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September 16, 2013

The Mystery and Magic of Sexual Energy

The Mystery and Magic of Sexual Energy

John Gray has been very popular. He tells his audience that men are more into quickies and that women take a long time to be aroused. We beg to differ. We believe (based on our own and our clients’ experiences) that men and women can both be easily aroused if the life force-energy is high.

The basis of our theory is that high levels of energy are magnetic and attractive.

What people are often attracted to is a strong life force rather than external physical features. When people initially meet, they have separate energy fields. The difference in the energy fields can create a spark, just like in a battery–especially when both energy fields are highly charged. The spark and the energy circulating create a high turn on and a high passion.

After people have been together for a while, however, two things may happen:

1. Their energy fields actually balance out and “become one.” [That is why people who have been together awhile often start looking alike.] So there is no longer a spark or charge between them and it is necessary to go to external sources (rubbing harder, pornography, etc.) to get it going. During intercourse or intense emotional interchange, energy fibers (invisible to the untrained eye) get set up between the two people. This furthers the merging of the two energy fields. There is less autonomy in individual recycling of energy. In other words, BLAH!

2. Couples will, over a period of time, accumulate resentments about the partner, which can block the energy exchange between them.

In the first premise, we notice that no matter how much you love each other, the energy between couples who have been together for a while may be flat, stale, or blocked. The passion (energy spark) tends to go down the longer a couple is together. Consequently, the idea that women need 45 minutes to get aroused is really a sign that there is no energy spark, a depleted life force in the relationship. The “45 minutes” is needed just to get some energy going/flowing. (The charges are so low in the batteries.)

Related to this is a secondary issue that often happens — men tend to come to their partners depleted and move toward the woman to get their energy up. (What kind of turn on is that? When you connect with someone whose energy field is lower, there tends to be a negative feeling).

There is hope! We teach individuals and couples how to get their life force energy up and strong, identify and intervene on drains, clear life force energy blocks between partners, and build and circulate sexual energy.

~ Robin Trainor Masci, MS, LPCC and Meryl Hershey Beck, MA, M.Ed., LPCC co-founders of Empowerment Training Center, Inc. Contact them at 520-449-3152 or info@stopearingyourheartout.com/. They are offering an experiential pre-conference workshop at the 15th Annual Energy Psychology conference in Toronto, October 24, 2013 to address and begin healing these issues. http://www.epccanada.ca/workshops-2/

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Meryl’s 2013 Fall Workshop Schedule
Transform Your Life with RITT (Rapidly Integrated Transformation Technique)

Beachwood OH, Tuesday Sept. 17, 7-9 pm
New York City, META Center, Friday Sept. 20, 7-9 pm
Myrtle Beach, Sunday October 13, 3-5 pm
Tucson, Saturday Nov. 9, 10 – noon
These workshops have very limited space. If interested, register now at http://www.stopeatingyourheartout.com...

Meryl and Robin are also offering a breakout session at the Toronto Energy Psychology Conference on Oct. 25th. Register at http://www.epccanada.ca/Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating
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February 10, 2013

Spiritual Support – The ASPIC Way!

This is a continuation in the series describing ASPIC, and this is the third in the sequence around support. The earlier posts (Awareness, Support) can be found at http://stopeatingyourheartout.com/blog/ And today we will be discussing spiritual support, the ASPIC way.

Spiritual support doesn’t mean religious support, though it can include it.

Spirituality is much larger than religion and more all-inclusive. It can include a belief in God or Buddha or Allah or whatever, or be simply a belief in a Higher Power, Nature, or the Universe. Religion separates folks, whereas spirituality can unify people.

Although spiritual support takes many forms, the focus here will encompass three areas:

prayer
meditation
visualization


Because each one is such a gigantic topic within itself, I will only cover one aspect each week, so today we’ll discuss prayer.

I personally had a lot of trouble with spirituality for many years. I told myself I was an agnostic, but the truth was that I was afraid to believe in God. Because the God I knew was a punishing God. I was basically a good person, but I did, what I refer to as my “little bads.” These included saying one thing, “Oh, what a beautiful dress, Aunt Gert,” but really thinking to myself, “Did she retrieve that out of someone’s trash can?” Or telling my brother (6 years younger) to put his tongue on the ice cube tray. When it stuck, I played the innocent – “Oh you poor dear, I didn’t know that would happen!”

The God I believed in was keeping track and someday he’d punish me for all these little bads. In fact, as a young married with two healthy children, I lived a tortured life – sure that any day I’d get the punishment I deserved: one of my kids would be struck with an incurable disease. I am forever grateful that I had a spiritual awakening which ousted that belief, allowing me to joyfully embrace a Loving Higher Power. Only then did prayer become an important component in my recovery. [I explain this in more detail in Stop Eating Your Heart Out, pp. 55-57.]
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Published on February 10, 2013 18:28 Tags: prayer, spirituality, stop-eating-your-heart-out, support

January 19, 2013

Freedom from Unwanted Habits – the ASPIC Way!

Do you overeat?
Are you a procrastinator?
Ready to stop the self-criticism?
Sick and tired of your negative thinking?
Have another unwanted habit you’re ready to change?

Keep reading to discover how to obtain freedom from unwanted habits … the ASPIC way!

“Aspic” is an old-fashioned word and it’s where our widely known Jello™ originated. Jello™ is for everyone; aspic, on-the-other hand, was created just for the elite, for the genteel as in the photo. And, because you are so special, YOU will be given this choice recipe! Right here. Right now!
Just go to http://stopeatingyourheartout.com/201... to continue reading this post.
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December 17, 2012

Preventing Holiday Weight Gain: 10 Tips

Although there is disagreement about the actual numbers, it is believed that the average weight gain between Halloween and the new year is 6-12 pounds!

To avoid reaching New Year’s Day feeling upset and disappointed with yourself that once again you ate your way through the holidays, here are some tips:

Practice mindfulness. When approaching the table laden with food, be conscious of your choices. Survey the whole table first before beginning to load your plate.

Never arrive hungry. Some folks eat lightly all day because they’re going to a party, and this always results in overeating.

When choosing to eat something “fattening,” make it a conscious choice. When you eat it feeling guilty you’ll metabolize it differently than when eating it with enjoyment and focus.

Focus on people rather than the food. Find people you like to be with or want to learn more about instead of hanging out near the food table.

Ask for and give hugs. They fill you in a very different way than the food!

Go easy on the booze. Over-indulging on alcohol often leads to overeating, too!

Whether you eat high calorie or low calorie food doesn’t determine your moral character. You are not bad because you ate too much. Learn self-forgiveness rather than “I blew it so I might as well keep eating.”

If attending a potluck, bring a healthy dish that you like to ensure that there is something to eat that you’ll find healthy and enjoyable.

Listen for your “I don’t care” or “it doesn’t matter” voice that will tell you it’s okay to keep eating and eating. When you are conscious of that voice, you can lightly say to it, “Thanks for your input. Now sit down and shut up,” as you move yourself away from the food.

Find some fun activities to include in the holidays that don’t revolve around food … and maybe the activities will even include movement!
Hope you are enjoying the holiday season!

Blessings,

Meryl

P. S. Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating makes a wonderful holiday gift! Purchase your personally signed copy at http://tinyurl.com/merylsignedbook
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Published on December 17, 2012 21:28 Tags: emotional-eating, holidays, weight-gain

Preventing Holiday Weight Gain: 10 Tips

Although there is disagreement about the actual numbers, it is believed that the average weight gain between Halloween and the new year is 6-12 pounds!

To avoid reaching New Year’s Day feeling upset and disappointed with yourself that once again you ate your way through the holidays, here are some tips:

Practice mindfulness. When approaching the table laden with food, be conscious of your choices. Survey the whole table first before beginning to load your plate.

Never arrive hungry. Some folks eat lightly all day because they’re going to a party, and this always results in overeating.

When choosing to eat something “fattening,” make it a conscious choice. When you eat it feeling guilty you’ll metabolize it differently than when eating it with enjoyment and focus.

Focus on people rather than the food. Find people you like to be with or want to learn more about instead of hanging out near the food table.

Ask for and give hugs. They fill you in a very different way than the food!

Go easy on the booze. Over-indulging on alcohol often leads to overeating, too!

Whether you eat high calorie or low calorie food doesn’t determine your moral character. You are not bad because you ate too much. Learn self-forgiveness rather than “I blew it so I might as well keep eating.”

If attending a potluck, bring a healthy dish that you like to ensure that there is something to eat that you’ll find healthy and enjoyable.

Listen for your “I don’t care” or “it doesn’t matter” voice that will tell you it’s okay to keep eating and eating. When you are conscious of that voice, you can lightly say to it, “Thanks for your input. Now sit down and shut up,” as you move yourself away from the food.

Find some fun activities to include in the holidays that don’t revolve around food … and maybe the activities will even include movement!
Hope you are enjoying the holiday season!

Blessings,

Meryl

P. S. Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating makes a wonderful holiday gift! Purchase your personally signed copy at http://tinyurl.com/merylsignedbook
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Published on December 17, 2012 21:27 Tags: emotional-eating, holidays, weight-gain

November 30, 2012

You Shouldn't Should on Yourself

How many of us lead our lives doing what we think we should do or what we think we have to do? During my childhood and young adulthood, I did whatever I thought I was supposed to do. I dreamed about finding a giant book of rules so I could be certain to live my life according to the shoulds and not make any mistakes! The external voices of my parents and teachers told me what I should do, such as:

You should go to bed now.

You should be nice all the time.

and what I should not do, like:

You should not show anger.

You should not be fat.

I internalized these voices, and soon my own inner voice was barking commands at me:

You should go to sleep.

You should smile more.

You should not eat those cookies.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

You should lose weight.

My inner world, the voices in my head, became a constant chatter of shoulds and should nots—about everything!

During my journey of recovery, I found authors and lecturers who helped me change my self-talk, with suggestions such as “You shouldn’t should on yourself.” The motivational author Louise Hay suggests we change our shoulds to coulds. When I catch myself saying I should, I quickly correct it to I could and am amazed at how quickly my disposition improves. Try it—you’ll see what I mean.

I could go to sleep.

I could smile more.

I could be nice all the time.

It really feels different.

This is also true for the words have to. I used to say to myself:

I have to make dinner.

I have to pick up the kids from school.

I have to exercise.

I have to go on a diet.

The part of me that is a rebel didn’t want to be told what I have to do—so sometimes I would simply not do it. Other times I would do it with the attitude of a victim—Oh, poor me, I have to pick up the kids from school. Try changing each have to to choose to. What a difference this makes—when we change the words, we change the energy:

I choose to make dinner.

I choose to pick up the kids from school.

I choose to exercise.

The word choose dissipates the poor-me voice and the feeling of being a victim and leads instead to feelings of self-empowerment.

Here’s an exercise for you to do.

Write down at least ten things you think you have to do or should do. Your list might look like this:

1. I have to clean the house.

2. I have to prepare meals.

3. I have to pay bills.

4. I should exercise.

5. I should call my parents.

6. I should take a walk.

Read it aloud. Then change each have to to choose to, each should to could:

Original List Revised List

I have to clean the house. I choose to clean the house.

I have to prepare meals. I choose to prepare meals.

I have to pay bills. I choose to pay bills.

I should exercise. I could exercise.

I should call my aunt. I could call my aunt.

I should take a walk. I could take a walk.

Read the revised list out loud. It carries a different energy than the first list and should (oops, did I use that word?!) feel very freeing.

Become more conscious of the words you use, so when you hear yourself say (perhaps in a whiny tone), “I have to make dinner,” you will catch yourself immediately and change it to “I choose to make dinner.” And in so doing, you will find yourself feeling far more content and empowered in your everyday life.

Excerpted from my book, STOP EATING YOUR HEART OUT: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating, Chapter 3.

To purchase the book and receive free bonus gifts, go to http://stopeatingyourheartout.com/boo...
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April 29, 2012

Releasing Trauma with Energy Psychology Techniques

Many of us have trauma in our backgrounds. Sometimes it is the capital T Trauma, such as rape, abuse, or family member's death. Oftentimes it is the lower case t trauma -- feeling humiliated, ashamed, guilty, or embarrassed. In either case, energy psychology techniques (EFT, RITT, etc.) can release the old trauma (and PTSD), and now there are studies to show its efficacy.

Here is what Dr. Hyla Cass had to say in the Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/hyla-ca...

She ends the article saying, "It is possible that energy psychology is following the path described by William James a century ago: 'A new idea is first condemned as ridiculous and then dismissed as trivial, until finally it becomes what everybody knows.'"
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Published on April 29, 2012 14:22 Tags: dr-hyla-cass, eft, energy-psychology, ptsd, ritt, trauma

March 31, 2012

Kick off Week

Although STOP EATING YOUR HEART OUT has been on the shelves for a month now, the official publication date is April 1, 2012. Love April Fools Day. The fool, in tarot, is one of my favorite cards....it is such a free-spirit!

In case you want to tune in, here is my schedule for the week:

Tuesday April 03, 2012

2 PM EDT

Stop Eating Your Heart Out Webinar

with Callan McCulla

http://tinyurl.com/7tlnzfr

(the above is your registration link)

Register and Listen!



Tuesday April 03, 2012

8 PM EDT

Radio Interview with Jenn of Soul's Journey

http://www.soulsjourneyradio.com/

Click and Listen!



Thursday April 05, 2012

12 PM EDT

Radio Show with Steve Maraboli

www.empoweredlivingradio.com

Click and Listen



Friday April 06, 2012

11 AM – 12 PM PDT

Interview with Carolyn Coker Ross

www.voiceamerica.com

Search for Carolyn Coker Ross' Show



MORE ANNOUNCEMENTS COMING SOON.....
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Published on March 31, 2012 07:20 Tags: april-1, book, fool, interview, media, webinar

March 25, 2012

“Hungry for Change”

Yesterday I was able to watch this DVD online , it is free until March 31st. www.HungryForChange.tv/online-premiere
It is well done…watch it this week for yourself. Here are some tidbits I picked up:
• 80% of all processed food has MSG (lots of different names for this additive)
• Manufacturers want you to keep eating their products so they intend for them to be addictive (hence, the addition of MSG). And fructose is also very addictive and added to many processed foods (even pasta sauce!).
• Artificial sweeteners cause carb cravings and lead to weight gain
• “Fat doesn’t make you fat; sugar makes you fat.”
• Aloe vera detoxes [I have it in my yard and added it to my shake today!]; also great are parsley and cilantro
• Most people are overfed and undernourished
• Important words of wisdom, “If you’re upset, don’t eat!”
• Stress hormones are like steroids and cause weight gain.
• Ways to digest stress hormones include getting enough sleep, exercise, and laughter.
• Visualization [I cover this in my book] is a way to talk to the subconscious. Find a picture of yourself the way you want to look.
• Learn to love yourself. If you say “I accept myself unconditionally right now” twice a day for 30 days, by day 28 you will be believing it!
Watch it for yourself, for free, before March 31st. www.HungryForChange.tv/online-premiere
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Published on March 25, 2012 17:43 Tags: hungry-for-change

March 22, 2012

Author of the Week

I am excited to be announced as Author of the Week from Tom Bird. Here's the info:
Author of the Week

Life is the best teacher. That, of course, is if you are a good student. And there is no better student of life and the lessons it always offers than Meryl Hershey Beck, who has experienced so much, learned so much and thus lived so much more than most of us. Her book oozes of the things in life that really matter, a philosophy of how to live, love and enjoy. It is a must read, no matter what your station of life, because it is a product of life, a life well lived......

Meryl Hershey Beck, Stop Eating Your Heart Out - Click here to read more about Meryl and her book:
http://tombird.com/author-of-the-week...
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