Pam Young's Blog, page 33

Keep Your Christmas Merry!

When we're alone -- whether in the midst of a crowd of strangers or family -- Christmas holidays can feel really yucky. But it doesn't have to be like that. We have the power to change how we feel in the moment we realize we're not having fun! Continue reading →

Gifts from Working with the Drifter

The gifts of working with the drifter were beyond simply getting the garage cleaned out. His irritating behavior allowed me to identify what I could do to have more joy, fewer hassles in my life. Continue reading →

The Mirror Game

One reason why marriage is considered a spiritual path is that it provides opportunity for personal growth in the constant reflection of who-you-are by your spouse. Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 12: Abandoned Again!

I am never alone. Even for a heavy-lifting garage project, the spiritual "helpers" who have always been there for me were there to help me, even for this. Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 11: 4th day of the third 5-day contract

I hired The Drifter on September 14 and we had been working on my Clear Clutter with Feng Shui garage project three weeks so far. For each week, I typed a contract listing tasks to be completed and deadlines. We both signed that piece of paper, and The Drifter got a copy. So far, he had done as he pleased, showing up if and when he chose, and not following directions from his employer, me. Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 10: Concrete!

I’m getting to be a pro at living in the moment, fully present – a skill I learned at Kripalu in 1990. This guy has given me more practice than all my colleagues and students when I was a professor. And I believe that’s why he’s here: to help me get even better because we’re both reflecting opportunities to work on our “stuff.” Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 9: Court Day!

I finally realized how I was contributing to and reinforcing his lack of responsibility. Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 8: Boss Man

I was learning to be fully present even about planning. Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 7: Building Trust

The Drifter worked WITH me instead of constantly challenging me and together we got a lot done. That little girl inside me was relaxing. Maybe it was okay to trust a man again... Continue reading →

The Drifter, Part 6: Abandoned!

Happiness is being able to accept others for who they are, not who we wish they were. Continue reading →