RKSJ's Blog
June 1, 2013
The Social Slut
We wouldn't know when the word slut became vulgar from erotic. Even the definition has changed lately.
Someone with loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous isn't only the one to be associated with the title, the definition has changed a lot more than that now.
I never understood this society anyway a promiscuous girl is called a slut while a promiscuous guy is considered as a stud; a player. Sometimes it’s not even about the girl - boy difference. A jealous girl who is mad at some other girl just because she has something that is desired by her desperately lands the happy one being a slut. Girls are called sluts just the way they dress up. They are called sluts because they are with their boyfriends and they are happy together.
As it turns out the phrase, "Common sense is not so common" is very applicable to us.
We are on with branding people without even considering implications of it. I kind of sees it the reason for breeding so much rapists among us.
Now you might thing how is that actually happening, now let me give you a scenario. All hypothetical off course.
A girl living in a sub-urban area, having decent money and very happening lifestyle; going out with male friends a lot and wearing short clothes. She will be labeled as a slut in just a matter of time, now how do I support this statement of mine; well I really don’t have to tell you that our society is full of hypocrites.
So now when a girl is labeled as a slut among the people, the goons; who are totally in power nowadays, thinks they have got the right to advance at her. People assume being slut is like being a prostitute; off course they haven’t heard of a word called dictionary where they can actually look up the difference. Their advances one day results in a rape.
Now not talking hypothetically, I was dating a girl sometime back and I used to drop her to her office, she even introduced me to couple of her friends. Sometimes I used to pick her up in the night, just because m picking her up in a car that somehow gave right to the people to talk about her. A couple of week later she got to know that people are talking that she is a slut going bake home with different guys.
Now what part is worst is that even if she is going back home with different guys that doesn't necessarily makes her a slut. When did we all become judges to decide?
Today I was reading a article about break ups and how men and women takes it. It was there that when not in a serious relationship men used to label their exes as slut, and it wasn't very pleasing. I'm not among the one who do it and yet I was being accused.
I totally understood the meaning right then, of being called as a slut when you are not. It’s like being accused of something you are not. Sexism still exist in our society and that too at large, if some male is going streaking during a football match or cricket match he becomes an icon and when Poonam Pandey announces to pose nude if Indian Cricket team is going to win the world cup she becomes the super-slut (Though we all wished her to shed clothes in our sultry minds.)
Someone with loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous isn't only the one to be associated with the title, the definition has changed a lot more than that now.
I never understood this society anyway a promiscuous girl is called a slut while a promiscuous guy is considered as a stud; a player. Sometimes it’s not even about the girl - boy difference. A jealous girl who is mad at some other girl just because she has something that is desired by her desperately lands the happy one being a slut. Girls are called sluts just the way they dress up. They are called sluts because they are with their boyfriends and they are happy together.
As it turns out the phrase, "Common sense is not so common" is very applicable to us.
We are on with branding people without even considering implications of it. I kind of sees it the reason for breeding so much rapists among us.
Now you might thing how is that actually happening, now let me give you a scenario. All hypothetical off course.
A girl living in a sub-urban area, having decent money and very happening lifestyle; going out with male friends a lot and wearing short clothes. She will be labeled as a slut in just a matter of time, now how do I support this statement of mine; well I really don’t have to tell you that our society is full of hypocrites.
So now when a girl is labeled as a slut among the people, the goons; who are totally in power nowadays, thinks they have got the right to advance at her. People assume being slut is like being a prostitute; off course they haven’t heard of a word called dictionary where they can actually look up the difference. Their advances one day results in a rape.
Now not talking hypothetically, I was dating a girl sometime back and I used to drop her to her office, she even introduced me to couple of her friends. Sometimes I used to pick her up in the night, just because m picking her up in a car that somehow gave right to the people to talk about her. A couple of week later she got to know that people are talking that she is a slut going bake home with different guys.
Now what part is worst is that even if she is going back home with different guys that doesn't necessarily makes her a slut. When did we all become judges to decide?
Today I was reading a article about break ups and how men and women takes it. It was there that when not in a serious relationship men used to label their exes as slut, and it wasn't very pleasing. I'm not among the one who do it and yet I was being accused.
I totally understood the meaning right then, of being called as a slut when you are not. It’s like being accused of something you are not. Sexism still exist in our society and that too at large, if some male is going streaking during a football match or cricket match he becomes an icon and when Poonam Pandey announces to pose nude if Indian Cricket team is going to win the world cup she becomes the super-slut (Though we all wished her to shed clothes in our sultry minds.)
February 20, 2013
"A Short Affair Called Life" What the book has to offer..
Ohk so now that I have written my book and it is published, what next??
The book has been out for almost two weeks now and still a very normal response and I thought it will become a boom as soon as it will be out. It will become my key to the flashy lifestyle but things aren't going as expected till now.
So what do I do?
Here I'm blogging myself out. After suggestions from a lot of people I finally decided to come here on BlogSpot and luckily I managed to get a good domain. *wink.
"A Short Affair Called Life" that’s my book, was out on all web portals two weeks ago and has done reasonably normal for a book. All those 200 copies sold includes majority of my friends and their friends.
So why must one buy my book. A perfect question, why someone would invest 145 Rs in a book, when today spending money on books is the last thought in our young and "Awara" generation’s (Off-course like me) mind.
Here is the thing, from past one and a half year I m living in a oblivion trying to figure out how is my life going to be. It has affected me and the major part of the novel I finished under its effect.
"How is my life going to be from here??”
I couldn't just imagine myself working for the rest of my life. Waking up every day, getting ready, going to work and then coming back home, watching TV and finally landing up in bed. The idea of doing this every day kind of freaked me out.
Thereafter I started thinking about other aspects of Life,
"What is Love??”
Trying to get over from the recently ended relationship, this question kept coming to me almost every night, lying in my bed I thought of it. I lay down on my bed with my mind reckoning every move i have made and what it has bought me. "Where was the love?" I tried figuring out. Can a girl/Boy simply change our definition of Love? What about our parent's love, siblings and friends?
The mind boggling thinking process lead to another thing,
"What is Friendship??”
Now this was something I was rich in, I m proud of my friends. But than what about those who have betrayed me and the one I have betrayed. This was much more agitating than questioning Love. Friends are some people you can't just afford to lose or betray.
It was just than the whole plot of my book was there in small head of mine. Still I needed to fix it with the story, no one would read a book if you are just putting up questions and answering them. I wanted sales; I really want to be the next Bhagat (The dreams of flashy lifestyle are very much alive).
So now Darsh's journey has a purpose (Darsh my protagonist), he had to find answers to these question.
But then what all are the questions. It wasn't really a difficult task to find out. We all youngsters think almost the same thing; we have almost the same issues. For some they are real big and for some they can be easily tackled.
So now that random dream of just writing a book and becoming the paparazzi class was actually taken over by the idea of becoming an author (I guess it was than I thought I will be a better writer than all of the IIT, IIM, Love story, Random sex and Drug Mafia Writers.) Off course it has to have these things as well but then these can’t be the whole story.
The things what fascinates most of the youngsters is travelling, so that has to be the medium that will bind the whole story, now when that's set the next thing i had to to is to make the story travel to such places that will answer all the question.
"What is pain/misery?"
"What is religion?”
"What is pleasure?”
"What is family?”
So that is what book has to offer, it takes you places and tries to attempt all those question that are there in your mind.
If it doesn't answer your question, you can simply ask me.
The book has been out for almost two weeks now and still a very normal response and I thought it will become a boom as soon as it will be out. It will become my key to the flashy lifestyle but things aren't going as expected till now.
So what do I do?
Here I'm blogging myself out. After suggestions from a lot of people I finally decided to come here on BlogSpot and luckily I managed to get a good domain. *wink.
"A Short Affair Called Life" that’s my book, was out on all web portals two weeks ago and has done reasonably normal for a book. All those 200 copies sold includes majority of my friends and their friends.
So why must one buy my book. A perfect question, why someone would invest 145 Rs in a book, when today spending money on books is the last thought in our young and "Awara" generation’s (Off-course like me) mind.
Here is the thing, from past one and a half year I m living in a oblivion trying to figure out how is my life going to be. It has affected me and the major part of the novel I finished under its effect.
"How is my life going to be from here??”
I couldn't just imagine myself working for the rest of my life. Waking up every day, getting ready, going to work and then coming back home, watching TV and finally landing up in bed. The idea of doing this every day kind of freaked me out.
Thereafter I started thinking about other aspects of Life,
"What is Love??”
Trying to get over from the recently ended relationship, this question kept coming to me almost every night, lying in my bed I thought of it. I lay down on my bed with my mind reckoning every move i have made and what it has bought me. "Where was the love?" I tried figuring out. Can a girl/Boy simply change our definition of Love? What about our parent's love, siblings and friends?
The mind boggling thinking process lead to another thing,
"What is Friendship??”
Now this was something I was rich in, I m proud of my friends. But than what about those who have betrayed me and the one I have betrayed. This was much more agitating than questioning Love. Friends are some people you can't just afford to lose or betray.
It was just than the whole plot of my book was there in small head of mine. Still I needed to fix it with the story, no one would read a book if you are just putting up questions and answering them. I wanted sales; I really want to be the next Bhagat (The dreams of flashy lifestyle are very much alive).
So now Darsh's journey has a purpose (Darsh my protagonist), he had to find answers to these question.
But then what all are the questions. It wasn't really a difficult task to find out. We all youngsters think almost the same thing; we have almost the same issues. For some they are real big and for some they can be easily tackled.
So now that random dream of just writing a book and becoming the paparazzi class was actually taken over by the idea of becoming an author (I guess it was than I thought I will be a better writer than all of the IIT, IIM, Love story, Random sex and Drug Mafia Writers.) Off course it has to have these things as well but then these can’t be the whole story.
The things what fascinates most of the youngsters is travelling, so that has to be the medium that will bind the whole story, now when that's set the next thing i had to to is to make the story travel to such places that will answer all the question.
"What is pain/misery?"
"What is religion?”
"What is pleasure?”
"What is family?”
So that is what book has to offer, it takes you places and tries to attempt all those question that are there in your mind.
If it doesn't answer your question, you can simply ask me.
February 6, 2013
My Interview published in "Slice of real life" magazine
A question is a solution in itself. It gives birth to an invention, a discovery or a creation. It was a question that moved Sir Isaac Newton to discover the three laws of the universe. Attempts to answer the questions about human life and its goal transformed Siddharth into Goutam Buddha. The same took the 23-year old Rohit Kumar Singh Jadon close to the author in him. One of the contemporary young Indian authors in English, Rohit Kumar Singh Jadon shot to the limelight in the niche of Indian English literature, with the launch of his debut novel, A Short Affair Called Life, an attempt to answer some questions about life that would haunt him. An engineer by profession, he became a writer by passion. The novel traces the journey of the protagonist, Darsh, in quest of the meaning, purpose and goal of his life. SliceofRealLife.com got in touch with Rohit Kumar Singh Jadon to share his journey and accomplishment with you. Here are the excerpts from the interview with this young Indian English author:
Q: How did you discover the writer in you?
A: I was inclined towards writing during my early college days. I used to write rhyming lines expressing how I feel, they were not poems just 4-6 lines and that was it. This habit soon converted me into the narrator of my life. I used to write a page or two about things happening with me and how I wanted them. It was at the end of my college when I decided to write a novel and thus I got close to the writer in me.
Q: What motivated you to write the novel, A Short Affair Called Life, at such a young age?
A: A Short Affair Called Life, well the novel is about young age and life; so it had to be written by a young one. Life has been my favorite topic ever since I was out of school. Everyone almost spent an hour daily thinking what is going to happen to their lives. This novel is an extension to that thought; an attempt by a fictitious character to find what actually life all about is.
Q: Do you share anything in common with the character, Darsh, of the novel?
A: Well Darsh is part of everyone. He is what everyone has been or will be.
Q: Is the character modeled on Goutam Buddha or Mahavira Jain, since the character is in search of the truth of life?
A: No, the character is rather modeled on a very normal human being, who is selfish, sinister, happy, lonely, angry, a lover and at times weird just like every one of us. Each one of us wants to know what the meaning of our life is.
What is the purpose of our existence?
Q: How close is your take on the subject – conflict between spirituality and worldliness – close to real life?
A: Well in order to survive in today’s world you have to be part spiritual and part worldly. The spiritual one has always accused the worldly one of degrading the society and the worldly one has accused spiritual one of being a useless part of society, while the truth is both have to coexist for the world to be fine.
Q: You are a travel buff. Did this hobby of yours help you become a writer?
A: Yes, it did. Travelling gives you new experiences, you get to see new thing, you get to know different people and it all gives you a lot to write about.
Q: Who are your favorite authors that you are inspired by?
A: I like Paulo Coehlo’s work, there is a great depth in words and I like Karan Bajaj’s writing style, the way he writes a book it makes the whole thing come alive.
Q: What is your favorite literary genre – comedy, satire, fiction, non-fiction?
A: Fiction, because it always gives room to your imagination.
Q: What would be the first line of your autobiography?
A: In order to know the best of man’s life you have to know him during the last days of his life.
Q: What is your next move as a writer?
A: I’m working on a romantic piece. I reckon in order to set up a fan base one has to write romance for.
Q: How did you discover the writer in you?
A: I was inclined towards writing during my early college days. I used to write rhyming lines expressing how I feel, they were not poems just 4-6 lines and that was it. This habit soon converted me into the narrator of my life. I used to write a page or two about things happening with me and how I wanted them. It was at the end of my college when I decided to write a novel and thus I got close to the writer in me.
Q: What motivated you to write the novel, A Short Affair Called Life, at such a young age?
A: A Short Affair Called Life, well the novel is about young age and life; so it had to be written by a young one. Life has been my favorite topic ever since I was out of school. Everyone almost spent an hour daily thinking what is going to happen to their lives. This novel is an extension to that thought; an attempt by a fictitious character to find what actually life all about is.
Q: Do you share anything in common with the character, Darsh, of the novel?
A: Well Darsh is part of everyone. He is what everyone has been or will be.
Q: Is the character modeled on Goutam Buddha or Mahavira Jain, since the character is in search of the truth of life?
A: No, the character is rather modeled on a very normal human being, who is selfish, sinister, happy, lonely, angry, a lover and at times weird just like every one of us. Each one of us wants to know what the meaning of our life is.
What is the purpose of our existence?
Q: How close is your take on the subject – conflict between spirituality and worldliness – close to real life?
A: Well in order to survive in today’s world you have to be part spiritual and part worldly. The spiritual one has always accused the worldly one of degrading the society and the worldly one has accused spiritual one of being a useless part of society, while the truth is both have to coexist for the world to be fine.
Q: You are a travel buff. Did this hobby of yours help you become a writer?
A: Yes, it did. Travelling gives you new experiences, you get to see new thing, you get to know different people and it all gives you a lot to write about.
Q: Who are your favorite authors that you are inspired by?
A: I like Paulo Coehlo’s work, there is a great depth in words and I like Karan Bajaj’s writing style, the way he writes a book it makes the whole thing come alive.
Q: What is your favorite literary genre – comedy, satire, fiction, non-fiction?
A: Fiction, because it always gives room to your imagination.
Q: What would be the first line of your autobiography?
A: In order to know the best of man’s life you have to know him during the last days of his life.
Q: What is your next move as a writer?
A: I’m working on a romantic piece. I reckon in order to set up a fan base one has to write romance for.
