Max Davine's Blog - Posts Tagged "happiness"
Letter to the young
Allow yourself to be a child. You don't have to be so wise and so strong. Know what you want, and set about getting it, but don't sacrifice you're right to learn and make mistakes along the way.
Stop trying to make people proud of you. You never will, and that's not a bad thing. Nobody can be proud of you for long, not your parents, teachers, or anyone, because nobody truly understands you or what you want. It's not up to you to fulfill people's expectations of you. Set your own standard, and rise only to that.
Worship life. There is no higher power. What you breathe and what you bleed are the essence of you, and the completeness of all creation exists in your veins and in your heart. Don't give it to the next life, there might not be one, and this one is too precious to ignore for a hypothesis.
Let people down. Not all the time; keep the promises you make, but make promises sparingly, and don't be afraid to break them if the action or belief which prompted them is undermined. Don't be so afraid to hear people are disappointed in you. They don't have realistic standards for you, because they see your potential through the reflection of their own. Other people's experiences and abilities are not yours. Those who will forgive you are the only ones valuable enough to keep you. The rest will only hurt you, and your efforts will be wasted. They don't love you for you, not even if they are your parents, they love what you can do for them. Those who forgive you are those who truly love your for who you are.
Stop trying to take everyone's pain away; you can't, your words and your support cannot penetrate the present, and if the present is hurting someone, then they won't need or want you to help them. Support them, comfort them, be there for them and take care of them, but you cannot, nor should not, change the way they feel. They will only learn from it if they deal with it themselves.
Be an embarrassment, to yourself and others. Voice your feelings, tell that person, let your actions speak, as well as your words. You will face the repercussions, but they are better than a life spent in falsehood or denial. Those you are trying to impress, or who are judging you, are not you, nor do they know you, and they will disappear from you life, and you will have lost both them and your chance at letting yourself be known.
Don't be afraid of heartbreak. It is one of life's constants, and the sooner you can learn to deal with it, the better your life will be. You will forgive those who do it to you, through you, or those who you break yourself against, and if you are forgiven in turn, then bonds are formed which cannot be broken.
Live.
Stop trying to make people proud of you. You never will, and that's not a bad thing. Nobody can be proud of you for long, not your parents, teachers, or anyone, because nobody truly understands you or what you want. It's not up to you to fulfill people's expectations of you. Set your own standard, and rise only to that.
Worship life. There is no higher power. What you breathe and what you bleed are the essence of you, and the completeness of all creation exists in your veins and in your heart. Don't give it to the next life, there might not be one, and this one is too precious to ignore for a hypothesis.
Let people down. Not all the time; keep the promises you make, but make promises sparingly, and don't be afraid to break them if the action or belief which prompted them is undermined. Don't be so afraid to hear people are disappointed in you. They don't have realistic standards for you, because they see your potential through the reflection of their own. Other people's experiences and abilities are not yours. Those who will forgive you are the only ones valuable enough to keep you. The rest will only hurt you, and your efforts will be wasted. They don't love you for you, not even if they are your parents, they love what you can do for them. Those who forgive you are those who truly love your for who you are.
Stop trying to take everyone's pain away; you can't, your words and your support cannot penetrate the present, and if the present is hurting someone, then they won't need or want you to help them. Support them, comfort them, be there for them and take care of them, but you cannot, nor should not, change the way they feel. They will only learn from it if they deal with it themselves.
Be an embarrassment, to yourself and others. Voice your feelings, tell that person, let your actions speak, as well as your words. You will face the repercussions, but they are better than a life spent in falsehood or denial. Those you are trying to impress, or who are judging you, are not you, nor do they know you, and they will disappear from you life, and you will have lost both them and your chance at letting yourself be known.
Don't be afraid of heartbreak. It is one of life's constants, and the sooner you can learn to deal with it, the better your life will be. You will forgive those who do it to you, through you, or those who you break yourself against, and if you are forgiven in turn, then bonds are formed which cannot be broken.
Live.
