Jennifer Fraser's Blog: How I Became an Unlikely Whistleblower, page 6
December 5, 2015
Educational Consultant Reviews Teaching Bullies
5 out of 5 stars
Two Thumbs Up!
By Gina Rolkowski on August 8, 2015
Most deep life altering wounds created by bullying often hide in the delicate developing brain of victims. This invisibility allows for “normalizing” the horrific act of bullying. In fact, it creates a space for the very word bullying to mask the truth that bullying = abuse. Imagining bullying/abuse from the child’s perspective: Who do I go to to help me when the very people who are supposed to help me are the ones hurting me? Sit with that…
Teaching Bullies offers just that: a safe place to sit with the discomfort and awareness that bullying is indeed abuse and it must be stopped. Dr. Jennifer Fraser’s Teaching Bullies bravely begins with Fraser’s frustrating, firsthand appalling experience with her son’s coaches, the lack of response from school administrators all the way up through to the Ministry of Education, and moves into the unbelievable stories of the re-victimization of the boys and girls who so courageously came forward.
The message of awareness becomes clearer as she focuses on recent eye-opening brain research related to the physical impact bullying has on the teenage brain and offers specifics related to how to change this cycle by outlining specific skill sets for adults in the role of coaching. A must read for school leaders, policy makers, parents and coaches, Teaching Bullies transforms the horrific experience of 14 bullied boys into a powerful, hopeful call to action.
Two Thumbs Up!
By Gina Rolkowski on August 8, 2015
Most deep life altering wounds created by bullying often hide in the delicate developing brain of victims. This invisibility allows for “normalizing” the horrific act of bullying. In fact, it creates a space for the very word bullying to mask the truth that bullying = abuse. Imagining bullying/abuse from the child’s perspective: Who do I go to to help me when the very people who are supposed to help me are the ones hurting me? Sit with that…
Teaching Bullies offers just that: a safe place to sit with the discomfort and awareness that bullying is indeed abuse and it must be stopped. Dr. Jennifer Fraser’s Teaching Bullies bravely begins with Fraser’s frustrating, firsthand appalling experience with her son’s coaches, the lack of response from school administrators all the way up through to the Ministry of Education, and moves into the unbelievable stories of the re-victimization of the boys and girls who so courageously came forward.
The message of awareness becomes clearer as she focuses on recent eye-opening brain research related to the physical impact bullying has on the teenage brain and offers specifics related to how to change this cycle by outlining specific skill sets for adults in the role of coaching. A must read for school leaders, policy makers, parents and coaches, Teaching Bullies transforms the horrific experience of 14 bullied boys into a powerful, hopeful call to action.
Former Pro-Athlete Reviews Teaching Bullies
5 out of 5 stars
It's time to Teach Bullies (especially Coaching Bullies & Teaching Bullies) that's it's NOT COOL, not to BE KIND!
August 8, 2015
By Living With Compassion
♥...as a former Professional Athlete, who played Baseball @Ucla, and had the Privilege of being mentored by Coach Wooden (*Ahem* Who won 10 National Championships, with only Love, Discipline, & Kindness), it hurts my Heart that young people are the recipients of emotional & physical violence, at the hands of those who have SO much influence & leverage over their Academic & Athletic careers!
What Doctor Fraser lays out in 'Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance On The Court' is an amazing story of what happened to 14 Brave young Souls, who had the courage to (like Apple says) "Challenge The Status Quo". She explains the particulars, and delves into the Psyche of the Athletes, of the Parents, of the Institutions (who collectively contribute to the culture), and even the Authors of violence, themselves!
If you're the recipient of perpetual hazing (aka bullying), you need this book! If you're the Parent of a child in that situation, you need this book! If you're a new Parent who wants the best for their Children, you need this book, and if you're an Author of violence that wants a way out, you also need this book! Thank You Doctor Fraser for illustrating the challenges we face, sharing your personal story, offering Compassion, and delving into policy adaptations to address the issue of 'Teaching Bullies'. May we all learn to #BeKindAndListen
It's time to Teach Bullies (especially Coaching Bullies & Teaching Bullies) that's it's NOT COOL, not to BE KIND!
August 8, 2015
By Living With Compassion
♥...as a former Professional Athlete, who played Baseball @Ucla, and had the Privilege of being mentored by Coach Wooden (*Ahem* Who won 10 National Championships, with only Love, Discipline, & Kindness), it hurts my Heart that young people are the recipients of emotional & physical violence, at the hands of those who have SO much influence & leverage over their Academic & Athletic careers!
What Doctor Fraser lays out in 'Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance On The Court' is an amazing story of what happened to 14 Brave young Souls, who had the courage to (like Apple says) "Challenge The Status Quo". She explains the particulars, and delves into the Psyche of the Athletes, of the Parents, of the Institutions (who collectively contribute to the culture), and even the Authors of violence, themselves!
If you're the recipient of perpetual hazing (aka bullying), you need this book! If you're the Parent of a child in that situation, you need this book! If you're a new Parent who wants the best for their Children, you need this book, and if you're an Author of violence that wants a way out, you also need this book! Thank You Doctor Fraser for illustrating the challenges we face, sharing your personal story, offering Compassion, and delving into policy adaptations to address the issue of 'Teaching Bullies'. May we all learn to #BeKindAndListen
Parent Reviews Teaching Bullies
5 out of 5 stars
The story of a courageous family confronting teacher/coaching/bullying.
Nov. 4 2015
By Vin Coyne
The story of a courageous family confronting teacher/coaching/bullying. This book is concisely written from a personal perspective and is supported by exhaustive research. Teaching Bullies makes for compelling reading.
The story of a courageous family confronting teacher/coaching/bullying.
Nov. 4 2015
By Vin Coyne
The story of a courageous family confronting teacher/coaching/bullying. This book is concisely written from a personal perspective and is supported by exhaustive research. Teaching Bullies makes for compelling reading.
Psychologist Reviews Teaching Bullies
"Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance on the Court or in the Classroom"
This is such an important conversation that must be had in the school system and in amateur sports. As I read this book, I was consistently taken aback at the ‘normalizing’ that seems to happens in response to bullying-type behaviours in sports. If any other teacher in the school system were to speak to students in the same way as it appears some sports coaches may speak to students, there would be no question about the repercussions. I found that same ‘normalizing’ in my research on blame.
The question now is how to support coaches, teachers, students, parents, politicians, policy makers, and organizations? Jennifer Fraser started this conversation and it is up to us as a community to continue the conversation as part of transforming coaching and amateur sports.
– Cheryl Mitchell, PhD
This is such an important conversation that must be had in the school system and in amateur sports. As I read this book, I was consistently taken aback at the ‘normalizing’ that seems to happens in response to bullying-type behaviours in sports. If any other teacher in the school system were to speak to students in the same way as it appears some sports coaches may speak to students, there would be no question about the repercussions. I found that same ‘normalizing’ in my research on blame.
The question now is how to support coaches, teachers, students, parents, politicians, policy makers, and organizations? Jennifer Fraser started this conversation and it is up to us as a community to continue the conversation as part of transforming coaching and amateur sports.
– Cheryl Mitchell, PhD
Author and Founder of @MentoringBoys Reviews Teaching Bullies
Boys model the messages they receive about becoming men. When adults inculcate homophobic attitudes among children, boys learn a binary trap: they can embody the traits associated with images of traditional masculinity, or they might be labeled “sissy,” “wuss,” “gay” in a pejorative way, or ruder words.
Many boys feel pressured to become the biggest of wheels, the sturdiest of oaks, the most virulent repudiators of femininity. The link between machismo and violence can start early for boys pushed into a gender straitjacket.
Teaching Bullies offers ideas that could help us create a compelling counter-narrative in part by detailing, incident after sickening incident, what happens when teachers, coaches, and school administrators misuse masculine power.
Teaching Bullies will encourage parents, educators, and community leaders who want to foster safe and inclusive school environments where all students can thrive, both socially and academically. Jennifer Margaret Fraser’s documented narrative is a powerful call to action that should galvanize us all to take a stand against homophobic bullying in our schools.”
– Barry MacDonald, founder of MentoringBoys.com, and author of Boy Smarts: Mentoring Boys for Success at School, and Boys on Target: Raising Boys into Men of Courage and Compassion.
Many boys feel pressured to become the biggest of wheels, the sturdiest of oaks, the most virulent repudiators of femininity. The link between machismo and violence can start early for boys pushed into a gender straitjacket.
Teaching Bullies offers ideas that could help us create a compelling counter-narrative in part by detailing, incident after sickening incident, what happens when teachers, coaches, and school administrators misuse masculine power.
Teaching Bullies will encourage parents, educators, and community leaders who want to foster safe and inclusive school environments where all students can thrive, both socially and academically. Jennifer Margaret Fraser’s documented narrative is a powerful call to action that should galvanize us all to take a stand against homophobic bullying in our schools.”
– Barry MacDonald, founder of MentoringBoys.com, and author of Boy Smarts: Mentoring Boys for Success at School, and Boys on Target: Raising Boys into Men of Courage and Compassion.
Teaching Bullies Reviewed by Internationally Renowned Educator
At professional and university level sports, and more recently, even in league play, major cracks have been appearing in the iconic mythology and armour of sport. And they are being dealt with more swiftly and directly every day.
But, ironically, in the supposed safe haven of school, many young athletes and their families continue to suffer without voice. It is on this last bastion of the 'winning culture' that Jennifer Fraser's new book, Teaching Bullies, stakes its claim.
Through a skillful weaving of poignant tale and full evidential analysis, Fraser offers us a picture that is all too familiar - one of abuse, emotional extortion and final dejection at the hands of those ‘old school’ arbiters of the ‘what it takes to win’ philosophy of life.
This is a world in which respect, decency and professionalism are lost in the name of ‘toughness’. It is one in which manipulation and bullying rather than respect and skillful teaching are used to ‘bring up’ our youth.
What is most insidious in Fraser’s tale is how, when voices are raised, the education system at all levels can leave the besieged without protection.
Teaching Bullies is the touchstone, even a battle cry, for those who understand what sports in school should really be about – playing, learning and growing!
---John Baty
https://jbspeechanddebate.wordpress.com/
But, ironically, in the supposed safe haven of school, many young athletes and their families continue to suffer without voice. It is on this last bastion of the 'winning culture' that Jennifer Fraser's new book, Teaching Bullies, stakes its claim.
Through a skillful weaving of poignant tale and full evidential analysis, Fraser offers us a picture that is all too familiar - one of abuse, emotional extortion and final dejection at the hands of those ‘old school’ arbiters of the ‘what it takes to win’ philosophy of life.
This is a world in which respect, decency and professionalism are lost in the name of ‘toughness’. It is one in which manipulation and bullying rather than respect and skillful teaching are used to ‘bring up’ our youth.
What is most insidious in Fraser’s tale is how, when voices are raised, the education system at all levels can leave the besieged without protection.
Teaching Bullies is the touchstone, even a battle cry, for those who understand what sports in school should really be about – playing, learning and growing!
---John Baty
https://jbspeechanddebate.wordpress.com/
Review of Teaching Bullies by a Lawyer
Policy makers will find this book a useful introduction and guide to the reason for concern as well as to the literature and press on the issue in the North American and British context. Dr. Fraser uses her skill as a storyteller to draw the reader in with personal experiences but she keeps us there with research and strong analysis. This book should be an essential resource for any parent or educator seeking help in learning how to avoid the harm caused by teacher bullies.
– Patricia Lane, lawyer and mediator
– Patricia Lane, lawyer and mediator
Olympian and Sociology of Sport Professor Reviews Teaching Bullies
"Teaching Bullies" is absolutely invaluable as a resource for high school and college sport.
"Teaching Bullies" is written for high school athletes, their coaches and their parents - and to some degree, for school administrators. A teacher/coach who is a bully will easily recognize themselves in this. After reading this, no "teaching bully" should rest comfortably on his/her laurels.
"Teaching Bullies" underlines the power that some coaches use to produce winning outcomes but in ways that sacrifice the health and well-being of athletes. It is a also a must read for athletes whose coaches make them feel badly, make them do things against their will, or cajole and coerce them into distasteful or harmful practices. "If it makes you feel badly, then it is harmful". They will see that they are not alone, that they DO have choices, that there are resources to help them, and that they deserve better from sport.
Jennifer Fraser is a courageous parent who has taken not only an interest in her own child's safety in sport, but in all children who might experience abuse in sport at the hands of 'Teaching bullies". Her advocacy led to actions within her son's school and subsequently to this book, a testimony to the 14 young athletes who told their stories. This is a comprehensive account, based in current sport research, that will be extraordinarily useful to others in danger of following the same path (athletes and coaches alike). The promise of sport is that it is a welcoming and safe place for all participants. This book will help us all to get there.
Sandra Kirby, PhD
Professor Emerita
University of Winnipeg
"Teaching Bullies" is written for high school athletes, their coaches and their parents - and to some degree, for school administrators. A teacher/coach who is a bully will easily recognize themselves in this. After reading this, no "teaching bully" should rest comfortably on his/her laurels.
"Teaching Bullies" underlines the power that some coaches use to produce winning outcomes but in ways that sacrifice the health and well-being of athletes. It is a also a must read for athletes whose coaches make them feel badly, make them do things against their will, or cajole and coerce them into distasteful or harmful practices. "If it makes you feel badly, then it is harmful". They will see that they are not alone, that they DO have choices, that there are resources to help them, and that they deserve better from sport.
Jennifer Fraser is a courageous parent who has taken not only an interest in her own child's safety in sport, but in all children who might experience abuse in sport at the hands of 'Teaching bullies". Her advocacy led to actions within her son's school and subsequently to this book, a testimony to the 14 young athletes who told their stories. This is a comprehensive account, based in current sport research, that will be extraordinarily useful to others in danger of following the same path (athletes and coaches alike). The promise of sport is that it is a welcoming and safe place for all participants. This book will help us all to get there.
Sandra Kirby, PhD
Professor Emerita
University of Winnipeg
Review of Teaching Bullies
5 out of 5 stars
providing sad real example
Aug. 8 2015
By George Stockus
An important read for coaches, teachers, school administrators, government education regulators and sports psychologists.
Anyone associated with sport can appreciate the positive life lessons in hard work and constructive minded coaching. However what happens when lines are crossed, and coaching masked as tough-minded is destructive, abusive? Dr. Fraser explores real life implications of lines crossed and institutional short-comings in addressing such problems. High profile NCAA cases have maybe elevated this conversation some but Dr. Fraser goes further, providing sad real example of how even much younger athletes still endure bad and harmful coaching experiences in high school or club sport levels. Systemically we must do more to protect kids.
providing sad real example
Aug. 8 2015
By George Stockus
An important read for coaches, teachers, school administrators, government education regulators and sports psychologists.
Anyone associated with sport can appreciate the positive life lessons in hard work and constructive minded coaching. However what happens when lines are crossed, and coaching masked as tough-minded is destructive, abusive? Dr. Fraser explores real life implications of lines crossed and institutional short-comings in addressing such problems. High profile NCAA cases have maybe elevated this conversation some but Dr. Fraser goes further, providing sad real example of how even much younger athletes still endure bad and harmful coaching experiences in high school or club sport levels. Systemically we must do more to protect kids.
Endorsement for Teaching Bullies
5 out of 5 stars
Kudos to Dr. Fraser Sept. 3 2015
By Randy P Nathan, Author of Bullying in Sports
Bullying in Sports is real!! Kudos to Dr. Fraser for raising awareness on this very serious issue. This needs to be required reading for all athletes, parents and coaches at all levels of sports!
Kudos to Dr. Fraser Sept. 3 2015
By Randy P Nathan, Author of Bullying in Sports
Bullying in Sports is real!! Kudos to Dr. Fraser for raising awareness on this very serious issue. This needs to be required reading for all athletes, parents and coaches at all levels of sports!
How I Became an Unlikely Whistleblower
If you go to my website, www.bulliedbrain.com you'll see I have a new blog. I wanted to figure out why so few people speak up when they see wrong. I don't fit the profile of the moral hero so I wanted
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