like a dull and constant pain. Like pain, some people experience depression more sharply, for some it is dull. For some it is occasional and for others it is chronic. No matter the label or the kind, depression can be as debilitating as any pain, but to the naked eye is completely invisible.

I believe that depression is one of the reasons people choose to let life live them, rather than making the choices for themselves. When you are struggling with depression there is a simplicity in not making major life decisions or sometimes even minor choices that can be appealing. When depression makes it even harder to go about a given day, it feels easier to let the pattern carry you, and not put forth the effort of conscious reality creation.

Unsurprisingly, this is backwards. Taking the time and making the effort to be awake and aware and conscious will help with depression. This can be akin to stretching a muscle that is pained, and requires you to push past that pain, but as such it is similarly helpful towards recovery.

I can think of no one who completely and totally has overcome depression. You can knock it down, stave it off, change it. You can certainly lessen it. But depression never completely goes away. It lingers, it has certain triggers, and it often feels like it makes absolutely no sense.

I am no expert on this topic, but I have lived most of my adult life with depression. I’ve done therapy, I’ve done a couple rounds of drugs to treat it. I have used meditation and exercise to overcome it. I have in many respects created Pathwalking as a means to work through my depression with focus on consciousness and by being more aware of my emotions.

My triggers are different from yours, most likely. We all have different things that set us off and that generate negativity, which in turns sparks depression. It is an infuriating feeling, because it frequently makes no sense, seems to defy logic and reality and circumstances. When you are surrounded by people you love and who love you that nagging sensation feels totally ridiculous, and that in turn worsens it. Vicious circle, anyone?

What can I do with this knowledge? First – I think it really helps to know none of us are alone with this struggle. It feels like we are alone because this is an entirely internal matter. Yet so many of us cope with this on a regular basis that acknowledging it is ok, and that we are not horridly messed up due to this goes a surprisingly long way towards working with this.

For many years I worked on discovering the roots of my depression. Where did it come from? Why was I having this issue? I have come to realize that it’s a combination of matters, and I was able to identify many of its origins. All well and good, until it creeps back and hamstrings you again.

What is more important than uncovering and working on the root of depression is dealing with the immediate matter. Yes, it can be useful to know what triggers depression, and then work to avoid it. If I want to be depressed all I have to do is read about the upcoming US elections and the stunningly awful Congress and other such matters. Avoiding these, and in many respects avoiding what I perceive as uninformed opinions from some on these topics, keeps me in a better headspace.

More importantly, when I recognize I am feeling depressed I need to not just let go and let life happen around me, I need to work even harder to wrest control. I need to put my focus on the reality I want to consciously create. I need to intentionally choose my path and work to walk it. Depression often ramps up fear and negativity, both of which I have mentioned many times before will throw you off course.

Easier said than done. True. When I am feeling depressed I have a much harder time maintaining my focus, and I get more easily frustrated by how ineffectual I feel. Unlike other emotions which I can take control of and be aware of, depression is a much trickier matter. Depression is a unique and often inexplicable amalgam of pieces of emotions I can barely make sense of, let alone grapple with. Knowing this goes a long ways towards working with it however.

Most importantly, and the reason why I am writing about this today, is to acknowledge that we are not alone. I think if we more open in discussing this state of being, and we share our experiences with it we can overcome it more easily. This struggle does not make any of us lesser, unworthy, or undeserving of the happiness and joy life should hold…but depression can make it feel that way. Knowing this is something everyone struggles with in one form or another, and talking about it instead of sweeping it under the rug can go a long ways towards finding more effective ways to overcome it.

Acknowledgement, gratitude, sharing and avoiding negativity are means to overcome depression, and means we can all do together. I struggle with this beast just like you do. I am grateful that I have a means to communicate this. I will share with you my own experiences when I can. I won’t post to social media negative things you might find a need to avoid.

We are all in this together, so let’s do what we can together to overcome depression when we’re feeling it.

Do you recognize that you don’t need to go at this alone?

 

This is the one-hundred eighty ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Everybody Matters

Everybody matters.

Black or white, male or female, big or small, fat or thin, rich or poor, gay or straight or in-between – you matter.

We all are important in our own ways, and we all have an equal deserving of rights and protections and such. Everybody matters.

Some communities, groups and cultures are more privileged than others. This is true whether you care to accept it or no, but for some the struggle to matter is easier and does not require added work or attention. No one group is greater or lesser than another, and as such all matter.

This is a tremendous positive in the world. We all matter, we are all important and all worthy of not being taken for granted. No one should be marginalized or degraded or disregarded based on skin color, gender, sexual preference, religion or any-other artifice.

This is not to say that everyone should get participation awards. Merit is a thing, and not everybody wins just by showing up. This is a law of nature, and while we can work to fabricate something else we are going to have winners and losers. But both the winners and the losers matter, as each is still worthy of being treated with fairness and thought.

Whatever end of the scale you may land on, you matter. Your life, your aspirations, your hopes and dreams and goals all matter. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, no matter your social class, you employment, your race, religion, creed, convictions or what-have-you.   Everybody matters.

When we recognize that everybody matters, we can empower more people. Empowerment is nothing but positive, and that goes a long ways towards building self-sufficiency, peace, prosperity and ultimately happiness. Empowered people know that they matter, and they in turn have the opportunity to empower even more people. This starts a chain where we don’t need the false accolade of equality through participation awards, but knowing that you matter win or lose.

Recognizing that everybody matters would allow us to share more abundance, prosperity and happiness.   Some groups may need to stand out more clearly in order to show us this truth, but it is not inappropriate for them to do so. Black lives matter, gay lives matter, the lives of the poor matter – all statements to the effect that everybody matters. Period.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that all lives matter, we can work together more to help empower the disempowered and make the world a better place. By acknowledging the importance of all lives, we empower not only others, but ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the eightieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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As you are reading this, I am on vacation.

One of the things I am doing on this vacation is to relax, reset, release negativity and work on finding and walking the Path I most desire.

Yes, I have a reasonably good idea of what paths I wish to be on with my life. I know what my intentions are, and I know what I want to create for my life. I have, over the past few months in particular, really been feeling as if I am on the cusp of a fairly major shift. All the signs and portents are pointing towards it, and I am excited by the prospect of it.

However, it may come as no surprise to you if you’ve been reading along the past few weeks that I am still trying to work out the hows. How am I going to get from here to there? I know where I am now, I know where I want to be. I know that I am choosing a path to take, but how will I walk it?

I reiterate time and time again that consciousness creates reality. I know it, I believe it, but I still don’t always trust it. I get caught up in my need to know how I am going to make this happen, so I get lost in the process and I don’t reach the intended destination.

So here I am, on vacation, working on resetting. I am working on using my intentions to set up what it is I want to make manifest. I am setting out the paths I want to take.

What does this have to do with Pathwalking? Everything. Pathwalking is conscious reality creation. It is choosing the destiny I most desire, rather than letting someone or something else choose for me. I am striving to be aware and awake and to make my own choices in life.

Further analysis of Pathwalking has shown me that there are aspects of the process that are pretty set in stone, so to speak. To walk any chosen path you have to take these steps along the way:

Find the idea. What is my goal? What is it I want to manifest, what am I striving to achieve? I’ve mentioned before this needs to be based in reality, because if you want to be a doctor but hate being around sick people, you won’t get to that goal. Is my goal truly the idea I want to make manifest?

Set the intention. I am seeing more and more that before you move past the thought, you need to set an intention. What does that mean? It means more than just thinking “I have this idea” you give it more power with “I intend”. Intention as a step past the idea, its more formed. It involves more action, as intention starts you towards emotion far more readily than the simplicity of the idea. Whereas just an idea might be passive, and intent is active.

Feel it. To consciously create reality you have to think it (idea and intention), then feel it. You have to feel out what you want, how you will feel from making your desire manifest, how it will feel when the goal is achieved. Feeling allows you to know that your intention is what you want, and that you are on the path you truly desire.

Take inspired action. Last week I went into pretty thorough detail how action and inspired action differ. Inspired action is part of the goal of Pathwalking, and feels right and good and positive. Action alone is not what you need to make your dreams manifest. You have to feel the action, you have to feel that the action is part of making manifest the goal of the path you walk. This is why the action should feel inspirational.

Live in the now. This has always been a challenge for me, to let go of the past and not focus on the future and live in the now. I know where I have been, I know where I want to be…but it is really important to be in the here-and-now.

Why is the here-and-now important when you are walking a path to a goal? Because if you are not here, if you are not aware of the world around you, you cannot manifest. You cannot create anything intentionally if you are not aware, and that means you need to be in the present.

So many people in the world today just go with the flow. You see them letting life live them, you see them chewing on misinformation and accepting a reality that is not realty. They are barely aware of other people in the room with them, let alone themselves. I firmly believe that if more people were aware, we’d all be living richer, more abundant and happier lives.

These are the things that go into absolutely every path you might choose to walk. Idea/Thought. Intention. Feeling. Inspired Action. Awareness of the now. Without employing these I am unable to manifest anything.

So here I am, on vacation, working on letting go of my negative beliefs, and taking these five steps towards truly manifesting what I desire. I am using this time to reset myself, and to focus on what path I truly wish to walk. What is it I really desire to make manifest? That is worthwhile. That is a goal to set for myself.

I know I am on the cusp of manifesting the life I want. I am using this time away to regenerate my energies so that I can take those five steps to find and walk the path I would choose. I have the idea and the thought, I have the intention and the feeling. I am working to take inspired action and more thoroughly live in the now and be aware.

Pathwalking is worthwhile. Manifesting what I want from this life is something I believe to be healthy, and powerful, and empowering not just for me but anyone else I can share my process with. Empowerment can be spread, and I think that can go a long ways towards making this world a better place for everyone.

Do these steps for Pathwalking resonate with you?

 

This is the one-hundred eighty eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Turning Negativity Around

What do I do when I am surrounded by negative people?

That’s a really good question. What DO you do? In especial when you have no means by which to escape them (co-workers and family come to mind here).

This is not too dissimilar in respects to news articles and social media posts calling attention to negative things, except those you can delete and ignore. How do you deal with other people’s negativity and not have that impact you?

Every situation is different of course. But I have a couple thoughts on how to turn matters around and find/generate more Positivity.

Redirect. Try to change the topic of conversation, try to introduce something positive or pleasant or otherwise happy.

Don’t engage. When they try to get you to converse with them about that person or that negative thing or what-have-you, don’t let them engage you in the conversation. Avoid the topic and try to shift the engagement to something else. Redirect.

Gratitude. Talk about things for which you are grateful. Verbalize these things and give thanks for them, say how grateful you are for these good things and ask those around you to express things they are also grateful for.

Confront. I am not suggesting you be in any way negative or cruel, but some people simply do NOT realize how negative they might be. So you might need to point it out to them as gently as you can, so as to bring it to their attention. You might even convince them to change their approach.

Excuse yourself. Come up with a reason to walk away and remove yourself from the situation, even temporarily. Trouble with this is that the negative person will still likely be there when you return, but if the other four ideas I have mentioned above are no good for you, then it might be your best pursuit.

The main thing is to not let those negative people change your attitude and your own focus to negativity. Yes, this is certainly easier said than done, but it is still totally doable. You can’t change someone else’s feelings, but you CAN change and control your own. The key to handling negative people is to keep yourself positive and not give in to their negativity. You always have choices.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you will sometimes encounter negative people, you have options for how to deal with them. By choosing an option to keep yourself from joining them in feeling, thinking and acting negative you empower yourself. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the seventy-ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Keeping to the plan is easier said than done.

I am working rather diligently on consciously creating my reality at this time, and I have found that planning the plan is one thing, but executing it is quite another.

Last week I wrote about getting tripped up by my need to figure out the how. Manifestation is about idea, emotion and inspired action, but once you start taking action that is not inspired it is surprisingly easy to get off track.

The process of manifesting what you want should not feel like a chore. It should be a joyful, positive experience. That is how you know you are working WITH the Universe to make whatever it is you are after manifest.

When the process feels forced, makes you feel disconnected or unhappy or any other negative emotion – then you are not taking action in accordance with manifestation.

Oh come on, it takes tons of effort to get anything. Yes, it might take effort, but there is a major difference between effort and struggle. When you feel resistance, and you do not know if pushing past that resistance is a good idea – it is time to reevaluate your actions.

When you are trying something new, something that might be outside of your comfort zone, there is a good chance you will feel resistance. But you can tell when it is resistance against something new and different versus resistance against something you should not be trying for. The former you can sense is old habits, old fears, old ways of doing things creating an artificial barrier that, once past, you will make a gain. The latter you can sense is foreboding, dis-ease, that feeling that once past that barrier the gain may actually be a loss, or have some other price.

I’m going to share something I am working on to illustrate this point. I want a new car. Not just a random new car, a very specific car. I want to put this out there and work with the Universe to manifest the new car I desire.

Last year when I needed to replace my dying car, I was not specific. I set out that a sequence of events would occur, and I would have a newer and better car. Matters did occur almost exactly as I envisioned that they would, and my goal was made manifest, and I had the newer and better car. I combined thought, feeling and inspired action and I have no doubt I manifested my desire.

Fast forward to today. This time I am much more specific. I want the car I want, and I have set out my intent, how I will feel when I make it manifest, and I have begun to take inspired action.

But then I sabotaged it. How? By trying too hard to figure out HOW I was going to get from point ‘a’ to point ‘b’. How was I going to go from my current car to the shiny new car?

I did not trust that I could make this manifest. Last year I had no idea how I could possibly go from my dying used car to another car. I, like far too many people out there, have made financial errors over the years. My credit score is not impressive, I have other financial obligations I have not managed well, and other similar hardships. Yet I saw only the outcome, and gave no thought to how I’d get from where I was to what I wanted…and it worked.

So I started to take steps.   Inspired steps included test-driving my desired car and envisioning what it would be like to have that car. I felt what it would be like to pack the car with my gear for events and to drive a piece of new and modern technology that I would relish.

But I was still caught up in the how. I could not fathom where I’d get the money to make this manifest. So I checked if I could get a loan from my bank. I started to explore what my current car is worth in trade, knowing I would need to likely roll some of what I owe on it into a new car.

This all began to unravel right about here. Exploring this showed me I could not get a loan nearly large enough to get the new car I want, and on top of that my current car is underwater (she’s not worth what I owe on her). Well, I said I’d have a new car before this week, so I took additional steps and began to look at other options.

The car I would have preferred when I acquired my current car is available used. I can probably get one of those. And I can probably roll forward what I will owe after trade on my current car into another five to seven year loan on a lower-mileage car more along the lines of what I want. Sure, I’ll have a bigger car payment in the end, but I will have a newer car.

Then I thought about it. What am I doing? In what way is this taking inspired action? I will find this other that is not what I actually want because it’s an action…but is it inspired? Nope. In fact, on further analysis, I am hating every aspect of this search, and the used car sales people, and the indecision because this is not what I set out to manifest. I have met the resistance I mentioned earlier, and I feel moving past it I will not make a net gain. I will, given the higher payment this would incur, in fact take a loss. This feels wrong, and I am going with that feeling…and stopping this process.

Last year I got to the dealership, looked at three cars on the lot and made a choice. I did not even test drive the car I took. Foolish? Possibly – but I was inspired. I knew my choice was completely right, I felt it to the core of my existence, and I was utterly certain I was acting on the manifestation I intended. A year later and the car gets better gas mileage than she’s rated for, is mechanically sound and pretty to look at and I am deeply grateful to have her. I do not regret my choice.

When I spent too much time on how I would manifest what I wanted, I sabotaged myself. Now I am aware of even more than I was before, and I am better equipped to work on conscious reality creation. I am not upset, nor angry, nor any other negative emotion in regards to this. I am seeing that I need to trust my instinct better, and to continue my work to manifest the life I most desire.

Do you choose to get upset about your mistakes, or to learn from them?

 

 

This is the one-hundred eighty seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: You Deserve It!

You deserve it.

I don’t know what it is for you, but you deserve it.

It might be an emotion like happiness. Or love. Or joy. It might be a thing, like a job. Or relationship. Or home. It might be small or grand, but whatever it is you deserve it.

Too many places tell us how we are unworthy. We are too poor, too fat, too weak, too foolish to be worthy of anything. That is a lie.

You are rich, healthy, strong and wise. You are worthy of everything you desire. You deserve to win.

This should not feel like a lie. This should not feel as though it is untrue, because it is not. We are more deserving and more worthy than we tend to allow ourselves to feel. But we deserve it.

I know what things I want in my life, and I believe one reason I have a hard time manifesting them is because, deep down, I cannot believe that I deserve them. That nagging, negative voice in my head informs me I am undeserving, unworthy, and unable to achieve these things.

That negative voice is not me, it is my fears, my concerns, my doubts. I know that I can believe in myself, and as such I can achieve whatever goal I desire. I am worthy, I am deserving, and I need not have fear nor doubt. I can think it, feel it and take inspired action to bring it into being.

You deserve it. I don’t know or care what it is. It does not matter if the thing you deserve is incredibly huge or minutely small, you still deserve it. You are worthy, you are deserving. Whatever the good thing may be you deserve it.

What you do not deserve is negativity. Nor doubt. Nor hate. Nor sadness. Nor pain. You do not deserve to be taken down or brought low by any force in existence. You did not earn the bad things or the sad things or any other negatives, because you are worthy of good things. If you are in the midst of dealing with negativity and desire positivity, you should know that you deserve it.

The good things you want, whatever they are, are deserved by you. Period. You are worthy. You do not need to earn or fight or push for those things, you deserve them. Good things should come your way, and you should deserve them to happen. No matter your current circumstances – that good things you are wanting – you deserve it.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you are worthy and deserving of good things, you can and should realize all the good things you desire. By accepting that you do not need to work extra hard and that you deserve the good things you desire, you can use that to further empower yourself. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the seventy-eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 186

I find that I get way too caught up in the how of things, and this is where I trip myself up.

When it comes to conscious reality creation and manifesting the things you want in life, getting focused on the how of the process can stop progress. I am starting to think that this is part of how I sabotage my own efforts.

I believe that consciousness creates reality. I have made use of this to manifest things in my life on more than one occasion. I know, in the deepest part of my heart and soul, that this is an unquestionable truth. It is not a sometimes thing, it can be done continuously.

Why doesn’t everyone know and act on this? Lots of reasons, but I think the majority of it comes from a lack of empowerment. Despite efforts that appear to the contrary, our parents, our teachers, our religious leaders, our politicians do not in fact act to empower us. Sure they teach things, show us things, expand our knowledge on a wide variety of topics. But they do not empower us.

What does that mean? We get fed an astounding amount of information. We live in a day and age where you can learn news from across the globe as it happens, not hours or days or months as it once was. We almost get overloaded with information. What we don’t get, however, from nearly any resource, is how to make use of any information to enrich ourselves.

Society is obsessed with the selfish and the unaware. We are constantly creating “celebrities” whom we watch bumble through life with nary a thought about anyone but their own fame, and we are led to believe that this is the norm. On the other side of the scale we see “celebrities” who are incredible givers, donating to charities and being utterly selfless. We then focus on these two extremes – uber-selfish and uber-selfless. If I am not the one then I must be the other.

What does this have to do with empowerment? Selfishness shows no concern for others. Selflessness shows no concern for the self. In the middle however is where reality lies, and rather than taking control of our own awareness we judge where people stand based almost entirely on these two polar-opposite extremes.

Empowerment comes with awareness. How many people do you know who are to all intents and purposes completely unaware? Asleep at the wheel? How many people do we all know who simply let life live them and they cast blame about but only empower others and never themselves? How many people believe lies they are fed and then profess to be their own knowledge despite no study or research?

It is this lack of self-awareness that dominates too much of our society that is the reason why not everyone acts on conscious reality creation. We have not been empowered by mainstream society to consciously create reality, we have been told things are out of our control and the like. We are shown that those who seemingly can do conscious reality control are either selfish or selfless, so there is no need to do anything but let life live you.

Pathwalking is about not accepting that societal norm and taking control of the destiny I want.

The paradox of course is that on the one hand this is incredibly simple. On the other it involves complexities of focus that can be alien. For me, the problem I have been tackling recently is my need to understand the how of manifestation.

I know I cannot just blindly expect that if I wish for something hard enough it will just happen. You cannot just use consciousness to create reality in a total vacuum. It is a matter of combining thought, feeling and inspired action to make this happen.

Where do I get tripped up? I know what I want to create. I have given it a lot of thought energy, given it feeling energy, am taking inspired actions to make it go…but I still cannot see HOW this can possibly work. I am too OCD to just let it happen, I want to take the watch apart and understand its workings. What makes this tick? What components go into this? How does it all come together at the end?

When I am building a computer from scratch I need to know the how. I can tear open the case and replace power supplies and drives and motherboards…and I have a fundamental understanding of how it all works together to allow me to surf the web and word process and play games and so on. I don’t necessarily know how each component functions individually, I just know they are a necessary part of the process.

When it comes to conscious reality creation and Pathwalking I often look for too much detail in the how. If the universe is a giant computer that will let me surf the web and play games and such, it is a matter of choosing the icon and launching the app. This is where the focus should go. It is unnecessary to understand all of the components that go into the computer prior to that app being launched.

Worse, when you focus on the how, you do not focus on the desired outcome. When you do not focus on the outcome and get caught up in all the minutiae of the process all you have is process. This is the computer booting but not loading your app, so now you are stuck diagnosing the problem – but the problem here is that you didn’t create what you were after, you created a problem to be solved instead.

If the computer analogy of this doesn’t quite work, it might be simpler to think of it this way. Conscious reality creation is driving the car from point ‘a’, where you are starting to point ‘b’, the desired thing. Rather than just getting on the road and making the drive you stop along the way to examine the car for damage, the road for potholes and other obstacles. You don’t reach point ‘b’ because you get caught up in writing a letter to the state about the pothole that wrecked your tire.

Taking the long way around, my point today is that I need to simplify my pathwalk. I need to see what it is I want to achieve, I need to give it thought and focus, then feeling energy, and then take inspired actions. I don’t need to know the mechanics of HOW to get from where I am now to where I want to be…I just need to know it can be done, and take the actions that inspire me, know that they are aligned with my thoughts and feelings, and make it happen.

Are you aware of the world you want to live in?

 

This is the one-hundred eighty sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Vortex Pilgrimage: Available TODAY

Have you ever wanted to step outside of yourself, in order to better get inside your own head?

Have you ever wanted to explore your core being, and uncover who you are, and what makes you tick?

Have you ever wanted to take an adventure that would bring you understanding, peace and joy?

This is the premise of Vortex Pilgrimage. Set in an alternate reality, the protagonist takes a journey of self discovery and works with masters of the mind, body and spirit to truly understand himself and along the way gain greater perspective.

I took a great deal of inspiration for this tale from the works of Paulo Coelho. The Alchemist, The Valkyries, Manuscript Found in Accra and his many other books are modern fables that tell timeless stories in a way that draws the reader in and opens the mind to new avenues and possibilities.

I find inspiration in Paulo Coelho’s storytelling, and have strived to build what I hope is an inspirational story of my own. I enjoyed writing this story so thoroughly that I had to rebuild it to be shared.

This is a departure from my regular genre work and style. Inspirational fiction, modern fable, literary fiction, even to some degree fantasy – this particular story told from the first person perspective is difficult to classify.  However, I think it is a unique adventure and I am very excited to present it to you.

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