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Don't Pray Unless You Want God to Answer -- How God Spoke in the Middle of an Argument

When I went to bed the other night, I knew who was right—I was. 

When I awakened the next morning, I wasn’t so sure. 

The conversation went over the cliff before I even realized it had changed direction. One minute my husband and I were brainstorming ways to fix a problem, and the next minute we were exchanging angry words. He stomped off to bed, and I stayed up and stewed. 

Horizontal or vertical, I’m confident we were both rehearsing how right we were and how wrong the other was. 

Why didn’t she just look up the information when I asked her to? She doesn’t listen, just goes off and does what she wants to do without listening to me. 

Why couldn’t he just wait patiently? I was on to something. Just a few more clicks, and I’d have had the information we needed. 

I considered sleeping in the guest bedroom, but wasn’t willing to give up my comfy bed to make a point. But you’d better believe I stayed waaaaay over on my side when I did come to bed.

Lord, I prayed silently as I clung to the edge of the mattress, pride is an ugly thing. Please help him realize he was wrong, and make him apologize for his unkind words. I don’t want us to spend tomorrow at odds with each other. Then I finished with a sincere but skeptical request: And if I was at fault in any way, please reveal this to me. Amen. 

The next morning, the strangest thing happened. When the alarm sounded on my iPhone, I heard God’s voice. And it didn't sound like Siri.

I’ve always loved the story in 1 Samuel 3, where God awakened the boy Samuel out of a sound sleep by audibly calling his name. But that’s not what happened to me. Instead, God spoke two sentences into my barely-awake consciousness: I’m sorry I was slow to look up the information you asked for. Will you please forgive me? 

As the words echoed in my mind, I knew the Lord had given me the words to speak. How did I know? 

First, the words were true. While I wasn’t totally at fault in the argument, I did have a part in it. 

Second, the words were a direct answer to the prayer I’d prayed before I fell asleep. 

Third, the words did not originate with me. When I’d gone to bed the night before, I was still convinced that I was all right, and he was all wrong. Those two sentences had to have come from God. 

Fourth, to say those words to my husband, I’d have to humble myself and take the first step toward reconciliation. Since this was the last thing my sinful flesh wanted to do, I was confident it was God’s idea, not mine.  

Once I realized I’d heard from God, I knew I had two choices: obey or disobey. 

“Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins,” (Jas. 4:17). 

I’d like to say I always obey, but I’d be lying. That day, however, I did what the Lord told me to do. As soon as my husband opened his eyes, I said the words God had planted into my brain. 

“I’m sorry I was slow to look up the information you asked for. Will you forgive me?” 

“I’m sorry I was grumpy with you. I was sleepy and impatient.” 

Kiss. Kiss. Hug. Hug. All was well again. 

Not all our arguments end so peacefully. Sometimes I hold on to my stubborn, sinful, self-righteousness and refuse to invite God into the strife. I fail to ask God to show me where I was wrong and focus instead on someone else’s sin or my own perceived innocence. 

But when I do pray and ask God to glorify himself, even in our arguments, I give him permission to work. Sometimes he speaks to me through his Word, sometimes through wise counsel, and sometimes, if I’m willing to listen, he speaks through the still, small voice of his Holy Spirit. 

If you’re in the middle of a conflict with someone, I invite you to pray about it. Watch to see how he answers. Be quick to obey what he tells you to do. You won’t regret it. 

What about you? How has the Lord spoken to you during times of conflict? I’d love to hear your story. Leave a comment below, or, if you’re reading by email, click HERE to visit Hungry for God online, scroll to the end of the post, and leave a comment there.






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Fear Makes People Do Foolish Things

I’m a health care worker. In my profession, we receive regular updates from the CDC, the WHO, and the ADA. I catch an occasional FOX news update on the increasing concerns about the Corona virus. And I read my Bible every day.

Today in Luke 8 I read about a group of people who encountered something frightening that they’d never seen before—a local prophet going toe to toe with a man full of demons. Lots of demons. So many demons that when Jesus asked their name, their spokesman replied, “Legion” (v. 30).

In Jesus’ day, a Roman legion of soldiers consisted of about 6,000 men. The fact that the demon invoked this name gives us pretty clear evidence that not only was the man possessed, he was possessed by thousands of demons.

When Jesus confronted them, the demons acknowledged Jesus as the Son of God who possessed all power and authority over them. They begged Him not to torment them. And they offered Him an alternative solution to sending them back to Hell from whence they had come. “Send us into the herd of pigs.”


Have you ever been in the middle of a herd of pigs? Siri tells me the average weight of a domestic pig is about 440 pounds. That’s a big hunk of bacon.

Multiply 440 by, say, fifty. Now imagine yourself surrounded by 22,000 pounds of snorting, stinky, filthy ham hocks. Are you scared yet? Ready to swear off pork forever? Picturing yourself trampled to death by bacon on legs?

But wait. The terror has just begun.

For whatever reason (probably to show His glory and demonstrate that He had power over everything, including demons and pigs), Jesus agreed to the demon legion’s request. He commanded them to leave the man.

Out they went—straight into the herd of pigs.

Now not only do we have 4,000 pounds of pig flesh—fifty or more 400+ pound animals—we have 4,000 pounds of DEMON POSSESSED pig flesh.

The Gadarenes had never heard such squealing, screaming, stomping, biting, and stampeding as they witnessed that day. Pigs everywhere. Out of their minds. In torment because of the legion of demons that thrashed around under their skins.

Crazed and enraged, the pigs charged down the steep embankment straight into the lake, churning up the water until they drowned.

I’m not surprised the multitude of people were “seized with great fear” (v. 37). I am surprised they didn't recognize Jesus as God and bow at his feet.

Fear is understandable, but fear sometimes makes people do foolish things.

The Gadarene people did the most foolish thing of all. Instead of acknowledging Jesus’ power, they begged Him to depart from them. 

Instead of placing their faith in Him and trusting His sovereignty over every detail of the situation, they turned away. 

Instead of bowing before Him in humble submission, they told Him to go.

And so He did.

Like the Gadarenes, we have to choose between fear and faith every day.

Obsess over what could kill us or rest in Him who saves us? 

Turn our backs on Jesus and act as though it’s all up to us or bring our needs to Him and believe that He will meet them? 

Fear what can kill the body or trust Him who saves our souls?

Is there a chance we might get sick from the Corona virus? Absolutely.

Just like there was a chance a Gadarene could have been trampled by a demon-possessed pig, there’s at least a reasonable chance we could contract the virus.

Could we die from it? Maybe.


But if we’re believers in Jesus, what matters more than the timing of the end of our life is how we spend the life we’ve been given.

Are we looking for frightened people with whom to share “the reason for the hope that is within us (1 Peter 3:15),” or are we missing situations pregnant with eternal possibilities because we’re frightened and self-focused?

Is Jesus in control or isn't He?

First John 4:18 tells us “perfect love casts out fear.” If you’re a believer resting in the perfect love of God, fear has no rightful place in your heart. We are men and women of faith.

If Jesus was here with us (and He is), this is what He would say:

“Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; you are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you.

“When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you. For I am the Lord your God, The Holy One of Israel, your Savior” (Isaiah 43:1-3).

In sickness and in health, in poverty and in wealth, for as long as we all shall live, Jesus, our bridegroom promises never to leave us or forsake us. Because of this, we may boldly say, “The Lord is my helper, I will not fear!” (Hebrews 13:5-6).

Fear makes people do foolish things, but we are not foolish people. 

We are faith-filled people.

Let’s live like it.






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Bend or Break? How to Cultivate the Gift of Flexibility

A friend gave me a very special gift recently—the gift of flexibility. In a world where we’re all doing our own things, furthering our own agendas, and looking out for our own best interests, it was a rare and precious treasure. 

Flexibility has several definitions. The first is my favorite: the ability to bend without breaking. Ever seen toddlers go to pieces? They’re not characterized by their ability to bend without breaking. We, however, should be. The second definition is equally profound: the ability to be easily modified. And the final: a willingness to change or compromise. 

My friend’s willingness to yield her preference for someone else’s made me appreciate anew this valuable quality. It also sealed my undying love for her. 

Flexibility voices itself in many different ways: 

It says, “Whatever you’d like to do is fine with me.” 

It says, “I don’t care; you pick.” 

It says, “It doesn’t matter where we go, just as long as we’re together.” 

It says, “I know it’s short notice, but I’d be glad to help.” 

I’m not saying we should never express an opinion or a preference. I also realize we can’t be flexible all the time, nor should we yield our convictions or commitments. We can, however, like my dear friend, look for simple ways to honor others above ourselves. 

Here are some ideas: 

1. If you normally pick the restaurant, television show, or weekend activity, let someone else choose. Who knows? You just might discover a new favorite. 

2. If a boss or coworker asks you to pitch in outside your area of expertise, say yes. Employers highly value employees who approach their job with a flexible mindset. 

3. If your spouse or friend is running late, don’t fuss and fume. Extend grace. Ask, “How can I help you?” 

4. If you’re stuck in a line and people around you are grumbling, say something pleasant to infuse positive energy into the situation. Keep the big picture in mind, realizing that a little delay probably won’t significantly alter the outcome of your day. 

Flexibility is a quality Type A people like me especially struggle with. We’re decisive, opinionated, and motivated. We like efficiency and getting things done, and we usually have a clear idea of how to make it happen. Because of these traits, it can be really hard for us to be flexible. But like definition #1 above, if we don’t bend, someday we might break. 

Now it’s your turn. How have you given the gift of flexibility? Maybe someone else’s flexibility has blessed your life? Tell us about it in the comment box and join the conversation. If you’re reading by email, click HERE to visit Hungry for God online, scroll down, and share your thoughts in the comment section.





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Leap Years and Leaping Forward – My Adventure Aboard the Carnival Sunshine

February 29, Leap Year Day, seemed like the logical day to do something unusual. 

But I was on a cruise ship churning toward the Bahamas with friends, so my options for unusual were limited. 

Eat something scary from the Things You’ve Always Wanted to Try list in the ship’s dining room? Nah. Choking down braised ox tongue was a little too unusual for my taste. 

Get a hot rocks massage in the spa? I’ve never had one, so that would be different, but the $129 price tag scared me away. 

Gamble in the casino? Nope. Even if I didn’t have a conviction against gambling, I’d probably lose all my money and contract lung cancer from the clouds of cigarette smoke filling the room. 


This course isn't exactly like the course we experienced. Ours was SCARIER!That left one option: the high ropes course.Suspended 150 feet above the deck of the ship, the 230-foot spider’s web of ropes, bridges, swinging steps, and balance beams provided the perfect opportunity to do something I’d never done before. And the best view on the ship—if I didn’t pass out from fright. 

From what I’d read, the most challenging time to tackle the course is on a sea day. The movement of the ship combined with sometimes gusty winds make navigating the ropes course even more difficult.  

February 29 just happened to be a sea day. 


But completing a high ropes course was on my bucket list, so I queued up. The guide instructed me to climb into a canvas harness attached to a tether anchored to a metal cable five feet above the ropes course. She crisscrossed straps over my shoulders, clicked a few carabineers, and cinched everything tight. My friend Maryann lined up behind me. 

“What if I don’t like it?” she said, looking down at the deck below. 

“Then you keep moving,” the guide said. “There’s no turning back.” 

Feeling like a contestant on Ninja, I looked at the first challenge—a footbridge comprised of 12-inch wooden steps held together with rope and swaying in the wind. 

“Don’t look down. Don’t look at the other climbers. Just focus on the next step,” the guide said as I hesitated at the edge of the platform. Why did I think this was a good idea? 

But the only way out was through, so I stepped off the platform and onto the first step. 

Gripping the one-inch ropes on either side of the bridge, I made my way across one trembling step at a time. Step. Wobble wobble. Step. Sway sway. Step. Step. Step. Step. Step. Wobble sway, wobble sway. Wobble. 

And then the big step that brought me onto the next stable platform. Halleluiah! One part of the journey complete. 

I took a few deep breaths to ensure I didn’t pass out, then off to the next challenge. I couldn’t linger. There were people following me. 

Ahead of me stretched a net of ropes criss crossing like a tic tac toe grid. One misstep and my foot would slip through a square, trapping me like a fly in a spider’s web. 


 Behind me, Maryann was struggling. Her legs are shorter than mine and her fear of heights greater.

She was in trouble. 

“Don’t look down!” one friend called from beneath her. 

“You can do this!” another said from behind her. 

“One step at a time,” yelled another, her camera poised to capture every moment. 

I called instructions from ahead. “Put your feet in the center of the boards. Only four more to go. You’re almost there.” 

A few more wobbly steps, and she was close enough for me to reach out and boost her onto the platform. She smiled weakly and laid her hand on her heart. “Why did I ever agree to this?” 

But the only way out was through, so we set off again. 


I went first to find the footholds while those behind us cheered us on. We reached the most difficult portion of the course—two thin ropes with nothing to hold on to except the tether strap that anchored us to the cable above. 

“Hold on to the strap,” the guide yelled. “Trust the anchor. It’s got you.” 

There, dangling between heaven and earth, I saw my life as God sees it. 

We leave the safe cocoon of our mothers and step onto the path ordained for us. We can’t see the destination, only the road ahead. The only way out is through. 

 Yet God doesn’t send us out alone. 

If we’ve placed our faith in Him, He sets the course before us. He hems us in behind and before. He surrounds us with caring people—parents, siblings, and brothers and sisters in Christ to show us the way. 

Those who have navigated similar obstacles share their wisdom and encouragement. Others warn us away from danger and slippery paths. Fellow travelers facing the same challenges inspire us with their companionship and love. Friends reach out to lift us up. 

If that isn’t enough, higher than the highest ropes course stands a great cloud of witnesses cheering us on (Hebrews 12:1). 

And when we reach the most difficult part of our journey? The places we have to walk alone? 

Jesus is there. 

We hold tightly to the Anchor, knowing that if we stumble, slip, or lose our grip, He will hold us fast. He promises never to let us go (Deuteronomy 31:8). He will bring us safely to the other side. 

How about you? Where are you in this faith journey? Have you taken your first trembling steps? Seek out brothers and sisters in Christ to walk with you. 

Have you navigated trials and grown stronger because of them? Look around for someone who can benefit from your wisdom and experience. 

Are you in the hardest place? Surround yourself with God’s people and cling to Jesus. Rest in the secure knowledge that He is holding on to you, and will never ever let you go. 

He will see you safely through.







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Help Needed. Are You an Influencer? A Buzz Maker?

When my husband, David, turned 40, I planned a surprise birthday party. For weeks I secretly plotted, schemed, shopped, invited, and cooked. Kind friends came alongside me to help with the details. Jan picked up the cake. Susan brought balloons. Ted invited David’s friends from church. 

On the day of the party, I felt more excited than a parent on Christmas Eve. In just a few short hours, my husband would enjoy the results of my labor and know how much I loved him. 

In some ways, I feel like that right now. I’m not planning a round number surprise party for Hubby. Instead, I’ve been working on something special for you, my dear, dear readers—a brand new devotional book. 

I’m excited to announce that Refresh Your Faith, Uncommon Devotions from Every Book of the Bible will release on May 5. 

As I work with Our Daily Bread Publishing, my publicist said, “No one launches a book by herself. Who within your circle of influence can help spread the word?” 

When he asked that question, I knew the answer--my friends and faithful readers. 

Y’all are the most encouraging, godly, loving group of people I know. You send me encouraging emails. You read my posts and share them with your friends. You pray for me. 

I need two groups of people on my launch team—Influencers and Buzz Makers. 

Influencers 

Influencers are people who have a sphere of influence that extends beyond local boundaries. You may have a blog, a speaking platform, or a connection to a church or ministry. You have the ability to share information on social media or in person that reaches hundreds or thousands of people. 

If this is you, would you allow me to guest post or share an excerpt from my book on your blog? I’ll provide everything you need to post memes, tweets, or quotes on your social media channels. Would you be willing to post a review on your blog or website and on Amazon? 

I’ll provide a (free) digital or paperback copy of my book so you can look it over. Perhaps you might invite me to speak at your church or women’s group or connect me with your women’s ministry leader, pastor, or Bible study group. 

If you’d like to be one my influencers, I’d be so grateful. 

Buzz Makers 

Buzz Makers are those friends who spring into action immediately before and in the early days after the book release (May 5). You’d be willing to read a (free) digital copy of Refresh Your Faith and post reviews on Amazon and other sites, share the book with your friends on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites, and recommend it to friends and family. 

I’ll provide everything you need – memes, quotes, tweets – to make sharing easy. As the day draws near, I’ll invite both groups to an exclusive Facebook group where you can retrieve your free digital copy of Refresh Your Faith and get updates and all the insider scoop on the book launch. I’ll also have a special gift for everyone who posts a review. 

If you’d like to serve in either of these capacities, please reply to this email or email me at LoriAHatcher (at) gmail.com. 

And if you’re unable to participate, I understand. Please pray for me and for Refresh Your Faith. My deepest desire is that God will use this book to help men and women fall in love with Him and His Word like they never have before.If this post was meaningful to you, would you consider sharing it with a friend by clicking on one of the buttons below? Did you know you can receive bi-weekly Hungry for God posts sent directly to your email inbox? Visit http://www.lori-benotweary.blogspot.com and click on the link in the right hand corner to Subscribe Via Email.

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5 Things You Need to Know about Gossip

“Did you hear what happened with the Fredricksons? I suspected something was going on, but I never imagined it was this bad.”

Gossip is everywhere—break rooms, coffee shops, the gym, and, sadly, even in the church. Sometimes it’s obvious, like the example above. Other times it’s much more subtle.

“Jean, I want to share a prayer request. Did you hear that John’s fallen off the wagon again? We’ve got to pray for him and Chelsea. I’m so afraid he’s going to lose his job. And then how will they keep the kids in Christian school? I heard that they’re paying $20,000 a year to keep them there. . . and I think they had to take out a second mortgage to buy that new minivan last month.”

Google defines gossip as “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.”

Scripture has a long list of names for it: slander, backbiting, betraying a confidence, whispering, and tale bearing. However you define gossip, the Bible clearly warns us of its destructive power.


Here are five things you need to know about gossip: 

1. When we gossip, we break God’s greatest commandment, the call to love one another. 

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34-35).

2. Gossip hurts our witness to the unsaved world.

“By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:25). 

Wounding other believers with our speech (gossipy “prayer requests,” whispered “I’m concerned about so-and-so,” and behind-the-back conversations in the spirit of “care and concern” doesn’t demonstrate an accurate picture of how sisters and brothers in Christ should act toward each other. The world sees this, takes note, and determines that “believers” are no different than unbelievers.

3. God holds us accountable for every idle word we say.

“But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Mat. 12: 36-37).

If we’re true, born-again believers, we have the assurance that Christ took the punishment for our sins, even the ones we haven’t committed yet, on the cross. So when the Bible talks about being judged, it’s talking about a different type of judgment. This judgment may involve a loss of rewards (because gossip is certainly “wood, hay, and stubble” that will burn) or experiencing the natural results of being a gossip, like loss of trust and broken relationships.

4. Gossip will cause you to lose friends. 

 "A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Prov. 16:28).

The most obvious way we can lose friends is to gossip specifically against that person. When word gets back to them, and it will, your relationship can be permanently damaged.

Another reason gossip parts friends is because sharing gossip, even if it’s about someone else, destroys our friend’s confidence in our trustworthiness. If Cara hears you gossiping about Shelby, then she’s naturally going to wonder what you say about her when she’s not around. Because trust is the foundation of any deep and lasting relationship, without it, our friendships will be superficial and stunted.

5. Gossip will find its way back to you. 

“What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs” (Luke 12:3).

The very nature of gossip requires passing along information. When that “information” makes its way to the person being talked about, rest assured, the tale-bearing breadcrumbs will lead straight to your door.

Now that we’ve examined these five scary truths about gossip, here are six questions we should ask ourselves before we speak:

1. Is it true? 

2. Is it kind?

3. Does it need to be said? 

4. What is my motive in sharing this bit of information—to build someone up, or tear someone down? Look deeply into your heart and examine your true motives.

5. Would I say this if the person was standing here in front of me? 

6. Do I have a right to speak on this matter? Am I part of the problem or part of the solution?

One of the best ways to break the gossip habit, according to Chip Ingram in his Bible study, Five Lies that Ruin Relationships, is to listen more and speak less. This is sound advice, straight from the Bible: 

"When words are many,” Proverbs 10:19 says, “sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”

I want to be known as one who uses my words to help others, not hurt them. I suspect you have a similar desire. As we pursue this noble goal, may the words of Ephesians 4:29 guide us:

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Now it's your turn. Why do you think almost everyone struggles with gossip? What steps have you taken to help break the destructive speech cycle? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts. If you're reading by email, CLICK HERE to visit Hungry for God online, scroll to the bottom of the post, and leave a comment.







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A 3-Step Approach to Banish Nighttime Fears

Almost every child I know has struggled with nighttime fears. When I was young, the gremlins I never saw in the daylight scurried around under my bed as soon as Mom turned off the light. The creaks and groans I normally attributed to tree branches and the ever-present New England wind became monsters’ footsteps and heavy breathing in the dark. The fears I labeled “silly” became terrifyingly real. 

Even now, nighttime can be the most frightening part of the day.The busyness that distracts me is gone, and my mind is free to wander into dark places where What If gremlins dance. Tragedy lurks at every bend in the road. That couldn’t happen to me becomes Oh yes it could. The constant activity of job, home, family, and ministry pauses, yet I continue to scroll through the To Do list that didn’t get done and fret about the consequences. 

Second Corinthians 10:5 has become my spiritual sword to help me vanquish nighttime fears: “Bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.” 

When I struggle to fall asleep or I awaken at 3 a.m., I reach into the swirling melee and grab hold of the noisiest fear. Separated from its slimy comrades, it immediately grows smaller. 

Then I shine the light of God’s Word on it, and it starts to melt like the Wicked Witch of the West before Dorothy’s bucket of water. 

Bringing every thought into captivity to Christ means I remind myself of three truths: 

     I can trust God's sovereignty. Because God is in control, nothing can touch my life that He hasn’t       ordained for my good and His glory (Romans 8:28). 

     I can trust God’s presence. If God allows a trial to enter my life, He will walk through it with           me. “I will never leave you or forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). 

     I can trust God’s provision. “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in         glory by Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). 

Finally I determine to pray instead of fret. “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7). 

For the last few months, I’ve been awakening most nights around 3 a.m. Sometimes fear strikes, bombarding me with scary scenarios. I began implementing the three-step plan of attach I’ve described above, and now 3 am has become one of my favorite times of the day. 

As soon as my brain starts spinning, I pray for whomever or whatever is foremost in my mind. Before fear has a chance to gain a toehold, I blast it with prayer and God’s Word. This two-fold heavenly fear repellent transforms my anxiety into faith, and before long, I slip into a peaceful, God-given sleep. 

David the shepherd boy experienced this worry-free slumber. “I will both lie down in peace, and sleep;” he wrote, “For You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” If you struggle with nighttime fears, I encourage you give this a try. God promises He will keep us in perfect peace when our minds are fixed on Him (Isaiah 26:3). 

Now it’s your turn. When fear troubles your sleep, what do you do to banish it? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts. If you’re reading by email, CLICK HERE to visit Hungry for God online and leave a comment.




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Is It Enough to Believe with All Your Heart?

“I believe with all my heart God is going to heal him.” 

“If I truly believe God is going to ___________ (deliver me from my financial troubles, give me a new car, send me a husband, release me from the job I hate), then he will. But I have to reeeeealy believe it.” 

“God wants you to be healthy, wealthy, and happy. If you’re not, it’s because you don’t have enough faith. James 1:6-8 says so: ‘But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord.’” 

Have you ever heard someone say one or all of these statements? I have. 

I’ve also seen people continue to experience illness, financial trouble, singleness, difficult marriages, and challenging jobs, even though they reeeeeeealy believed God was going to answer their prayers for deliverance. Was their faith not strong enough? Did they harbor a smidgen of doubt that hindered God from answering their prayers? 

How can we be sure we have enough faith to tip the scales in our favor when God decides which prayers to answer in the affirmative? And how do we “ask in faith, believing,” when we’re just not sure how God’s going to answer? 

Years ago I was scheduled to have surgery to remove a cyst/tumor. There was some concern that the growth might be malignant, but we wouldn’t know until the day of surgery. As I prayed about the outcome, I wrestled with “asking in faith, believing,” for a cancer-free report. I knew God could heal me if necessary. He certainly had the power. 

But the thought occurred to me that he might not choose to. I’ve lived long enough to know that sometimes God glorifies himself by delivering someone from a difficult situation. Other times he glorifies himself by empowering them to go through it. How could I know God’s will in order to believe with all my heart and get the answer I hoped for? 

Jennifer Kennedy Dean, in Live a Praying Life answers this question better than anyone I’ve ever heard. Listen to what she writes: 

“Faith is not ‘believing real hard.’ Faith is not shutting your eyes and drawing a long breath and willing yourself to believe something. You can make yourself believe anything, true or not. Believing something won’t make God do it. Belief is one thing; faith is something else.” 

Her observations are similar to mine, that because "many believers have mistaken belief for faith, they have had experiences in prayer that are discouraging and disappointing." She describes faith quite differently than belief: 

“Faith has only one focus: God. Jesus said: ‘Have faith in God’ (Mark 11:22). When your faith is in God, not in your own idea of what God should do and how He should do it, then faith has substance. The person who is living a praying life is living a life of faith. That person understands that prayer is always releasing the power of God for the purposes of God. Therefore, once prayer has begun, whatever direction as situation takes, it is taking the direction that will accomplish the purposes of God. That’s faith.” 


And then, she writes the words that parted the faith curtain for me: “You do not have to be able to predict how God will act in order to have faith.” 

What we must know to be able to ask in faith, believing, is that God is all knowing, all powerful, and all loving. Everything he allows into a believer’s life is to accomplish two purposes: my good and his glory. Knowing this allows me to yield my will to his and trust him to accomplish his ultimate and best purpose in every situation. 

Richard Foster, in the book, Prayer, says this: “Frequently we hold on so tightly to the good that we do know that we cannot receive the greater good that we do not know. God has to help us let go of our tiny vision in order to release the greater good he has in store for us . . .” 

This is why the true prayer of faith lifts our requests to him, then ends with, “Lord, not my will, but yours be done.” When we pray this way, we can rest in faith, knowing we can trust the God who has all the power of the universe and all the wisdom of the world at his disposal. Knowing that he loves us and is working for our highest good and his glory allows us confidently to yield our will to his, “asking in faith, believing.” 

I’m so thankful we don’t have to figure out what’s best and then work ourselves into a belief frenzy before we can pray. Instead, we can come before the Lord and acknowledge, “God, I don’t know what the best answer is in this situation, but you do. I trust you. Please work for my good and your glory.”

Now it's your turn. What does this explanation of the difference between belief and faith mean to you? Leave a comment in the box below and share your thoughts. If you're reading by email, CLICK HERE to visit Hungry for God online, scroll to the bottom of the post, and leave a comment.


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Birthing a Book Baby (And Mrs. Billy's Embarrassing Question)

I'm glad I didn’t know my first embarrassing pregnancy moment would be one of many. Followed by many embarrassing parenting moments. Followed by many embarrassing grandparenting moments.

Except by the time you become a grandparent, you think everything kids do is cute, and you cease to be embarrassed.

Until then, there’s about a forty-year window where you can and will be embarrassed. 

My moment came in early December 1988. I was about four months pregnant with my first child. On the other side of morning sickness, by belly was just beginning to grow.

For the first time, I slipped into my jeans and couldn’t button the button. No worries, I thought. I’m wearing a long sweater. I’ll just leave it unbuttoned. No one will ever know.

And no one would have known, except we ran into one of my mother-in-law’s friends, Mrs. Billy, in the center aisle of Kmart.

“Oh, Honey,” she exclaimed in a voice that carried all the way to the automotive department. “I heard you’re expecting. Are you showing yet?”

And with that question, she lifted my sweater, exposing my unbuttoned blue jeans for every Christmas shopper in the store to see.

“Well I guess you are!” she exclaimed delightedly. “You’ll be big as a house by Valentine’s Day.”

She planted a kiss on my burning cheek and disappeared down the sporting goods aisle. Mortified, I prayed for a blue light special to distract everyone’s attention from me and my exposed belly.

Like Mrs. Billy, many of you have been watching for signs of progress as I incubate my latest book baby, Refresh Your Faith, Uncommon Devotions from Every Book of the Bible . Before you embarrass me, I’d like to reward your patience (and your tact) and give you an update.

The publishing process is slow, more like an elephant’s gestation than a human’s. As of this week, we’re 13 months into a 16 month process, but we’re getting closer. My publisher, Our Daily Bread Publishing, and I have completed final manuscript edits, galley proofs, proofreading, and the final final edit.

The publicity wheels have begun to turn, and soon I’ll be asking you to join my launch team to help get the word out. Advanced reader copies (ARCs) will go out to influencers, librarians, and reviewers. Best of all, the listing is up on Amazon. Would you like a peek? Click HERE to visit Refresh Your Faith, Uncommon Devotions from Every Book of the Bible ’s Amazon page.

Because you are so faithful to read my simple words, leave comments, and share your thoughts by email, I’d like to ask you to pray for me in the next few months. 

*That I will do everything I can to help this book succeed.

*That God will connect Refresh Your Faith with people who are bored with their devotional time and want to fall in love with God and His Word all over again.

*That I will seek God every day, take my marching orders from Him, and please Him in all I do.

I want to be a good steward of the opportunities God (and Our Daily Bread Publishing) have entrusted to me through this book.

Thanks for listening, reading, and praying. Y’all are the best readers a writer could ask for!


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Birthing a Book Baby (And Mrs. Betty's Embarrassing Question)

I'm glad I didn’t know my first embarrassing pregnancy moment would be one of many. Followed by many embarrassing parenting moments. Followed by many embarrassing grandparenting moments.

Except by the time you become a grandparent, you think everything kids do is cute, and you cease to be embarrassed.

Until then, there’s about a forty-year window where you can and will be embarrassed. 

My moment came in early December 1988. I was about four months pregnant with my first child. On the other side of morning sickness, by belly was just beginning to grow.

For the first time, I slipped into my jeans and couldn’t button the button. No worries, I thought. I’m wearing a long sweater. I’ll just leave it unbuttoned. No one will ever know.

And no one would have known, except we ran into my mother-in-law’s best friend, Betty, in the center aisle of Kmart.

“Oh, Honey,” she exclaimed in a voice that carried all the way to the automotive department. “I heard you’re expecting. Are you showing yet?”

And with that question, she lifted my sweater, exposing my unbuttoned blue jeans for every Christmas shopper in the store to see.

“Well I guess you are!” she exclaimed delightedly. “You’ll be big as a house by Valentine’s Day.”

She planted a kiss on my burning cheek and disappeared down the sporting goods aisle. Mortified, I prayed for a blue light special to distract everyone’s attention from me and my exposed belly.

Like Mrs. Betty, many of you have been watching for signs of progress as I incubate my latest book baby, Refresh Your Faith, Uncommon Devotions from Every Book of the Bible . Before you embarrass me, I’d like to reward your patience (and your tact) and give you an update.

The publishing process is slow, more like an elephant’s gestation than a human’s. As of this week, we’re 13 months into a 16 month process, but we’re getting closer. My publisher, Our Daily Bread Publishing, and I have completed final manuscript edits, galley proofs, proofreading, and the final final edit.

The publicity wheels have begun to turn, and soon I’ll be asking you to join my launch team to help get the word out. Advanced reader copies (Advance Reader Copies) will go out to influencers, librarians, and reviewers. Best of all, the listing is up on Amazon. Would you like a peek? Click HERE to visit Refresh Your Faith, Uncommon Devotions from Every Book of the Bible ’s Amazon page.

Because you are so faithful to read my simple words, leave comments, and share your thoughts by email, I’d like to ask you to pray for me in the next few months. 

*That I will do everything I can to help this book succeed.

*That God will connect Refresh Your Faith with people who are bored with their devotional time and want to fall in love with God and His Word all over again.

*That I will seek God every day, take my marching orders from Him, and please Him in all I do.

I want to be a good steward of the opportunities God (and Our Daily Bread Publishing) have entrusted to me through this book.

Thanks for listening, reading, and praying. Y’all are the best readers a writer could ask for!



Are you hungry for God, but starving for time? 
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Copyright 2018 by Lori Hatcher