Maude Mayes's Blog: Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed, page 54

How To Nurture Intimacy In Your Relationship

PHIL: In one relationship, I felt that sex created intimacy, but my partner needed intimacy to precede sex. (This is what programmers call the bootstrap problem, from the expression “pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.” How do you read the first program into a computer when it needs a program in the computer to do the reading?)
In another relationship, my partner traveled often, and on return, there was a hesitancy between us until we became used to being with each other again.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week, we wrote that adapting to change is the skill we will need to cultivate. Here are some articles with ways to handle that.
Flexibility in the Midst of Crisis “In recent days, we’ve been inundated with recommendations for how to stay healthy in the midst of the COVID-19 coronavirus pandemic.
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Adapting To Change Is The Skill We Will Need To Cultivate

We value stability in our lives. Old houses and antiques appeal to us because they are tangible evidence that the world is consistent and safe, that things persist, that the world tomorrow will be the same as it is today. We don’t want to have to learn how to function in it all over again.
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This week we wrote about the importance of balance in your relationships. It was difficult to find articles discussing the issue as we did, but these three look at it from some interesting viewpoints.
4 Things You Can Do To Build a More Balanced Relationship “I like to sit in the park and watch couples interact.
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Why is Balance Important for Peaceful Relationships?

PHIL: Is your relationship a town with safe streets, no-go areas and places you might stumble and get hurt? We don’t live there. We simply don’t clash on things.
It is totally improbable that we make the same choices time and time again.
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In our blog this week, we asked what makes for a conflict-free relationship? Here are some articles supporting this view. A couple are fairly short, but we included them because they are so on point.
What Is Radical Acceptance? The 5 Steps I Took To Save My Relationship “I had to learn how to show radical acceptance.
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What Makes Up a Conflict-free Relationship?

Critical to having a peaceful conflict-free relationship is an attitude we refer to as total acceptance. Understanding that the other person is a full and separate individual, with different ways of expressing themselves and unique preferences, is a necessary foundation for peaceful relating.
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In our blog this week, we wrote about why you need to know your core values in a relationship. Here are some other writers on that topic, complete with their own lists of potential core values.
When a ‘deal breaker’ really isn’t.
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Why You Need to Know Your Core Values in a Relationship

We just finished giving a workshop on transforming your relationships, and one of the areas we discussed was core values – what they are and what impact they have on our relationships. We were surprised to find out how many people had never really thought about what theirs were or looked at what those values meant in terms of their relationships.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week’s blog is on the need for total acceptance in a successful relationship. Here’s a variety of viewpoints on this topic.
Acceptance: The Foundation of Lasting Relationships “Relating is simply about acceptance of the other and commitment to that person above all else, including what we want.
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