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May 15, 2016

Kindle Countdown Deal on Tested by Her Web Master

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Tested Kindle Deal
Kindle Countdown Deal on Tested by Her Web Master

For the next few days we are running a Kindle Countdown Deal on the second book in the Web Master Trilogy, Tested by Her Web Master. That means that it is on sale for 99 cents today, then the price goes up to $1.99, then $2.99, until it goes up to the regular price of $3.99 so add it to your kindle while it’s on sale and get ready for the release of book 3, Claimed by Her Web Master on Thursday.


Tested by Her Web Master

He’s my addiction, my love—my life.

He’s my Dominant—my everything.

He’s changed me, and I never want to go back.


But now, he’s asking for too much.

Going too far.

It’s out of my comfort zone–not who I am.


I’ll swallow my pride and face my fears

But something tells me he has ulterior motives for this extreme request, 

and I will get to the bottom of it. 


That is, if I can pass his test.


Tested by Her Web Master is the second book in the Web Master Trilogy and should be read following Her Web Master. If cliffhangers make you clammy, never fear – Claimed by Her Web Master, the conclusion of the trilogy, told from the perspective of the mercurial “MC,” will release this Thursday May 19, 2016.


Tested Kindle Countdown Deal


TESTED BY HER WEB MASTER is Available on Amazon and FREE in Kindle Unlimited:


Amazon                 Amazon UK                 Goodreads


Also available  in     Print   and      Audiobook:     Audible       iTunes  


The Web Master Trilogy is intended to be read in order. If you haven’t read the first book, Her Web Master yet, you can read the first chapter here. This series is available in Kindle Unlimited. Or pick up your copy here:


Amazon                Amazon UK                 Goodreads               Print               Audible           iTunes


And coming Thursday…


Rosy red ass Claimed by Her Web Master


Pre-order:     Amazon       Amazon UK         Goodreads


Rosy Red Ass BDSM Erotic Audiobook


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Published on May 15, 2016 11:28

May 14, 2016

FREE Erotic Romance #Audiobooks for Everyone!

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BDSM Erotic Audiobook


FREE EROTIC ROMANCE AUDIOBOOKS

(Review optional)

Audible has a new program where you can send up to 100 people a book AND they will PAY the author.


(X-mas come early?) Why would they pay for us to share our libraries?


They are really trying to build their audiobook market, and I am such I lover of audiobooks that I am right there with them.


You DO NOT have to have an audible account or a credit card to accept your first book. SO – if you’d like one of my audiobooks and you have not already accepted a book from a friend, please send me an email to normandiealleman (at) yahoo (dot) com and tell and which of my six books you’d like.



You can check out the selection here.


Daddy Morebucks Audiobook


Available Titles:
DADDY MOREBUCKS

DADDY’S GAME

POOR LITTLE DADDY’S GIRL
HER WEB MASTER

TESTED BY HER WEB MASTER
TAKEN BY THE TYCOON (older woman/younger man novella)

*The only catch is that if you can only accept one “sent” book from a friend. If you’ve already accepted one then the one from me will come up as a recommendation and they will ask you to pay for it. If that happens and you’d like to read and review instead just let me know, and I’ll send you a promo code for review. Thanks friends and happy listening!



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Published on May 14, 2016 11:43

May 13, 2016

Because A Rosy Red Ass is More Interesting #SaturdaySpankings

Normandie


 


Rosy Red Ass Saturday Spankings


Welcome to Saturday Spankings! Today I’m sharing a scene from the second book in the Web Master Trilogy, TESTED BY HER WEB MASTER, which will be featured in the Kindle store for a countdown deal beginning tomorrow (Sunday). Tested by Her Web Master will be on sale for 99 cents for 30 hours then the price will go up a dollar for another 30 hours, and that will go on until it gets back up to its regular price of $3.99. The third book in the Web Master Trilogy, Claimed by Her Web Master releases this Thursday, May 19th so now is the perfect time to catch up on this series. Here’s a snippet:


“Sophie, you’ve been such a good sub for me, wearing your butt plug exactly as I’ve asked. You’ve earned an orgasm. Several in fact, but before I give it to you I’m going to make this ass nice and red. So much more interesting to fuck.”


I gulped and dropped my head.


“That’s fine,” he said. “As long as you remain on your elbows at least.”


“Thank you, Sir.” I sank to my elbows. He shoved the butt plug back in, then fucked me with it a few times. My sphincter spasmed and pitched, not wanting to remain open for him, and I gripped the sheets of his bed in my fists.


His open hand made contact with my bottom. Smack!


Tested Web Master


Tested by Her Web Master

He’s my addiction, my love—my life.

He’s my Dominant—my everything.

He’s changed me, and I never want to go back.


But now, he’s asking for too much.

Going too far.

It’s out of my comfort zone–not who I am.


I’ll swallow my pride and face my fears

But something tells me he has ulterior motives for this extreme request, 

and I will get to the bottom of it. 


That is, if I can pass his test.


Tested by Her Web Master is the second book in the Web Master Trilogy and should be read following Her Web Master. If cliffhangers make you clammy, never fear – Claimed by Her Web Master, the conclusion of the trilogy, told from the perspective of the mercurial “MC,” will release this Thursday May 19, 2016.


Tested


TESTED BY HER WEB MASTER is Available on Amazon and FREE in Kindle Unlimited:


Amazon                 Amazon UK                 Goodreads


Also available  in     Print   and      Audiobook:     Audible       iTunes  


The Web Master Trilogy is intended to be read in order. If you haven’t read the first book, Her Web Master yet, you can read the first chapter here. This series is available in Kindle Unlimited. Or pick up your copy here:


Amazon                Amazon UK                 Goodreads               Print               Audible           iTunes


And coming Thursday…


Rosy red ass Claimed by Her Web Master


Pre-order:     Amazon       Amazon UK         Goodreads


Please remember to visit the other Saturday Spankings participants here:



Rosy Red Ass BDSM Erotic Audiobook


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Published on May 13, 2016 20:37

May 2, 2016

Cover Reveal for WANTED: A Monster Billionaire Romance by Jani Kay and Normandie Alleman

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Title: Wanted
Series: A Monster Billionaire Romance


Author: Jani Kay & Normandie Alleman
Genre: Contemporary Romance






 Release Date: May 31, 2016


 


Blurb


FOSTER I spent the last five years locked in a cage for a crime I didn’t commit.Crucified by the press and social media. Hated by all.But now that I’m a free man, I’m determined to prove I’m not the evil mastermind everyone thinks I am.I just need someone to believe in me.

Someone like Addison James… 


ADDISON 


Foster Cruise is sexy as hell and worth billions. But he destroyed my family.


He may have gone to prison, but he hasn’t paid nearly enough for what I’ve lost.


He has no idea who I am, but I’m determined to prove what the law failed to—and put him back behind bars where he belongs.


I’ll offer him my body and sell my soul to that handsome-as-hell devil to make things right.


Trouble is, I’m afraid he’s already stolen my heart. 


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Language and sexual situations.



 



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Excerpt

What man doesn’t like to be wanted?Well, not if you’re me and you’ve just done a stint in jail for a crime you didn’t commit.The press and social media have crucified me. People hate my guts. Nobody believes that I’m innocent.Especially the woman who is determined to put me back behind bars because I destroyed her family. She’s hell bent on making me pay for my sins.I’m starting a new life and putting all that crap behind me.

Except that Addison James won’t let me. She worms her way into my life and my bed until she’s under my skin and I just can’t shake her.


I’m Foster Cruise.





I’m wanted.




 



Jani Kay



USA Today Bestselling Author – Jani Kay lives in Western Australia within a ten minute walk to the beach which is one of her favorite places to chill out. She has been a bookworm all her life – as a voracious reader, she would gladly spend her last dollar on a book. She is always fascinated that for the mere price of a book (often less than the price of a coffee!), she can escape her life for a while and see through someone else’s eyes into their world. Jani loves the colour red, is a fiery Aries, is impatient and always storming ahead with those ram’s horns, bashing her head…she has a wicked sense of humour and loves laughing. In her ‘other’ life, Jani is a business woman and a scientist – a creative scientist though – she formulates skin care products and brews up concoctions in her laboratory…

She has 2 beautiful children who have grown into amazing young adults and Jani is very proud of them.


Besides reading and writing, her favorite ‘thing’ is traveling and drinking cocktails on the beach while watching the sun set over the ocean (Sex on The Beach anyone?).Above all, she believes in Kindness, Karma, Miracles and Magic…








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Published on May 02, 2016 07:33

April 30, 2016

Bound to Lust – 21 #BDSM Book Bundle is LIVE! #NewRelease

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Bound Bound to Lust (includes Her Web Master)

They were bound to lust… This 21 BOOK Excite Spice MEGA Bundle is packed full of masterful doms and shameless submissives whose desires run hot, deep, and hungry for a flavor that is far from vanilla. These bad boy, assertive alpha doms are determined to get exactly what they want—and they know just what their submissives need.


Twenty-one of the genre’s hottest authors will bring you to your knees with over half a million words of kink, doling out so much pleasure it hurts in this BDSM-themed boxed set. Inside this bundle, you will find unforgettable doms you will long to call “master,” mysterious alpha males who will both hypnotize and transform you.


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Blind Pass – Bianca Sommerland

Unsaid – Avery Aster

The Buyer – Saskia Walker

Seduced By The Nanny – Lexi Stevens

Spanked By Her Billionaire Boss – Steele Star

Club Red – Sophie Sawyer

Dr. Foster’s Marriage Clinic – Sylvia Redmond

Storm: The Hottest Guy in Hollywood – Tara Crescent

Her Web Master – Normandie Alleman

Lifelong Learning: Submitting to the Teacher – Becky Cochran

Under His Domme’s Control – Dakota Trace

The Conductor’s Control – Indy Mon

A Submissive Awakens – Jamie Fairfax

Bounce Down – Lorraine Loveit

Taken by the Noble – Thorn and Nin

The Master’s Master – Logan Zachary

Eleven Wands a-Waving – Sienna Stone

Green Light Club – Lance Greencastle

Irish Punk – Kenn Dahll

My First Time…Plugged – E. K. Sabins


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Published on April 30, 2016 22:27

April 19, 2016

Educating His Bride – New Spanking Romance from Cara Bristol

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Spanking RomanceJoin me in welcoming Cara Bristol to the blog today to talk about her latest release, a spanking romance titled, “Educating His Bride.”


Spanking Romance Educating His Bride

From college coed to professor’s naughty bride…


It’s the 1950s. Never much interested in her studies, Margaret Atwater attends college hoping to graduate with an Mrs. degree instead of a bachelor’s. When she catches the eye of English Professor Henry Thurston, she’s thrilled to marry him, drop out of school, and begin a new life as a married woman and faculty wife. However, Henry is a kinky man who has much to teach his eager young bride—in, and out, of the bedroom. As Mrs. Henry Thurston, Margaret’s sexual education has just begun.


Excerpt

Newlywed Margaret brings her husband his lunch at his college office. But Henry expects more than lunch…


 “What did you bring me for lunch?” He peered into the corridor and slammed the door.


“A meatloaf sandwich.”


He twisted the key in the lock and scooted around her to the window. “On white bread?”


“Yes.”


“Good. I like white bread. It’s so nice and fluffy. Almost like eating cotton candy.” He turned the wand and plunged the room into dusk. Enough light remained to see the sexual gleam in his eyes.


An answering heat pooled in her core. Yes, some things had changed since her last visit to this room. She might have gotten a C in his class, but she’d aced marital relations. He’d taught her much over the summer, lessons she’d embraced with alacrity.


Henry plopped into his chair and beckoned.


“What if somebody comes?”


“They won’t. It’s only the second week. Students don’t have reason to meet with me yet.” He chuckled. “They’re still searching for their classes.”


“I don’t know.” Did respectable married women do things like this?


He leaned back and spread his legs. His erection tented his trousers. “Do I need to come and get you, Mrs. Thurston?”


She loved being called that. Liquid lust pooled, but she played coy. “Maybe—”


Henry sprang up, dragged her to his desk, and upended her over his lap. The chair arms prevented him from pulling her completely atop his knees, but he was strong enough to hold her half on, half off. She braced her hands on the floor. Skirts flew over her head. A playful swat landed on her bottom.


Thwack. Thwack. “Henreee…” she giggled. “Ow!” she cried as he brought his hand down harder. There’d been many spankings over the summer. Only one had been for punishment after she’d gone shopping and had run late and hadn’t called. The rest had been sexy ones. There was something thrilling about her husband enforcing his will—and her surrendering to it.


“I wish you didn’t put on so many undergarments,” he groused as he spanked.


“I only wear the usual.” Panties, girdle, slip. Petticoats for poufiness, if the dress needed it.


“Maybe I’ll institute an underwear ban.”


“I couldn’t!”


“I mean around the house.”


That wasn’t as bad, but still. What if she had to answer the door? A respectable woman was always coiffed, starched, and properly clad. To not wear undergarments would be like not wearing…stockings!


“Well, I’ll have to think about it,” he said.


She hoped he thought about it a long time. He flipped her off his lap into a heap between his legs, undid his trousers, and freed his cock from his shorts. Precum pearled on the smooth head.


Her brown feathered tilt hat had slipped from her head to her ear, despite being anchored with a pin. Henry threaded his fingers through her pageboy. The man was heck on a hairdo. Perhaps she should get one of those short, shaggy cuts like Italian actress Gina Lollobrigida had.


He exerted pressure to bring her face closer to his cock. “I used to think about you doing this when you were my student,” he said. “Suck me, Meggie.”


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About the Author

USA Today bestselling author Cara Bristol has published more than twenty-five erotic romance titles, including contemporary and science fiction romance.  No matter what the subgenre, one thing remains constant: her emphasis on character-driven seriously hot erotic stories with sizzling chemistry between the hero and heroine. Cara has lived many places in the United States, but currently lives in Missouri with her husband. She has two grown stepkids. When she’s not writing, she enjoys reading and traveling.


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Published on April 19, 2016 07:01

April 13, 2016

Coming Soon – Bound To Lust Boxed Set

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Lust They were bound to lust… This 21 BOOK Excite Spice MEGA Bundle is packed full of masterful doms and shameless submissives whose desires run hot, deep, and hungry for a flavor that is far from vanilla. These bad boy, assertive alpha doms are determined to get exactly what they want—and they know just what their submissives need. Twenty-one of the genre’s hottest authors will bring you to your knees with over half a million words of kink, doling out so much pleasure it hurts in this BDSM-themed boxed set. Inside this bundle, you will find unforgettable doms you will long to call “master,” mysterious alpha males who will both hypnotize and transform you. Are you ready to surrender?


COMING TO AMAZON APRIL 29th!


Bound to Lust Includes The Following Titles

Step Beast by Selena Kitt


Blind Pass by Bianca Sommerland


Unsaid by Avery Aster


The Buyer by Saskia Walker


Seduced by the Nanny by Lexi Stevens


Spanked by Her Billionaire Boss by Steele Star


Club Red by Sophie Sawyer


Dr. Foster’s Marriage Clinic by Sylvia Redmond


Storm: The Hottest Guy in Hollywood by Tara Crescent


Her Web Master by Normandie Alleman


Lifelong Learning: Submitting to the Teacher by Becky Cochran


Under His Domme’s Control by Dakota Trace


The Conductor’s Control by Indy Mon


A Submissive Awakens by Jamie Fairfax


Bounce Down by Lorraine Loveit


Taken by the Noble by Thorn & Nin


The Master’s Masters by Logan Zachary


Eleven Wands a-Waving by Sienna Stone


Green Light Club by Lance Greencastle


Irish Punk by Kenn Dahll (Gay Male)


My First Time… Plugged by E. K. Sabins


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Published on April 13, 2016 11:14

April 7, 2016

Her Web Master Now Available on #Audiobook

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Erotic Audiobook


I’m happy to announce that the first book in the Web Master Trilogy – HER WEB MASTER is now available on audiobook. 


Download your copy of this erotic audiobook today:


Audible                  iTunes                Coming soon to Amazon


You can also purchase HER WEB MASTER in Print, eBook, and it is FREE in Kindle Unlimited.


Her Web Master

An online connection.


Masked by anonymity.


No cameras. No pictures.


Curiosity ignited to intrigue.


 


I thought I knew what I was getting into, but had no idea how far we would go…


 


My intention was to test the waters, dip my toe in the wading pool. Instead I surrendered to the world of seduction and submission as he submerged me–body, mind, and soul–into an ocean of eroticism. 


 


Emails, texts, and hidden identities, were one thing. But now, coming face-to-face with the mystery man, the star of my fantasies, both terrifies and completely thrills me.  If all goes according to plan, he will intensify the exquisite bond we share by transporting me to that glorious intersection between agony and ecstasy. If not, everything we’ve built will come crashing down around us, destroying my dreams in the process.


 


Either way, there is no going back. Because I want more. Much more.


He always says, “For every ounce of pleasure, a price must be paid.”


 


And I am going to pay…


Erotic Audiobook


The Web Master Trilogy continues with Tested by Her Web Master, and concludes with Claimed by Her Web Master – coming May 19th and available now for pre-order. I am currently proofing the audiobook for Tested by Her Web Master, so it should be available by the end of April.


Available in eBook and FREE in Kindle Unlimited! 


Her Web Master                               Tested by Her Web Master


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Her Web Master                               Tested by Her Web Master


Audiobook 


Her Web Master at Audible   and    iTunes


Audio versions of  both Tested by Her Web Master and Claimed by Her Web Master coming soon!


You can pre-order the eBook of Claimed by Her Web Master here.


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Coming at the end of April!


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Published on April 07, 2016 07:39

April 5, 2016

Cover Reveal: Sex & Secrets by Jani Kay

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SexAndSecrets


So excited to share the cover reveal for my friend Jani Kay’s upcoming standalone book, Sex & Secrets! Coming April 25, this one sounds like a winner!


Design by Louisa Maggio of Love N Creations. Cover Model: Nic Brulot fitness model


Sex & Secrets

FORBIDDEN NEVER TASTED SO SWEET.

Montana:

I’m a lucky girl.

Levi Sinclair Barrington the third and I have an exclusive agreement. Three nights a week. No more, no less.

It’s uncomplicated with no strings attached. Exactly what I need because my career comes first. I’ve worked my ass off to get to the top, and my five year plan is well on track.

I’ve vowed never to get emotionally attached to a man. It just can’t happen or else the secrets of my past will come back to haunt me.

There is one twist though: Levi and I work for competing companies and it’s a recipe for disaster if we get discovered.

Our friends with benefits agreement has to stay a secret. Nobody can ever find out.


Levi:

I work hard and I play harder. It comes with the territory of being the heir to a billion dollar empire. I’m used to getting what I want and nobody denies me.

Except Montana Marx, the sassy executive who works for our biggest rival.

I have her in my bed three nights a week. We have a good thing going. All the benefits of being in a relationship minus the bullshit.

Until it isn’t enough.

I want more. Much more than she wants to give.


SexSecretsTeaser


Pre-Order your copy today from the following retailers: 


iBooks                 Barnes & Noble                   Kobo


99 cent special pre-order price. (Amazon readers will have 2 days to purchase at 99cents before price goes up to $3.39.)


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Published on April 05, 2016 10:52

March 24, 2016

Two Psychologists Talk BDSM – Interview with Dr. Charley Ferrer – Part 2

Normandie


2PsychologistsWelcome to Part Two of my interview with psychologist Dr. Charley Ferrer. If you missed Part One last week you can find it here.


Normandie: Some people report being overly interested in some aspect of BDSM (Bondage or spanking for example) from an early age. What do we know about the role or nature vs. nurture when it comes to how we identify certain sexual preferences? Is it like sexual orientation in that we are hard-wired for it, or is it something that we learn? 


Dr. Charley: I do not believe people are “overly” interested in a specific aspect of BDSM from an early age, I believe they’re merely connecting with their sensual and sexual desires as well as their core dynamic of being dominant or submissive though they do not have the “sensual” awareness nor emotional/psychological awareness of what it all means.


Let me give you an example: we start our life in bondage—“swaddling clothes” are placed on a baby when they’re born giving the infant the same feeling of protection and safety he or she experienced in the womb—a tight bound feeling. We receive spankings as a form of punishment as a child, and make a connection with a “loving” parent figure who’s merely looking out for our growth and well-being.


Nature or nurture can be seen in all aspects of our psyche as it can be in BDSM. As a sexologist I see it from one perspective, as a psychotherapist I can see it from another, as a woman, mother, lover, etc each has their own—both positive and negative. For instance, some psychologist and sociologist will say, “that person is a masochist because they were beaten as a child”. The same can be said of a sadist. However, if they addressed it from a sexological perspective they’d ask a more significant question, “Does the individual like pain because of the endorphins flowing through their body, the connect of acceptance and affection they feel from the person administering the stimulus, or are they doing it to feel stronger and more in control, feel they’ve accomplished a feat other’s couldn’t (like with athletes and the “no-pain no-gain” mentality).”


And what is commonly stated after a child receives a spanking or a harsh verbal reprimand?


“I’m doing this for your own good.”


“I’m doing this because I want you to be better and expect more from you.”


“I’m doing this because I love you.”


And in those declarations, the individual sometimes finds comfort, acceptance, encouragement and the will to do better—be more.


Thus, here is your “nurture” without labeling it positive or negative as in actuality, it is a little of both.  And before you jump on the bandwagon of those who believe the only reason someone is into D/s is because they’ve experienced abuse or trauma in their past, consider the men and women whom have never experienced a spanking in their life and who’s partners didn’t use harsh words to hurt or crush their ego. Those individuals who desire the belt; who want the confinement of control; for these it would be nature that drives them.


Regardless of how they came by their desires, our desires are all normal aspects of ourselves and our true human nature. It is healthy when we share it consensually with others. It is unhealthy and pathological when we force or coerce others to accept our demands for dominance or submission.


bondage rope


Where I think people need help from a therapist—a kink friendly and KNOWLEDGEABLE therapist, is when their core desires battle with their religious or cultural needs and they need a little help in finding a healthy balance between the two. I provide counseling and Mentorships for individuals who seek to come to terms with their true nature; because without doing so, their life will feel out of control and they will experience negative issues in their, including mental illness.as they struggle with their core beliefs and what others demand of them. This dichotomy and internal struggle is what creates pathology, depression, self-destructive behavior, hatred and intolerance of self and others.


I want to make a point about therapists and psychologists. There are many that claim they are “kink friendly”, however, they may later try to help you “overcome” your BDSM desires to “make you better and help you overcome the problems these inappropriate feelings cause”. These are not kink-friendly therapist. They are judgmental jerks who are using therapy as their moral platform and should be ashamed of themselves and NOT treat kinky people or get better educated.  When seeking counseling, ensure to find a  “Kink Knowledgeable & Accepting” therapist who KNOWS what dominance and submissive really is and can truly help you make peace with your desires without judgment. There are a few of us out there.


Normandie: If you could give some advice to someone who is just starting to explore BDSM what would it be? 


BDSMDr. Charley: I would recommend you read non-fiction books such as my book, BDSM The Naked Truth which provides you with the foundation you’ll need to get started in the D/s lifestyle as well as some advanced education. There’s also a list of reference books and resources to help you. Join a D/s organization in your area and attend Munches. Avoid online kink chatrooms as 90% of those participants wouldn’t know a flogger if it spanked them in the ass. And don’t be afraid to explore and ask for help. So many emotions will crop up and overwhelm you. (no pun intended)  It’s great to have a Mentor (not lover) that can help guide you and help you make sense of things, allowing you to grow and blossom into the sensual human being you were always meant to be.


Join us at BDSM Writers Con, now annually in Everett Washington and New York City where you’ll discover the various aspects of dominance and submission in a safe no-pressure environment with other readers and authors who are just as curious. We provide over 30-hours of workshops and live demonstrations taught by experienced BDSM Experts. We also hold a Dungeon night and several Mix & Mingles to have you hang out and have fun with your favorite or soon-to-be-favorite authors.


BDSMAnd if you’re more interested in personal private instruction or which to learn in a group setting, I host in-depth BDSM Mentorship programs and weekly Live Chat groups on BDSM. Plus, you can always take one of my eCourses in the privacy of your own home or laptop.


Thanks Dr. Charley for sharing your thoughts about BDSM with us! We hope you’ll come back again soon. 


 About Dr. Charley

Dr. Charley Ferrer Psychology BDSMDr. Charley Ferrer is a world-renowned Clinical Sexologist & Sex Therapist. She has been researching, exploring, and enjoying BDSM for over twenty years. She provides private D/s Mentorships for individuals and couples interested in discovering BDSM and claiming their full sensual identity and divinity. Dr. Charley is the host of BDSM Writers Con the only conference dedicated to authors and readers of dominance and submission. She hosts retreats throughout the US and overseas for women and couples. Visit her website at:  www.DoctorCharley.com or www.BDSMWritersCon.com or contact her at DoctorCharley@DoctorCharley.com for further information on her retreats and Mentorship programs.


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Published on March 24, 2016 15:48