Frauke C. Schaefer

“Acknowledging and voicing uncomfortable emotions is essential for dealing constructively with trauma-related distress. Unfortunately, that is not a characteristic of all present-day conservative Christian churches or organizations. There may be expectations that those who are “right with Christ” and have “enough faith” do not have negative feelings. Consequently, people expressing sorrow, pain, sadness, doubt, or anger (in the American context often described as “negative” emotions) can attract disapproval or even condemnation from fellow believers.”
― Frauke C. Schaefer, Trauma and Resilence: Effectively Supporting those who Serve God

“God also worked on my heart to help me realize that traumatic events are not easily fixed and healing takes time. Before then, I thought that Christians could, and should, be able to overcome their challenges and setbacks through prayer, Bible-reading, and a little bit of time. Having grown up in a safe environment and community at home, and having never experienced a crisis or trauma, this was the simple perspective I had. “Get over it,” sums up how I felt. The months of processing taught me to accept and not judge other people who have been through trauma. So now I tell them, “Take your time,” instead of “get over it.” I’ve also learned that leaders must have patience as people process trauma because God is in no hurry.”
― Frauke C. Schaefer, Trauma and Resilence: Effectively Supporting those who Serve God