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Talking Co-Parenting with Soila Sindiyo

Recently, we had the pleasure of being interviewed by Soila Sindiyo, a UK-based

psychologist who help families and children deal with trauma, with a focus on divorce and separation. In this interview, we discussed:

How do you continue co-parenting with a parent who is constantly sabotaging the co-parenting arrangement?


How do you manage school functions, Christmas and other important dates and anniversaries?


How do you introduce a new partner to your children and to your current co-parenting plan...

"Co-Parenting Matters" Celebrates Mothers!

photo by beverlytaz

Each May, we celebrate Mother's Month on our "Co-Parenting Matters" show on BlogTalkRadio,and this year we're celebrating with some of our favorite moms. Join us next Sunday, May 19 at our new earlier time, 8:30 PM EST, as we talk about step-mothering, single motherhood, adoptive motherhood...and of course, co-parenting, with our special guests: Stacia L. Brown, founder of BeyondBabyMamas.com; Friend of Co-Parenting 101, PhatKeke; Heather Hetchler, founder of Cafesmom; Amy...

Co-Parenting in the News: Denise Richards Has Temporary Custody of Charlie Sheen's Kids

Death threats. Restraining orders. Post-divorce family vacations gone bad. All part of the up and down of Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards' co-parenting situation. Despite this, Richards was recently given temporary custodyof Sheen's twin sons while their mother, Brooke Mueller (Sheen's second wife), is receiving treatment for substance abuse.

This is a bittersweet development for the two boys who were removed from Sheen's home by police in 2011 in the wake of his very public meltdown.

For the...

Co-Parenting Challenge: What's Good About Your Child's Other Parent?

In celebration of Valentine's Day,we blogged aboutthe right children have toexpress love and affection for, and receive love and affection from, both parents. This is one of 19 rights listed inthe "Bill of Rights for Children in Divorce and Dissolution Actions,” a helpful list of rights created by the New Jersey Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts. (You can read the full list of rightshere.) In this series of posts, we're taking a closer look at each of the other 18 r...

Co-Parenting and Dating: Spring into a New Relationship!

Spring...the season for all things new and full of potential. Maybe spring has you considering the possibility of someone new and special in your life, but you're wondering: Am I ready to date again? If you're not sure--or not surehowto jump back into the dating arena--you won't want to miss the next episode of "Co-Parenting Matters" on BlogTalkRadio!

Mandy Walker

Our guest will be Mandy Walker, a divorce writer, mentor and coach. Following her own divorce in 2007, Mandy founded SinceMyDivorce....

Where a Co-Parent Ends and a Child Begins

In celebration of Valentine's Day, we blogged about the right children have toexpress love and affection for, and receive love and affection from, both parents. This is one of 19 rights listed inthe "Bill of Rights for Children in Divorce and Dissolution Actions,” a helpful list of rights created by the New Jersey Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts. (You can read the full list of rightshere.) In this series of posts, we're taking a closer look at each of the other 18...

Co-Parenting Mentors: Why We Need Them

photo by Craig Parylo

I discovered my first co-parenting mentors years before Mike and I became parents. Of course I didn't personally know actor Will Smith and his ex-wife Sheree Fletcher*, but I was impressed by reports of how mature and civil they were handling their split, putting their son Trey's needs first and avoiding the public drama that seems to go hand in hand with celebrity divorce. Their example stuck with me, not because I ever thought I'd be divorced and co-parenting, but rathe...

Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex? Keep It In Neutral

What's the hardest part of co-parenting? I (Deesha) was asked this question recently*, and in turn, I posed the question to our Facebook group. Not surprisingly, the responses were as varied as the co-parenting experiences represented in the group. But a common refrain emerged:It's hard to stay neutral. It's hard to stay neutral when the other parentis dishonest or uncooperative, makes negative comments, exhibits alienating behavior, or is emotionally abusive towards the children. It's hard t...

Co-Parents As Friends? Aim for Civil + co-parenting news round-up

photo:Bartek Ambrozik

Earlier this month, Deesha was interviewed by Redbook magazine for an article entitled, "How to Be Friends With Your Ex." Her answer? Aim for civil.
Also in the news...this quote from a celebrity co-parent:

"I try to do everything from the viewpoint of what's best for my kids. I have three kids and two great dads and it's not always easy. But you have to try to be a little selfless and we manage just fine."

Find out which celeb said this and read the rest of our co-parenting...

Co-Parenting Shindig! You're Invited...

Save the date! On May 8th, we're hosting a Shindig to celebrate the release of our book, Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce ! We hope you'll join us for this live, online Q&A on Shindig.com. We'll take your questions, talk about our co-parenting journey...and about how you can enrich yours!
This event will be held on May 8th, 7-8 PM EST. Click here to RSVP and learn more!