C.K. Burch's Blog, page 296
March 13, 2014
zoetica:
Been getting an increasing amount of questions about...
Been getting an increasing amount of questions about my natural hair texture, since I’ve been mostly wearing it curly of late. Here it is, at this very moment: no styling no product no photoshop – nothing. Hope this helps!
Aside from her talented artistry, Zoetica Ebb is one of the most gleefully exuberant people I’ve ever seen on the web.
March 12, 2014
Here’s an outtake from the cover shoot I did recently for...
Here’s an outtake from the cover shoot I did recently for my next book, Dust McAlan and the Empire of the Serpent. You can find the main pics from the shoot over at my Facebook page. Don’t forget to Like the page while you’re there!
March 11, 2014
sovietxprincess:
If you’re a guy who likes looking at pictures of naked girls but loses respect for...
If you’re a guy who likes looking at pictures of naked girls but loses respect for a girl if she posts a naked picture of herself, you can get lost
Truth.
Ck Burch - Online
The online home of CK Burch, independent author and editor and lover of internet things. Fiction and fact held within.
Guess what? I’ve launched my very website yesterday. While there is still a bit of rearranging to do, you’ll find news, books, and contact info. Come have a look! More updates coming soon!
llamaloveszombie:
the-plants-have-spoken:
This reminds me of...
This reminds me of tumblr in some ways
All ways.
Are you kidding me this is Tumblr in a nutshell.
hermionejg:
killjoyfeminist:
theladycheeky:
.@Stoya can’t...
.@Stoya can’t give talks in high schools, because she makes porn films. If she could, here’s what she’d say about respecting other people’s boundaries during sex.
A person’s first condom, strap-on, or lacy thong doesn’t come with a pamphlet explaining active consent. Tampon companies don’t print statements on the back of their boxes encouraging teenagers to express their desires and ask for the desires of their sexual partners. Someone should do something about this. It would be extremely inappropriate for me to march into high schools and begin expounding upon communication, respecting other people’s limits, and taking responsibility for expressing your own. What I can do is expound upon some basic guidelines on the internet and hope the core concepts trickle down.
So, here they are:
1. Ask the people you will be having sex with what their preferences and limits are. This fosters active consent and encourages communication.
2. In order for a sexual partner to be able to give you what you want, you have to tell them what your desires are. A sexual partner can’t respect your limits if you don’t express them.
3. It is completely OK to retract your consent during a sex act. You can say that something is more intense than you thought it would be and you are no longer OK with it. If you do not speak up your partner(s) have no guaranteed way of knowing that you are unhappy or uncomfortable.
4. If a sexual partner says something hurts, uses a “safe word” or other signal to communicate that they want the sexual interaction to stop, or just looks unhappy, freaked out, or generally not OK, you need to stop what you’re doing and check in with them.
5. If your partner(s) are drunk or high, their ability to consent is questionable. If they’ve previously expressed distaste for anal sex and are slurring “Fuck my asshole” you should politely decline and bring the subject up later when they’re sober. This applies to any sexual act that you have not previously engaged in with this person.
6. As a general rule, don’t penetrate an orifice, pee, vomit, or bleed on someone, or slap them around without discussing the act first.
7. If your sexual partner(s) express a limit or ask for something to stop and you do not respect it, you are stepping onto a scale that ranges from “jerk” to “full-on rapist”. Personally, I don’t want to be on that scale at all, and I don’t want to engage in sexual activity with anyone who does hang out on that scale.
8. If one of your sexual partners steps on to the jerk-to-full-on rapist scale, call them out on it. You have the right to end the sexual activity you are engaged in and to decline sexual activity with them in the future. There you are. If any condom companies want to use those bits on their wrappers, hit me up.
-Stoya
Originally published in: New Statesman.
To read the entire article, CLICK below:
http://www.newstatesman.com/voices/2014/01/if-you-dont-want-say-no-porn-stars-guide-sexual-consent
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This is absoutely incredible. I already had a lot of respect for Stoya, and have followed her blog for 2(?) years, but this has made me even more impressed.
I love Stoya!
Most people will read the above and say, “But you’re a porn star, how can you talk about any of this?” Because she’s an intelligent human being who understands limitations, who understands consent, and feels the need to express these things and help others understand that it’s okay to say no, at any time, any place, any where.
katiereallylovesthings:
They get so hot that the nuclei of the...
They get so hot that the nuclei of the atoms fuse together deep within them to make the oxygen we breathe. The carbon in our muscles, the calcium in our bones, the iron in our blood, all was cooked in the fiery hearts of long-vanished stars.
This was when I started the crying.
