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February 6, 2015
What Does Each Person In Your Life Represent?
Have you ever wondered why some people remain in your life and others seem to fade out. Well, I have a thought about this.
As you know, I am an advocate for the belief, that what we think about on a constant basis, shows up in our physical reality (thoughts become things).
I believe this applies to everything that we have in our life, but for simplification purposes, I will provide examples using people. Let’s pretend for a moment that you’re having a constant thought (which then turns into a feeling) of not being good enough. Well, the more you think like this, the stronger the feeling becomes. And, if you sustain this feeling for a prolonged length of time, that feeling may appear in your physical reality as a person that does not treat you right. This person could be someone you know on a personal level, or on a professional level. But know this, the minute you start valuing yourself, and believing that you are good enough, that person has no choice but to either change the way they treat you, or, literally disappear from your life (thoughts become things).
I believe this is the reason why some people come and go from our lives. Every person in our life represents a small part of us—or rather a part of the thoughts and feelings we carry with us. This is precisely why they say you can’t change other people, if you don’t like how you are being treated then you must be the one to change.Do yourself a favor and prove it to yourself. Take a look at the people in your life and discover how each one of them represents a small portion of the thoughts you carry with you. Additionally, look back through your life, at a time when you were experiencing some emotion/problem. Then, think back to who was in your life at that time, at that point, try to identify how that person represented that very emotion/problem. Finally, recognize how once you were able to move past that emotion/problem, that person either changed along with you, or they simply disappeared from your every day life.
Till Next time
As you know, I am an advocate for the belief, that what we think about on a constant basis, shows up in our physical reality (thoughts become things). I believe this applies to everything that we have in our life, but for simplification purposes, I will provide examples using people. Let’s pretend for a moment that you’re having a constant thought (which then turns into a feeling) of not being good enough. Well, the more you think like this, the stronger the feeling becomes. And, if you sustain this feeling for a prolonged length of time, that feeling may appear in your physical reality as a person that does not treat you right. This person could be someone you know on a personal level, or on a professional level. But know this, the minute you start valuing yourself, and believing that you are good enough, that person has no choice but to either change the way they treat you, or, literally disappear from your life (thoughts become things).
I believe this is the reason why some people come and go from our lives. Every person in our life represents a small part of us—or rather a part of the thoughts and feelings we carry with us. This is precisely why they say you can’t change other people, if you don’t like how you are being treated then you must be the one to change.Do yourself a favor and prove it to yourself. Take a look at the people in your life and discover how each one of them represents a small portion of the thoughts you carry with you. Additionally, look back through your life, at a time when you were experiencing some emotion/problem. Then, think back to who was in your life at that time, at that point, try to identify how that person represented that very emotion/problem. Finally, recognize how once you were able to move past that emotion/problem, that person either changed along with you, or they simply disappeared from your every day life.
Till Next time
January 27, 2015
Why Should You Celebrate Even The Smallest of Successes?
Have you ever started working on improving yourself only to quit after a few weeks? This could be because you were seeing little to no progress. The fact is, changes WERE happening, but you were so focused on the finished product that you missed the small, but oh so meaningful progress you were making.
Since it’s still January, and most of us are still somewhat motivated to sticking with our diet’s and exercise routine, I’ll encourage you to do one simple thing daily.
NOTICE every small change you make that moves you in the direction of your ultimate goal.
For example, if your goal is to make healthier lifestyle choices this year, and today, you took the stairs instead of the elevator, notice it. CELEBRATE; give yourself a high five for having made a different choice, a better choice. By noticing, it makes you more aware of the things that you do that are on autopilot. For instance, you may not realize that you take the elevator every time you go in and out of your office building, or residence. NOTICING, makes you more alert and more aware. Soon, when you’re presented with the option of elevator or stairs, you will consciously choose the stairs, no more autopilot. This small feat will be just another important piece of the puzzle that moves you toward your goal.
So starting today celebrate all your accomplishments, no matter how small, and I guarantee you will start SEEING results!
Till Next Time!
Since it’s still January, and most of us are still somewhat motivated to sticking with our diet’s and exercise routine, I’ll encourage you to do one simple thing daily.NOTICE every small change you make that moves you in the direction of your ultimate goal.
For example, if your goal is to make healthier lifestyle choices this year, and today, you took the stairs instead of the elevator, notice it. CELEBRATE; give yourself a high five for having made a different choice, a better choice. By noticing, it makes you more aware of the things that you do that are on autopilot. For instance, you may not realize that you take the elevator every time you go in and out of your office building, or residence. NOTICING, makes you more alert and more aware. Soon, when you’re presented with the option of elevator or stairs, you will consciously choose the stairs, no more autopilot. This small feat will be just another important piece of the puzzle that moves you toward your goal.
So starting today celebrate all your accomplishments, no matter how small, and I guarantee you will start SEEING results!
Till Next Time!
January 20, 2015
What Do You Know For Sure?
Last week I started and finished Oprah’s book, What I Know For Sure. Since then, I’ve been asking myself that same question; what I found, was pretty interesting.
Oprah say’s that what you know for sure should stand the test of time. This shouldn’t be something you know today, but next month you change your mind about it. With this in mind, I went inward continually asking, What Do I Know For Sure?
In my search I realized that my response did not have to be something we collectively agree on, but rather what I believed to be true. It had to be something that in my heart of hearts would never change. So here it goes, this is what I know for sure:
I know for sure that being a mother is the greatest honor of my life. My children inspire me, motivate me and make me want to be better. I know for sure that music is one of the best expressions of art there is. Music is also beautiful, inspiring and motivating. And finally, I know for sure, that at the end of the day, no matter what, if there ever comes a time where I’m in agony over a heart-wrenching life problem, I will always turn to God. So far my list is short but I know it will grow. Once I asked the question, it took no time at all for the answers to reveal itself.
Try it for yourself, ask, What You Know For Sure, and you’ll be amazed by what shows up. No matter what age you are, chances are, there is at least one thing you know for sure. Doing this, I believe grounds you in some way. There is something about proclaiming your truth. Something about knowing you are unwavering in a particular area of your life. I know my list will grow, and I look forward to discovering the many things I know for sure.
Oprah say’s that what you know for sure should stand the test of time. This shouldn’t be something you know today, but next month you change your mind about it. With this in mind, I went inward continually asking, What Do I Know For Sure? In my search I realized that my response did not have to be something we collectively agree on, but rather what I believed to be true. It had to be something that in my heart of hearts would never change. So here it goes, this is what I know for sure:
I know for sure that being a mother is the greatest honor of my life. My children inspire me, motivate me and make me want to be better. I know for sure that music is one of the best expressions of art there is. Music is also beautiful, inspiring and motivating. And finally, I know for sure, that at the end of the day, no matter what, if there ever comes a time where I’m in agony over a heart-wrenching life problem, I will always turn to God. So far my list is short but I know it will grow. Once I asked the question, it took no time at all for the answers to reveal itself.
Try it for yourself, ask, What You Know For Sure, and you’ll be amazed by what shows up. No matter what age you are, chances are, there is at least one thing you know for sure. Doing this, I believe grounds you in some way. There is something about proclaiming your truth. Something about knowing you are unwavering in a particular area of your life. I know my list will grow, and I look forward to discovering the many things I know for sure.
January 13, 2015
How To Get Out Of A Funk
Okay, although I do my best to motivate each of you, sometimes, I need encouragement too. Yesterday was one of those days. I can’t explain what was wrong with me except for that I felt sad for no reason. I was feeling so down that I was even drawing sad faces on post-it notes. I tried listening to motivational teachers to jolt me back into a happy space, but it wasn't working. Nothing was resonating with me, and I couldn't focus on any of it. I’d start listening to something, then, I’d push it aside and start another, only to stop it mid way through.
So what was up? Honestly, I’m still not sure. But, I do know this. After a couple hours of feeling badly, I took matters into my own hands and refused to let it linger, and what I found was this:
Once again I received validation that being in a state of contentment does not come from outside of me. I cannot rely on others to make me “feel” a certain way. Instead, I confirmed that I have everything I need to feel better.How did I realize this? By asking myself a series of questions, what makes me happy? What makes time fly and truly fill me with joy? First thing that came up for me, was being with my family... well, because I was at work, I couldn't be with them. I couldn't just pick up and leave and have a free day. So, I kept going. What else makes me happy? Writing does. And so I decided to write. I know I was at work, but I had to do something, I was in a funk and I was falling fast into a not so good place. By asking the question and then following through with what I knew was going to make me feel better, I finally did. My mood started shifting from one of sadness to one of purposefulness and excitement.
I tell you this because I know we all go through these moments, but most of us don’t know how to snap out of it. Often times, instead of seeking for a solution, we simply accept the way we’re feeling day after day until we finally end up in some form of depression. I want to give you at least one tool to use if ever you find yourself as I did yesterday. The next time you’re feeling off, try it for yourself, go inward, ask yourself, when are you the happiest, if it’s being home binging on your favorite TV show, and you can do it, then do it. My point is, take charge of your life, your thoughts and your happiness, by doing so you will always have access to contentment, no matter what your circumstances are.
So what was up? Honestly, I’m still not sure. But, I do know this. After a couple hours of feeling badly, I took matters into my own hands and refused to let it linger, and what I found was this:Once again I received validation that being in a state of contentment does not come from outside of me. I cannot rely on others to make me “feel” a certain way. Instead, I confirmed that I have everything I need to feel better.How did I realize this? By asking myself a series of questions, what makes me happy? What makes time fly and truly fill me with joy? First thing that came up for me, was being with my family... well, because I was at work, I couldn't be with them. I couldn't just pick up and leave and have a free day. So, I kept going. What else makes me happy? Writing does. And so I decided to write. I know I was at work, but I had to do something, I was in a funk and I was falling fast into a not so good place. By asking the question and then following through with what I knew was going to make me feel better, I finally did. My mood started shifting from one of sadness to one of purposefulness and excitement.
I tell you this because I know we all go through these moments, but most of us don’t know how to snap out of it. Often times, instead of seeking for a solution, we simply accept the way we’re feeling day after day until we finally end up in some form of depression. I want to give you at least one tool to use if ever you find yourself as I did yesterday. The next time you’re feeling off, try it for yourself, go inward, ask yourself, when are you the happiest, if it’s being home binging on your favorite TV show, and you can do it, then do it. My point is, take charge of your life, your thoughts and your happiness, by doing so you will always have access to contentment, no matter what your circumstances are.
January 5, 2015
Get 2015 Started Right
Hello all,
I've been MIA lately, but it’s only because I've been trying to sort some things out in my professional sphere. And of course, there’s no better time to get yourself straightened out than the beginning of a new year. I am not sure why the start of a new year seems to energize me and fill me with such optimism, but it is an awesome feeling. As the end of the year approached, I had all these ideas and goals that I wanted to strive for this year. I couldn't wait until January 1st to write them down and start heading toward them.
So, on January 1, the first thing I did was tackle the one thing most of us hate doing, taking down our Christmas decorations. I decided that I would not procrastinate on this one task, this, I decided, would start me off on the right foot avoiding all and any procrastination.Second, I sat down and wrote all the things I wanted to have, do or get in 2015. As I was writing down my goals, I really focused on each thing. I wanted to make sure my 2015 goals were not considered a “wish list.” I aimed for things that I could obtain as long as I worked for them and practiced discipline. I’ll give a few examples:I want to travel. Specifically to California, New York and/or Colorado. There is no reason why I can’t do these things. The only thing stopping me, is me. It’s not like I said I wanted to go to Mars, or the moon.I want to perfect a few yoga poses. Sure, I do lots of poses now, but none are quite there.I want to get one piece of writing published, whether it’s my blog, an article, or one of my novels, I don’t care. All are equally important.You see what I mean? Writing down my goals gave me focus and something to work toward. “Well it’s too late for me, it’s already January 6th," you say. Don’t fret... of course it is not too late. You can decide to set goals for yourself any day of the year. I say, whenever inspiration hits, that’s the best day to get started on moving toward your goals.
Oh, one more thing. For me, this year has a theme, and it is this,“some people live 90 years, others live 1 year 90 times.” Going forward I am determined to live every year as a brand new year, and keep only, or repeat only, the things that fully satisfy my soul!
Till next time!
I've been MIA lately, but it’s only because I've been trying to sort some things out in my professional sphere. And of course, there’s no better time to get yourself straightened out than the beginning of a new year. I am not sure why the start of a new year seems to energize me and fill me with such optimism, but it is an awesome feeling. As the end of the year approached, I had all these ideas and goals that I wanted to strive for this year. I couldn't wait until January 1st to write them down and start heading toward them.
So, on January 1, the first thing I did was tackle the one thing most of us hate doing, taking down our Christmas decorations. I decided that I would not procrastinate on this one task, this, I decided, would start me off on the right foot avoiding all and any procrastination.Second, I sat down and wrote all the things I wanted to have, do or get in 2015. As I was writing down my goals, I really focused on each thing. I wanted to make sure my 2015 goals were not considered a “wish list.” I aimed for things that I could obtain as long as I worked for them and practiced discipline. I’ll give a few examples:I want to travel. Specifically to California, New York and/or Colorado. There is no reason why I can’t do these things. The only thing stopping me, is me. It’s not like I said I wanted to go to Mars, or the moon.I want to perfect a few yoga poses. Sure, I do lots of poses now, but none are quite there.I want to get one piece of writing published, whether it’s my blog, an article, or one of my novels, I don’t care. All are equally important.You see what I mean? Writing down my goals gave me focus and something to work toward. “Well it’s too late for me, it’s already January 6th," you say. Don’t fret... of course it is not too late. You can decide to set goals for yourself any day of the year. I say, whenever inspiration hits, that’s the best day to get started on moving toward your goals.Oh, one more thing. For me, this year has a theme, and it is this,“some people live 90 years, others live 1 year 90 times.” Going forward I am determined to live every year as a brand new year, and keep only, or repeat only, the things that fully satisfy my soul!
Till next time!
December 8, 2014
What's Behind Everything That You’re Unhappy With ?
The truth is when I heard what you’re about to read, it blew my mind. I immediately searched my life for proof that they were wrong. But, what I found is that they were 100% correct.
Are you ready for it? Here it goes.
Lack of “self love” is behind everything that you’re unhappy with in your life. If you were to trace back to the root of any problem you're facing, you will find that the reason for your troubles is lack of self love. Think about it for a minute, if it’s your weight you're unhappy with, try to remember the things you say to yourself about your body. The same goes for anything else that you're struggling with. I’m sure your struggles are due to the harsh criticism you engage in.
Now on the other side, look at your life at the things you are completely satisfied with. How much love are you pouring into it, how much love are you giving. I’ll give you an example.
For me, being a mom has been an amazing journey, one of the best things in my life. I love them to pieces and I have a great relationship with them. Through their entire life, not once have I had a negative feeling toward them, or about being a parent. I have embraced it, I have poured all of myself into them, and when I’m not around them only good feelings come from being a mom.
In contrast, my struggles have always been career driven. My mind has always been occupied with less than appealing thoughts. At first feelings of being lost, then luckily I was found, but then consumed with thoughts of not being good enough, or not having, or not getting, or comparing myself to others. Always having the feeling of “not having” or being stuck in a job I hate.So if it is true, if the reason I have a healthy relationship with my children is because I have given them nothing but my love and I have an unhealthy relationship with my career because I have given it zero love, then it’s time to change that, don’t you think?
As I always do, I will ask you to embark on this journey with me. Take a look at your life—any area where there’s lack. Then, think about how you got there, once you connect that your results are due to the absence of love, then, change it. Starting today pour nothing but love into that situation, no matter where you’re at. If it’s your health, or your career, or your relationship, give it love and nothing else.
Are you ready for it? Here it goes. Lack of “self love” is behind everything that you’re unhappy with in your life. If you were to trace back to the root of any problem you're facing, you will find that the reason for your troubles is lack of self love. Think about it for a minute, if it’s your weight you're unhappy with, try to remember the things you say to yourself about your body. The same goes for anything else that you're struggling with. I’m sure your struggles are due to the harsh criticism you engage in.
Now on the other side, look at your life at the things you are completely satisfied with. How much love are you pouring into it, how much love are you giving. I’ll give you an example.For me, being a mom has been an amazing journey, one of the best things in my life. I love them to pieces and I have a great relationship with them. Through their entire life, not once have I had a negative feeling toward them, or about being a parent. I have embraced it, I have poured all of myself into them, and when I’m not around them only good feelings come from being a mom.
In contrast, my struggles have always been career driven. My mind has always been occupied with less than appealing thoughts. At first feelings of being lost, then luckily I was found, but then consumed with thoughts of not being good enough, or not having, or not getting, or comparing myself to others. Always having the feeling of “not having” or being stuck in a job I hate.So if it is true, if the reason I have a healthy relationship with my children is because I have given them nothing but my love and I have an unhealthy relationship with my career because I have given it zero love, then it’s time to change that, don’t you think? As I always do, I will ask you to embark on this journey with me. Take a look at your life—any area where there’s lack. Then, think about how you got there, once you connect that your results are due to the absence of love, then, change it. Starting today pour nothing but love into that situation, no matter where you’re at. If it’s your health, or your career, or your relationship, give it love and nothing else.
November 20, 2014
Reasons why I hate my parents:
How many of you have found yourself on the this side of the above statement. Everything in your life seems to be going perfectly, all but one little thing. This one thing, you can’t seem to move past, so you start asking yourself, why I am struggling with this? What is wrong with me? (whining voice is necessary) And RIGHT THERE is where you find your answer! This is my parents fault!
If only they had (fill in the blank) or, if they had not said (fill in the blank) then today I would be a perfect human being, living the perfect life. Those jerks! I am sure that you can make a list of things that you are unhappy with, and surely you can trace it back to your parents.
I, myself, have fallen victim to this trap. Why am I so shy, I asked myself. Hmmm, let me think, well there was this one time I said something to my dad, and then he and everyone around me laughed! What I said was not meant to be funny....
Or, God why do I hate every single job I've ever had? Why do I quit time after time!! Wait, when I quit my fifth job, my dad laughed and didn’t act surprised, it was as though he was expecting me to quit. How dare he!!!
Or, why do I have self esteem issues? Wait a minute, my mother always talked about how big my hands were, and how big my back was, and how my sister had her narrow shoulders. Oh my god, it's all starting to make sense.
If only he had not laughed... today, I would have a fulfilling career! It’s my dad’s fault that I have stage fright, and because of him, I failed to become the famous singer I was supposed to be. Because of him, I am floating from one unfulfilling job to the next, and it is my mother's fault that I feel fat!And for these reasons, I hate my parents!
Of course this could not be furthest from the truth. I LOVE my parents and in my eyes they are the best parents anyone could ever ask for. But I won’t lie, at times, when I have not been happy with my life, I sought out reasons to blame them. I searched and searched until I came up with the examples you just read. But thank God, through various teachings I have realized that my parents are not to blame for the choices I have made in my life. After all, I was the one who chose to quit high school, instead of pursuing a career in music. I was the one that dwelled on the fact that now I was never going to work in music and settled for any retail job that showed up (in my twenties). And I was the one that compared myself to everyone in the world.
It would be ridiculous for me to blame them, because along with the above examples, my parents always told me they loved me, that I was beautiful and that the world was at my feet (in their own way of course).
Like most of us, it would be easy to trace back every single disappointment we've had back to our parents, but who would that serve? No one... And, besides, it wouldn't be true and you know it.
I speak of this topic as a daughter and as a mother. From both ends I can see how maybe some thing’s that parent's say, thought to be funny, may actually have long lasting affects.
My belief is, that it's important not give anyone that much power over to other people, even if they are your parents. For if you do, you could remain stuck in the 'what if's' and in the blaming game.
I recommend you do this. Look at yourself in the mirror and admit that you've had some, if not most, of the doing in whatever it is that you're struggling with. By doing this, you will free yourself. This exercise will help you see that if you got yourself into this, then you can yourself out. Blaming others for your unhappiness will put you in a place where you are waiting for them to fix you. Putting things into perspective, will help you see things in a new light.
My advise as a mother is this, be kind with your words and with your opinions of your children, even if your words are intended as jokes, they may not understand, and your words could cause, in their eyes, irreversible damage.
My advise as a daughter, is move on, let it go, it's not their fault. Take control of your thoughts, and by doing so you will take control of your life.
Visit my previous blog post about What do you say to yourself it was inspired by Jack Canfield's formula, E-Event + R-Response = O- Outcome. This is the formula Jack Canfield uses to explain how YOU have the biggest influence over yourself.
Above all, let me say one last thing because I really do hate the title of this post! I LOVE MY MAMI Y PAPI!
If only they had (fill in the blank) or, if they had not said (fill in the blank) then today I would be a perfect human being, living the perfect life. Those jerks! I am sure that you can make a list of things that you are unhappy with, and surely you can trace it back to your parents.
I, myself, have fallen victim to this trap. Why am I so shy, I asked myself. Hmmm, let me think, well there was this one time I said something to my dad, and then he and everyone around me laughed! What I said was not meant to be funny....
Or, God why do I hate every single job I've ever had? Why do I quit time after time!! Wait, when I quit my fifth job, my dad laughed and didn’t act surprised, it was as though he was expecting me to quit. How dare he!!! 
Or, why do I have self esteem issues? Wait a minute, my mother always talked about how big my hands were, and how big my back was, and how my sister had her narrow shoulders. Oh my god, it's all starting to make sense.If only he had not laughed... today, I would have a fulfilling career! It’s my dad’s fault that I have stage fright, and because of him, I failed to become the famous singer I was supposed to be. Because of him, I am floating from one unfulfilling job to the next, and it is my mother's fault that I feel fat!And for these reasons, I hate my parents!
Of course this could not be furthest from the truth. I LOVE my parents and in my eyes they are the best parents anyone could ever ask for. But I won’t lie, at times, when I have not been happy with my life, I sought out reasons to blame them. I searched and searched until I came up with the examples you just read. But thank God, through various teachings I have realized that my parents are not to blame for the choices I have made in my life. After all, I was the one who chose to quit high school, instead of pursuing a career in music. I was the one that dwelled on the fact that now I was never going to work in music and settled for any retail job that showed up (in my twenties). And I was the one that compared myself to everyone in the world.
It would be ridiculous for me to blame them, because along with the above examples, my parents always told me they loved me, that I was beautiful and that the world was at my feet (in their own way of course).
Like most of us, it would be easy to trace back every single disappointment we've had back to our parents, but who would that serve? No one... And, besides, it wouldn't be true and you know it.
I speak of this topic as a daughter and as a mother. From both ends I can see how maybe some thing’s that parent's say, thought to be funny, may actually have long lasting affects.
My belief is, that it's important not give anyone that much power over to other people, even if they are your parents. For if you do, you could remain stuck in the 'what if's' and in the blaming game.
I recommend you do this. Look at yourself in the mirror and admit that you've had some, if not most, of the doing in whatever it is that you're struggling with. By doing this, you will free yourself. This exercise will help you see that if you got yourself into this, then you can yourself out. Blaming others for your unhappiness will put you in a place where you are waiting for them to fix you. Putting things into perspective, will help you see things in a new light.
My advise as a mother is this, be kind with your words and with your opinions of your children, even if your words are intended as jokes, they may not understand, and your words could cause, in their eyes, irreversible damage.
My advise as a daughter, is move on, let it go, it's not their fault. Take control of your thoughts, and by doing so you will take control of your life.
Visit my previous blog post about What do you say to yourself it was inspired by Jack Canfield's formula, E-Event + R-Response = O- Outcome. This is the formula Jack Canfield uses to explain how YOU have the biggest influence over yourself.
Above all, let me say one last thing because I really do hate the title of this post! I LOVE MY MAMI Y PAPI!
November 10, 2014
5 things you should do before getting out of bed!
Is this how your morning starts? Alarm sounds off a half hour prior to your actual wake time— you've given yourself some time to actually “wake up.” You hit snooze three times, and contemplate hitting it a fourth time just so that you can squeeze in an extra 10 minutes of sleep. However, you really can’t go back to sleep because you’re dreading the next time the alarm sounds off. Finally, you decide to get up. You grudgingly rise from your bed, drag your tired body to the shower, and then stay in there much longer than you should, thereby, throwing off your entire schedule for the rest of the day.
If this is you, I have a better idea.
First: Set your alarm (usually your phone) to your favorite song, this will put a smile on your face, instead of upsetting you.
Second: Do not snooze; decide to wake up right then. After all, you did wake up another day; this is a time to celebrate.
Three: Lay in silence and make sure you have no distractions, then, give thanks for your life, for the life of your loved ones and for everything you have.
Four: Visualize your day. Imagine your perfect day ahead, feel it in your core, and don’t move on until you have the feeling of complete bliss.
Five: Smile. With a smile on your face it is impossible to have negative thoughts.
After you have successfully completed the above steps, then you are ready to Rise and Shine! Your day will go so much better, simply, because you took control. Doing the above five steps will make you feel as though morning wasn't forced upon you but instead it was welcomed by you.
So go on, make these small changes and see how your days start to look a little brighter.
Till Next Time!
If this is you, I have a better idea.
First: Set your alarm (usually your phone) to your favorite song, this will put a smile on your face, instead of upsetting you.Second: Do not snooze; decide to wake up right then. After all, you did wake up another day; this is a time to celebrate.
Three: Lay in silence and make sure you have no distractions, then, give thanks for your life, for the life of your loved ones and for everything you have.
Four: Visualize your day. Imagine your perfect day ahead, feel it in your core, and don’t move on until you have the feeling of complete bliss.
Five: Smile. With a smile on your face it is impossible to have negative thoughts.
After you have successfully completed the above steps, then you are ready to Rise and Shine! Your day will go so much better, simply, because you took control. Doing the above five steps will make you feel as though morning wasn't forced upon you but instead it was welcomed by you.
So go on, make these small changes and see how your days start to look a little brighter.
Till Next Time!
October 28, 2014
Could the difference between doing what you love or not, be the simple
act of being courageous?
Could it really be that easy? Could the difference between doing what you love or not, be the simple act of being courageous?
Time and again we hear of stories where people tell us about the "moment" when they arrived at the place that ultimately led to their current success. Usually, they start off by telling you how hard it was, followed by some ups and downs, which led to the moment when they almost gave up, but THEN they had an
Aha
moment and they just WENT FOR IT! This "aha moment" can be only be described as, COURAGE.
But what does it truly take to be courageous? I think there are five key ingredients that can make you into a courageous person. These steps can help eliminate self doubt, procrastination and stagnation.
First, you must have faith, or belief in yourself and in your abilities. You must have irrefutable belief that you can have whatever it is that you want.
Two, you must want it more than anything else. More than a TV show, more than hanging out with your friends, basically, you have to want it more than you want your down time.
Three, you must take any and all opportunities that come your way, no matter how small. One door will open another, in other words, be a Yes Man.
Four, eliminate all routine from your life. In my opinion, routine is the death of creativity.
Five, everyday do one thing that moves you in the direction of your goal, no matter how small, even if it's a baby step. Every step in the right direction is a good thing.
Taking these steps will establish a sense of confidence and a knowing--that will guarantee you are ready for WHEN the big opportunity comes your way. In addition to, filling you with the courage you thought you didn’t have.
Finally, you will not doubt yourself, for you have practiced belief and faith. You will see opportunities, because you were available. You will meet others that share your goals, because you said yes. New opportunities will find you because you switched up your day. And finally, you will be closer to success because you didn’t waste a single day.
Take a look at this inspirational, musical short film, Today's the Day- A Musical Short it’s pretty AWESOME. Share it with your friends and family who are in need of a little pick-me-up. Today's the Day- A Musical Short
Time and again we hear of stories where people tell us about the "moment" when they arrived at the place that ultimately led to their current success. Usually, they start off by telling you how hard it was, followed by some ups and downs, which led to the moment when they almost gave up, but THEN they had an
Aha
moment and they just WENT FOR IT! This "aha moment" can be only be described as, COURAGE.But what does it truly take to be courageous? I think there are five key ingredients that can make you into a courageous person. These steps can help eliminate self doubt, procrastination and stagnation.
First, you must have faith, or belief in yourself and in your abilities. You must have irrefutable belief that you can have whatever it is that you want.
Two, you must want it more than anything else. More than a TV show, more than hanging out with your friends, basically, you have to want it more than you want your down time. 
Three, you must take any and all opportunities that come your way, no matter how small. One door will open another, in other words, be a Yes Man.
Four, eliminate all routine from your life. In my opinion, routine is the death of creativity. 
Five, everyday do one thing that moves you in the direction of your goal, no matter how small, even if it's a baby step. Every step in the right direction is a good thing.
Taking these steps will establish a sense of confidence and a knowing--that will guarantee you are ready for WHEN the big opportunity comes your way. In addition to, filling you with the courage you thought you didn’t have. Finally, you will not doubt yourself, for you have practiced belief and faith. You will see opportunities, because you were available. You will meet others that share your goals, because you said yes. New opportunities will find you because you switched up your day. And finally, you will be closer to success because you didn’t waste a single day.
Take a look at this inspirational, musical short film, Today's the Day- A Musical Short it’s pretty AWESOME. Share it with your friends and family who are in need of a little pick-me-up. Today's the Day- A Musical Short
October 7, 2014
What is the meaning of....
Usually the above statement is linked to "what is the meaning of life". I believe that in order to find the meaning of life you need not look too far.
There's no need to be philosophical about this, simply look at your life, then chunk it down even more to where you're looking at the smallest of aspects of your life, good or bad, and there you will find the "meaning of life".
I think that most things in life, just are, and it's the meaning one gives it that ultimately leads to how we feel about it, thereby coming up with some conclusion to "what is the meaning of life". Of course, as I usually do, I am going to use 'career' as an example, because as I've stated in my blogs, this is where I am struggling the most, and therefore, hope to grow by sharing my thoughts with you.
Okay, so why is it the I hate my job, and love the potential career in writing that I have in my head. I've recently learned that this phenomenon is due to the meaning I've given each thing. The feeling I've given my job is: stuck, boring, and meaningless. The meaning I've given my potential career is: happiness, freedom and meaningful. As you can see these two are at complete opposite ends. This got me wondering, if I were to change the meaning I've given my job would I then really feel differently about it? Then, if I did feel differently about it, what would happen? Would I be happy? But then, I wouldn't have anything to complain about...And what if I became happy with my days, so happy in fact that I would no longer want to write? No, I must continue to hate my job otherwise I might be happy!
The truth is, there's no need to fear this happening. The passion that I have for writing doesn't stem from hating some other thing, it comes from an entirely different place, it comes from a place of love. And that's the difference, hating my job comes from a place of fear. Fear of failure, fear of not making it.
The truth is, hating a certain thing--in my case, my day job, doesn't really do anything other than keep you stuck in that situation, and make you miserable in the process. Just like any habit, this way of thinking becomes home to you, this is your "comfort zone". Think about it this way. How many times have you said "I'm not going to eat sweet's anymore," yet you return to it time after time because it makes you feel good. Even though you know in the long run those sweet's are slowly hurting your health. But, if you're able to resist the temptation of reaching for those sweet's, then magic happens. Eventually you won't crave them anymore, and ultimately your health will improve. Well, the same goes for this negative way of thinking. If you stop complaining and stop looking at the negative things in your daily life, your life will improve and you will be a much happier person, probably closer to being the kind of person you want to be, and much closer to your overall goals.
So start today, start giving the things in your life that aggravate you a NEW MEANING and see how this transforms your days, your mood, and ultimately your life. I will definitely try it, because frankly I haven't really been pleased with my thought life lately.
Till Next Time!
There's no need to be philosophical about this, simply look at your life, then chunk it down even more to where you're looking at the smallest of aspects of your life, good or bad, and there you will find the "meaning of life". I think that most things in life, just are, and it's the meaning one gives it that ultimately leads to how we feel about it, thereby coming up with some conclusion to "what is the meaning of life". Of course, as I usually do, I am going to use 'career' as an example, because as I've stated in my blogs, this is where I am struggling the most, and therefore, hope to grow by sharing my thoughts with you.
Okay, so why is it the I hate my job, and love the potential career in writing that I have in my head. I've recently learned that this phenomenon is due to the meaning I've given each thing. The feeling I've given my job is: stuck, boring, and meaningless. The meaning I've given my potential career is: happiness, freedom and meaningful. As you can see these two are at complete opposite ends. This got me wondering, if I were to change the meaning I've given my job would I then really feel differently about it? Then, if I did feel differently about it, what would happen? Would I be happy? But then, I wouldn't have anything to complain about...And what if I became happy with my days, so happy in fact that I would no longer want to write? No, I must continue to hate my job otherwise I might be happy!
The truth is, there's no need to fear this happening. The passion that I have for writing doesn't stem from hating some other thing, it comes from an entirely different place, it comes from a place of love. And that's the difference, hating my job comes from a place of fear. Fear of failure, fear of not making it. The truth is, hating a certain thing--in my case, my day job, doesn't really do anything other than keep you stuck in that situation, and make you miserable in the process. Just like any habit, this way of thinking becomes home to you, this is your "comfort zone". Think about it this way. How many times have you said "I'm not going to eat sweet's anymore," yet you return to it time after time because it makes you feel good. Even though you know in the long run those sweet's are slowly hurting your health. But, if you're able to resist the temptation of reaching for those sweet's, then magic happens. Eventually you won't crave them anymore, and ultimately your health will improve. Well, the same goes for this negative way of thinking. If you stop complaining and stop looking at the negative things in your daily life, your life will improve and you will be a much happier person, probably closer to being the kind of person you want to be, and much closer to your overall goals.
So start today, start giving the things in your life that aggravate you a NEW MEANING and see how this transforms your days, your mood, and ultimately your life. I will definitely try it, because frankly I haven't really been pleased with my thought life lately.
Till Next Time!
