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All leaders are searching

All leaders are searching

 

All leaders are searching, some consciously, some unconsciously. It’s a primaeval instinct, part of a leader’s DNA.

Searching for real-world solutions.

Searching for soul solutions

90% search for real-world solutions, such as how to innovate, how to connect with and dominate a new target market and how to increase revenue.

10% also actively search for intangible solutions, such as ‘what is my leadership purpose?’ and ‘how can I implement it in my life and career and express it through my leadership?’ or ‘What is my true path in life?’

If there is an imbalance between the real-world solutions and soul solutions, a Gap is created.  

Real success in life and leadership is the ability to bridge both your inner and outer worlds. Aligning your purpose with your work. Make decisions according to your values in the midst of difficult decisions in your career.

Truly successful leaders have the courage to go with the heart solutions first and build their real world solutions around it. It doesn’t make the journey easier, but it does make it more fulfilling and meaningful! 

Add a little bit more soul search in your work, it’ll open the gate towards authentic happiness.

Raf Adams

The Suited Monk provides guidance on how to live a good life. This this 2-minute questionnaire will help you discover where you are on your life journey. Take your free check-up here now.

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”I am a life mentor and philosopher and write thought pieces and provide perspective on life and leadership to help people to increase the quality of their decision making. By doing so, achieve mental, emotional and spiritual balance be more effective and make a positive difference for themselves, their teams, company and society. If you want to fastrack your results right now, click here to get the Suited Monk book or provide it as a gift for a friend or colleague. Yes I want

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Building a life with the right foundations

Building a life with the right foundations

Wars, social unrest, a great depression, a pandemic… we all get through it. Life goes on.

So what is life exactly?

If all the external situations we have encountered throughout history end, shouldn’t we know or become aware of why life continues?

Why do we not try to understand the foundation of life instead and try to understand what that is? 

Instead, we keep building things on top of foundations we don’t fully understand and focus on those.

It’s like building a house, making it the most beautiful house ever. It gets featured in magazines, and everyone would love to live there and the architects did the due diligence and had engineers ensure the foundations of the land were sturdy enough to build this beautiful home.

And that’s how we’ve built a society, without looking at the right fundamentals for life.

Building a relationship with someone based on external needs instead of love and self-awareness.

Building a business without the right values.

Pursuing goals not aligned with your life’s purpose.

The consequences are obvious. Burnout, failure, anxiety, depression, regret, unhappiness & apathy

All because everything is built on an inadequate foundation.

In contrast – why are poor people so happy? 

There are many rational reasons for it, but the easiest answer is because their happiness is built on pure foundations. They live in the exact place they are supposed to live. 

Why are some rich people very happy (fundamentally happy)? Because their career and relationships have been built on the right fundamentals of life.

Life consists of everything internal.

Your values

Your purpose

Your intuition

Flow

Trust

Non-attachment

…. 

No matter what you build, if anything in your life is not built on those fundamentals, there will be a gap between what you are pursuing and what you really want.

When you are able to align your life with your external world, this is when internal balance and alignment happen. 

Everything flows smoothly. Everything is natural. Everything is without resistance.

This is not a state of survival. 

This is a state of creation.

For your relationship to work, you must go back to the fundamentals of love. Do you love yourself first? 

For your business to work, you need to go back to the fundamentals of purpose. Is your business based on something you love or something that just pays the bills?

All these have to be rebuilt if they are built on the wrong fundamentals, in order to go back to the state of alignment. 

View your Life and your external world as one.

It is the ultimate goal.

Raf Adams

The Suited Monk provides guidance on how to live a good life. This this 2-minute questionnaire will help you discover where you are on your life journey. Take your free check-up here now.

 

#philosophy #balance #innerwisdom

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Protecting yourself in a difficult world

Protecting yourself in a difficult world

 

Imagine being Elon Musk as a young kid, saying you want to put people on Mars! He probably got laughed at and ridiculed. 

The world is not always ready to listen to your discoveries because the world may not be prepared to listen.

So many kids’ dreams are lost or not fulfilled because they are being told they cannot do it, it’s not achievable, or it’s not for them or simple laughed at…

And so, even when we grow up and communicate something we believe in, we may receive resistance from the external world because their mindset or belief system is not ready to embrace your new reality.

My words are not difficult. My words are simple. 

Simple not in a derogatory way, simple in a powerful, vulnerable but authentic way.

Simple and difficult have to go hand in hand.

A simple message has to be communicated in a challenging world.

A simple message is prone to rejection, laughter, denial and ignorance.

Your purpose is a simple one.

Your values are simple.

Your intuition is simple.

Everything inside you is simple, whilst the external world, the challenges we face, the money we make, and the people we lead can sometimes be difficult. 

Difficult, meaning challenging, difficult in a way that we need to learn how to live in our world.

And so, how do we return to being the simple beings we are, whilst simultaneously achieving our goals and reaching our full potential? It’s like being authentic whilst being strong. Being vulnerable whilst executing what we believe in.

Rule 1, Start by keeping your simplicity to yourself. 

When you start or are on an internal journey of self-discovery, and you learn something new, you realise something new, what is the first thing you want to do? Share it with those close to you, right?

The people around you may or may not be on a similar journey. And so, they may not be ready to hear what you have to say. 

Hence so many conflicts in the world exist.

I remember when I started teaching my Suited Monk primary program “The Life Journey” in China in 2011.

I was young, and I didn’t have much experience. 

What would I teach to someone who was 45 years old or older? It was quite painful at that time because my feeling of being a teacher was not yet fully rooted inside me. 

And in the beginning, the external world shook me up and put me off balance.

And so my advice is, keep your message to yourself in the beginning, feel it, enjoy it, embrace it, and let it evolve and grow inside you.

Once your discovery has rooted inside you, find those you can trust to share your discovery. 

Expand on that inner discovery and bring it into the real world. A mentor, a coach, a good old friend, someone who doesn’t judge you and is there to listen.

The only way for you to find inner peace and be balanced in today’s world is to align your simplicity with the difficulty of the external world. A journey of pain that leads to inner peace.

Build your inner strength, and no one can push you off balance.

Raf Adams 

If today you feel a lack of mental, emotional, or spiritual balance, you can take this 2-minute questionnaire designed by Prof. Dr. Mike Thompson from CEIBS (China Europe International Business School) that will help you identify the Gap between your internal and external worlds. Take your free check-up here now.

 

#philosophy #balance #innerwisdom

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Just do the work

Just do the work.

In daily life, we focus on our career, daily tasks and executing responsibilities. We try to improve ourselves and aim to achieve higher. 

But on a deeper fundamental level, why? Why do we do what we do?

This question has two answers:

The first answer is a biological one – Because we want a better quality of life, make more money to have the lifestyle we want, we want to be happier, support our family and live a good external life. This is built into our DNA, to desire improvement and advancement. All creatures strive for survival, and for humanity, it means improving our standard of living.

The second answer is more on a deeper level. Because unconsciously, all our life experiences lead us to self-realisation. Some of us are consciously aware, and on this journey, some are not. At some point in life, this realisation comes. For some, it comes sooner. For some, it comes later. The time frame it comes is not important. What is important is that you are on a journey, and you recognise that. 

What happens to a pond in nature when water stops flowing in and out? The water becomes still, algae start to grow, and the water becomes polluted. It becomes stagnant, and it loses its ability to be a healthy home for its microsystem.

The same happens in life. If we stop growing in any area of life, we are slowly moving backwards. Our health does not improve, our relationships don’t improve, and we feel stuck in our search for something more. 

And so, continuous growth, action and flow in all areas of life are necessary in order to keep growing.

To achieve things in the external world, we need to learn skills, strategy, planning and make goals. We need to reach out to people, we need to search for opportunities and collaborations that can help us achieve our goals.

To achieve things in the internal world, the external world can’t provide solutions for you. External events are just a cause or a ‘coincidence’ to help you make the transition towards internal transformation. 

The internal transition guides you towards self-realisation. 

Knowing your values, leading and living with purpose and being able to make quality decisions that lead you to your true path in life are the keys to self-awareness.

To live a life where your internal and external world aligns, you just have to do ‘’the internal work’’.

The daily, internal work that is required for you to grow, expand and at the end of the day, take a step back and let life take its own course.

Internal work on a mental level, emotional level, spiritual level and physical level. 

Who stimulates you mentally to help you grow? 

Who stimulates you emotionally to help you grow (yes, even if you are not in a happy relationship, these emotions are stimuli for growth)? 

How do you grow spiritually, and how do you keep growing emotionally?

Each Sunday, I take 2 hours of reflection time for myself, and I go through the areas in my life that are important to me. My relationship, my health, my finances, my career, my friends, and my hobbies…. And I check in which areas I can or need to take action to keep improving. Even a small action is enough. It goes from buying flowers for my partner, reaching out to an old friend, or outsourcing lower value (yet important) tasks in my business… that reflection keeps me at the top of my game, as external life keeps changing, so I need to continually evaluate my internal self, so they keep being aligned.

Life is never static. So you cannot be static. 

Doing the work in all areas of your life is key. 

Just do the work, just as water flows, and at the end of the day, let it all go.

Day in, day out.

When you are able to do this, you will be able to live in peace. If you are not in peace today, there is reflection needed. There is action needed. 

Which area of your life needs the most attention right now?

 

Raf Adams 

If today you feel a lack of mental, emotional, or spiritual balance, you can take this 2-minute questionnaire designed by Prof. Dr. Mike Thomson from CEIBS (China Europe International Business School) that will help you identify the Gap between your internal and external worlds. Take your free check-up here now.

If you need help and would like to work with me one-on-one, send me a DM.

#peace #balance #flow

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The Life Journey

The Life Journey

Email: I am going to teach the journey of understanding, but the journey cannot be understood

I have a unique gift for teaching an extremely complex topic; the life journey. 

Teach the intangible and make it tangible.

Teach nothingness and make it into something.

How is that even relevant for the modern person?

To bring nothingness into something is to help leaders increase the quality of their decision-making. To see more options than before.

If you have a business challenge and are unsure of the right course of action, what is needed is often not more data. 

What is needed is to increase the awareness of potential decisions you can take.

The more options you have, the better you can choose.

How do you do this?

By asking or receiving better questions. Better questions lead to better answers; that´s why coaching is so powerful.

If you are in a career transition, how do you know that the next step you will take is the right one?

If you are in a relationship and it´s not going well, how do you know if you have to leave that relationship or take a different action to make it work?

These are all big decisions that impact the quality of your life and leadership.

The answers to these questions are 50% external and 50% internal  (these percentages are not absolute, they serve as a reference point). 

50% external means, for example, how is the pay in the new job? What are future career possibilities, and what is the job title etc? 

50% internal means, what are the values of the company, are they similar to my values, will I feel I am contributing to something larger than myself, will I get a sense of meaning and fulfilment in what I do?

The external part is easy.

The internal part requires awareness. Powerful questioning that digs deeper into your inner Monk about what is really important for you.

And so, to increase the quality of your decision-making is the ability to bring both inner and outer worlds into ONE DECISION wherein both sides of your needs are met.

Raf Adams

The Suited Monk provides guidance on how to live a good life. This this 2-minute questionnaire will help you discover where you are on your life journey. Take your free check-up here now.

#philosophy #balance #innerwisdom

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Where are all the happy people?

Where are all the happy people?

A friend of mine got cheated upon by his business partners. After the business became successful, they ran away with all the money. It can take months or years to overcome life hurdles like this.

Each day when you talk to a friend or colleague, or spouse, you will find that almost everyone is struggling with something at some point.

Some struggle for months or even years with the same challenge.

For example, being in a toxic relationship can take years before separation happens. Then months of healing are needed to let go of years of pain.

If happiness is so important in our life, where are all the happy people? I’m not talking about short-term happiness, I am talking about sustainable long-term happy people…

So where are they all? 

Where are all the happy people who have been through similar challenges, have overcome this, and how did they solve it? 

Do we need to become Monks in order to avoid being in a relationship, to have food and shelter, to not worry about money, so we can just sit in bliss without worldly problems?

So where are the happy people?

Once I made the mistake of thinking that ´´at some point in the future, I will arrive and be happy´´…

When I have my corporate success… THEN that’s the moment I will have it, and I will be happy. 

When I have an amazing relationship and find the right partner, THEN that’s the moment I will be truly happy… 

And so it continues, but the real happiness never comes… it comes temporarily, but it goes away, and then a new quest begins, to search for a new point of happiness and a better life. Does this sound familiar?

In order to make happiness sustainable, we need to look at what can affect your happiness. 

Almost anything external can affect your happiness, so you can´t be attached to the external because it’s inevitable. 

For example, If you miss a career opportunity, your partner leaves you, or someone cuts you off in traffic, you can´t be attached to the external because it will affect your happiness.

So rule number 1. Anything external can be taken away from you in an instant. So if you put a lot of importance on your success or material wealth, it can make you unhappy.

 It can also make you ´´happy´´, but this links more to safety and security, which is an important basic need to have. Safety and security are different from happiness.

Hence being attached to the external can make us unhappy, so the only way for true happiness is to look internally.

But you need to live life in the external world, and this is the dilemma; should I let go of the external world? Is it ok to have a lot of material possessions? Is it ok to be successful and financially abundant?

What you have in the external world is good, you can enjoy it, you can love it, and you can create more of it, as it provides safety and security and ensures your basic needs are met. 

So how do we add happiness to the equation?

Rule number 2. Happiness is internal.

Your happiness contains four areas.

Mental happinessSpiritual happinessEmotional happinessPhysical happiness.

If any of these areas is not in balance or you struggle with one of them, you will not be 100% fully fulfilled or truly happy.

If you regret not seeing your kids enough because you work so hard, you will not be truly happy (but you can work on the regret).

If you have a fear of public speaking and you hold yourself back from achieving your potential you will not be happy (but you can overcome this fear)

If you are physically ill, you will not be truly happy (you can learn to heal yourself).

So back to my question, where are all the happy people? Well, it´s someone who has their mental, spiritual, emotional and physical being into balance. Where are they?

I don´t know any. Externally, a lot of people seem happy, but I’ve not yet met someone who has transformed into lasting happiness.

So the journey of life is the journey towards self-realisation. 

The purpose of life is not only to find your purpose but to realise yourself. Realising yourself happens in those four categories. In Buddhism they call this enlightenment. It´s like eternal bliss. 

Do we need to go that far to achieve this perfect level of bliss?

No, we don´t. We just need to be on the journey. It´s like if you want to build a 10 million dollar business, do you need to go that far… well, you need to be on the journey towards… whether you reach the point or not is not the goal. 

The goal is to be ON THE JOURNEY.

Happy living.

Warmly

Raf Adams 

If today you feel a lack of mental, emotional, or spiritual balance, you can take this 2-minute questionnaire designed by Prof. Dr. Mike Thomson from CEIBS (China Europe International Business School) that will help you identify the Gap between your internal and external worlds. Take your free check-up here now.

 

#flow #balance #leadership

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A guide to making happy decisions

 A guide to making happy decisions

Questions…

Every day we have them. What shall I have for lunch? What time is the doctor’s appointment? Where is the address of the garage to fix the car?

Other questions are deeper questions such as, shall I change my job? Shall I end my relationship? 

Every question has three solutions:

A mind solution: most of the time, used for day-to-day activities and in businessA heart solution: these are your dreams, your desires, your wishesA mind-heart solution: these are fulfilling your dreams whilst making practical steps towards achieving those

The mistake we sometimes make is to mix up these decisions. We think buying a house or changing jobs is a rational decision. It is not.

If you use the wrong solution for a decision, you may end up disappointed, in pain or worse off.

For example, you want to become a life coach, you take an online course, you quit your job, and you assume that because you are such an amazing coach, the clients will come. Wrong! If you are not good at marketing or sales, clients will not come to you. Disappointment and disillusion happen.

If you only make mind solutions, you may make decisions based on your external needs but without your personal needs being met. You receive rewards or bonuses in a company, but there is no ethics, integrity or personal fulfilment.

Often, the best decisions are those where both heart and mind are involved. With the heart coming first and the mind coming second.

If you think about buying a house, changing jobs or relationships, follow your heart first. Then use the mind to practically apply and see if your decision can work.

A lot of expats at some point want to move back to their home country or a different country to have a better lifestyle.

First, you follow your heart. Where do you want to live, and what would make you and your family the happiest? 

Secondly, think practically, are there good schools for your kids? Are there business opportunities in the city you will go to? Is the social security system good enough for you because not every country has a good social security system?

Thirdly, take some time to evolve this idea. Decisions are never just rational. 

Big decisions need time. When you want to buy a new house, it takes time. 

Time to be ready to receive and see opportunities.

If you force a decision out of fear of missing out, scarcity or pressure to get a house quickly, you know what will happen. You make the wrong decision.

So if you are on the verge of making a big decision, involve both your heart and mind. Check with your heart about what you need. Then check how to make it work. 

Then give space and time to slowly bring your heart’s desires into your reality.

Raf Adams

The Suited Monk provides guidance on how to live a good life. This this 2-minute questionnaire will help you discover where you are on your life journey. Take your free check-up here now.

 

#philosophy #balance #innerwisdom

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The Importance of Internal Guidance

The Importance of Internal Guidance

I am not religious, but I believe there is a God. 

Named different names in different teachings, religions, and philosophies. ‘’He/She’’ in my viewpoint, is the CEO of life.

In the end, we are all students. 

Students of life. 

Unfortunately, not everyone has realized he/she is still a student.

Students fail, students make mistakes, and students need guidance. 

But for some reason, adults don’t keep trying to make mistakes as we did as children, in fact, we try to be perfect to avoid these failures.

In the process of learning, there is external guidance and internal guidance.

External guidance comes from the CEO of life in the form of challenges, fears and limiting beliefs. 

Or a health issue to resolve, the loss of a loved one – all help us get closer to our hearts.

Internal guidance is already within us.

It is your inner compass, your intuition, your purpose, what you are born to do, your values, your gifts and talents, and the message you need to bring out to the world. 

It’s only when you are able to listen to your internal guidance that your purpose can shine. 

Have you ever seen an old man or woman who lived a life on purpose? 

You can see the joy in their face, even though they are old. They have listened to their internal guidance.

Have you ever seen an old man or woman with resentment and anger about life? You see the pain and sorrow in their face when they are old. They have rejected internal guidance.

The ONE who is able to align internal and external guidance, the one who is able to understand, interpret and go through life’s challenges given by the CEO of life, will be able to align both his inner and outer worlds.

Have you listened to your internal guidance lately?

Raf Adams

#philosophy #leadership #yourpurpose # selfawareness

If today you feel a lack of mental, emotional, or spiritual balance, you can take this 2-minute questionnaire designed by Prof. Dr. Mike Thomson from CEIBS (China Europe International Business School) that will help you identify the Gap between your internal and external worlds. Take your free check-up here now.

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Flow Vs Force – how to allow the right people and things to come to you

Flow Vs Force – how to allow the right people and things to come to you

 

I was once working with an executive from a manufacturing company. He had to make a presentation for his company. He was nervous about speaking in front of 500 people.

This nervousness had nothing to do with the event itself. This nervousness came internally. His natural flow was broken because his mind fixated on potential fears of not being liked, approved or being boring.

It is the same if you are single and looking for a new life partner. 

Or in business, if you look for a new business partner. 

This is a process that you cannot force. 

People have to COME into your life. You cannot FORCE them into your life, well, you can, but you know how that will end up!

Whenever presented with a difficult question or situation in your life or business, the first thing to do is always allow things to flow.

And Is FLOW external or internal? 

FLOW is internal. 

You cannot force FLOW externally. Doing that will only result in burnout in your career or health issues throughout your life. You try to force results. You aim to get all achievements and experience stress as a result.

Remember, both your inner and outer world always have to work in alignment. With your inner coming first and your outer coming second. 

And so, if you are struggling in any area of your life, whether it be your relationships, your work or your life, the only thing to do is take a step back. 

A step back to allow the flow to come internally. 

A step back so you don’t get attached to the situation. 

For example, go on a holiday is a great step to get back into flow. 

Go for a morning coffee before work and take a few minutes to reflect. 

Or go for a run and detach from the situation.

When your mind detaches, you are creating space for FLOW to take place. You are not controlling anything. You are not controlling a situation. You are not fixated on anything. So natural FLOW can take place.

This doesn´t have to take long. Only a few seconds or minutes can be enough. But just simply giving space to the mind can bring in greater insights, ideas, and solutions.

Remember, the higher position you have in your company, the more difficult it is to gather all DATA to make a decision. At some point, you have to use your gut feeling and TRUST that your decision will be the right one. 

This TRUST is FLOW. 

So each business, each relationship, and each area of your life has a FLOW component. For life to take its own course.

The question is, how much do you force, and how much do you allow it to FLOW?

Raf Adams 

#flow #balance #leadership

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How to Stop Overthinking and Forcing a Situation

 How to Stop Overthinking and Forcing a Situation

 

Sometimes the best answer to a question is no answer, just step back and give space instead.

Have you ever tried to win an argument with someone, and the conversation gets heated?

What would happen if you took a step back and just observed and breathed?

The heated conversation cools down. 

Why? Because your mind is giving space.

Have you ever tried to force a business decision, and it didn´t work out? Or try to make a bank transfer, and it kept refusing the transfer, or you try to buy something online, and it has technical issues, and you gave up. 

And then suddenly, one day later, for some reason, you don´t have to make that bank transfer anymore or the thing you wanted to buy, you find a better deal in a local store near you.

Why? Because of giving space.

Life works in two ways, you have the external world (what I call your Suit), your career, your house, your family, and you have your internal world (what I call your Monk), your purpose, your values, your passions.

When there is a misalignment between your internal and external world, resistance occurs. Things are not flowing very well in your life, your relationships, and your career. 

When things are not flowing well, we often try to force changes that are not aligned with the natural flow of life.

We are not giving space to allow life to take its own flow, and we resist changes. We try to control our relationship and our business from our minds. We fix on a goal or outcome that we want, and we do anything to get there. Sometimes these fixations become obsessions. Some goals are 1, 2, 5, or 10-year goals. 

Imagine working towards a 10-year goal from your mind whilst your life path is going in a different direction? Have you ever considered the consequences of such a misalignment for 10 years?

It´ll be years of increasing resistance, struggle, and frustration walking a journey that was not meant to be walked. 

That resistance turns into frustration when we don’t achieve the goals we want, it turns into anger when we don’t get the results we aim for. We meet the wrong people, maybe you have a major health issue, an accident, or divorce, all telling you, hey, this is not the right way, change something.

Why? All this happens when you are working against the flow of life.

I´ve seen it happen many times, and you still see it happening a lot in the world today.

There is nothing wrong with success, having success is good because it allows you to take care of your family, contribute to society, to do well for yourself and others. The only problem is that, when this success is not aligned with your life path, then tremendous suffering within you occurs.

So we need to change the way how we live life. We need to change the way how we make decisions. The heart needs to come first, and the mind needs to come second.

If you want to change this in your life, and you want to start following your heart, and there is an area where you are stuck right now, where a decision is not working in your favour, just give space. 

Sometimes you can give space for 2-3 seconds, especially during a heated conversation. Sometimes it’s better to give a few days of space when thinking about an important business, life, or relationship decision.

This space that you create will bring you perspective. And perspective gives you more options and will allow you to make better decisions moving forward. 

Always follow the heart first and build success around it. It’s the only way to be happy internally and successful externally in your life and career.

Happy living.

Raf Adams 

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