Z. Allora's Blog, page 24
February 23, 2017
The Sex Lives of Early Humans...
Interesting....
February 16, 2017
Autochorissexual & Yaoi
fujoshi Means "rotten women". Fujoshi ship male characters (put them in sexual relationships with each other).
Lauren Orsini wrote "So why are fujoshi so interested in homoerotic relationships between male characters? You'd imagine that fujoshi would be more likely to appreciate a fictional relationship between a male and female character in order to self-insert as the woman, but that's where you'd be wrong. According to fujoshi, the idea of viewing a relationship between two attractive men from afar is the whole point. “When it's just boys, the reader engages in the story from the third person,” Hana, a Tokyo fujoshi, told the Daily Beast about her hobby." (http://www.animenewsnetwork.com/feature/2016-12-21/what-is-a-fujoshi/.109594)
I'm think some folks who adored Yaoi might be on the autochorissexual spectrum. This isn't meant to say absolutely everyone who enjoys Yaoi is autochorissexual. And you probably know me well enough to know I do not pathogenize with any label >>> It's just something interesting for those who may want to understand themselves better or are looking for community.
Asexual Wikia says, "Autochorissexuals are known to:
Get aroused by sexual content but not actually want to engage in any sexual activities Masturbate, but are neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person. Fantasize about sex, but envision people other than themselves, and/or view it in third person, as though they're watching it on TV, rather than imagining it in first person, through their own eyes. Predominantly or entirely fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities, rather than people in real life they know. Identify as asexual and feel no sexual attraction to people, but enjoy masturbating, are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or have sexual fantasies." ((http://asexuals.wikia.com/wiki/Autochorissexual))
Kiss Him Not Me 's main character demonstrates this sexuality plus it's an adorable show. 12 episodes and super cute characters... Here's episode 1. (Find the rest of the series on Crunchy Roll)
February 9, 2017
Yuri On Ice: WHY?
Unless you've been under a rock... Yuri on Ice has been on your social media feed for a while now. But what the hell is it and why is it so flipping popular?
((By the way there is no yuri (girl on girl loving) Yuri is part of the name of two of the characters in this anime.))
It's about ice skating but SO MUCH MORE.
Watch this video for one perspective:
I love the characters, the story, the puppy, Japan and the beauty of the skating. Here's the opening trailer.
Season 1 is on Crunchy Roll for free: Yuri On Ice
((But if you want more support the actual creators!!!))
Much love and I know you were born to make history!!!!!
Hugs, Z.
((By the way there is no yuri (girl on girl loving) Yuri is part of the name of two of the characters in this anime.))
It's about ice skating but SO MUCH MORE.
Watch this video for one perspective:
I love the characters, the story, the puppy, Japan and the beauty of the skating. Here's the opening trailer.
Season 1 is on Crunchy Roll for free: Yuri On Ice
((But if you want more support the actual creators!!!))
Much love and I know you were born to make history!!!!!
Hugs, Z.
February 2, 2017
5 Interesting Sex Practices From Around The World
I changed the judgy name of the video from SHOCKING to interesting. Sometimes it makes me tired how society judges others on how they express themselves sexually. What we find "weird" or "shocking" that's what someone else considers typical.
I've summarized the video:
Indonesia: During the festival, you go to a mountaintop and have sex with someone other than your spouse 7x for good luck.
India: Engage in ceremonial orgies
Niger: Wodabbe men get dressed in costumes and makeup for women to pick a husband if they couple leaves without the current husband knowing they are socially recognized.
Papau New Guinea: Boys at age 7 are removed from women for a decade, drink semen from their elders and ingest large amounts of sugarcane to produce nosebleeds to echo their wives menstrual cycle
Australia: Aboriginal boys have a front tooth knocked out, septum pierced, circumcised & he must eat the foreskin without swallowing then the penis is sliced lengthwise.
Before you watch it keep in mind the two people reporting it aren't always professional but I wanted to share these different practices with you.
Connecting this to my work: The Craving
The craving is an undeniable urge that drives K’Dane citizens to find their life mates—if only to sate their uncontrollable physical longings.
Thrilled at being named a Chosen, Phoenix Dotir leaves K’Dane to become an artist-monk who will create dimensional art capable of changing worlds. Living by the monastery’s Principles of Purity will surely help him overcome the craving. But he never accounted for star chaser Zadra Solav.
Zadra doesn’t believe in rules and makes his own future. Fate separates him from the man he loves, but one touch renders him helpless to his own desires. Bonding with a monk is forbidden, and Zadra’s family sends him to deep space to avoid disgrace. Unable to give up, Zadra must find a way reunite with his Chosen.
Tormented by enforced separation, Initiate Riva Quinton struggles with his vow of chastity and risks all to rescue his lover. Together with his Eros, he stows away on board a star craft to follow his heart.
Four men defy destiny and tradition for love… but their love is a crime punishable by death.
Sex in the Xantha star system:
Song Di Wangan II: monogamy is seen as dangerous.
K'Dane: The craving forces them to search for their mates. Most people are bisexual and polyamorous.
Feri: believes if you are healthy enough and have the time go for it.
Viking Haven: System of lords and slaves enforced and the genders are segregated encouraging homosexual relationships.
ebook print
I've summarized the video:
Indonesia: During the festival, you go to a mountaintop and have sex with someone other than your spouse 7x for good luck.
India: Engage in ceremonial orgies
Niger: Wodabbe men get dressed in costumes and makeup for women to pick a husband if they couple leaves without the current husband knowing they are socially recognized.
Papau New Guinea: Boys at age 7 are removed from women for a decade, drink semen from their elders and ingest large amounts of sugarcane to produce nosebleeds to echo their wives menstrual cycle
Australia: Aboriginal boys have a front tooth knocked out, septum pierced, circumcised & he must eat the foreskin without swallowing then the penis is sliced lengthwise.
Before you watch it keep in mind the two people reporting it aren't always professional but I wanted to share these different practices with you.
Connecting this to my work: The Craving
The craving is an undeniable urge that drives K’Dane citizens to find their life mates—if only to sate their uncontrollable physical longings.
Thrilled at being named a Chosen, Phoenix Dotir leaves K’Dane to become an artist-monk who will create dimensional art capable of changing worlds. Living by the monastery’s Principles of Purity will surely help him overcome the craving. But he never accounted for star chaser Zadra Solav.
Zadra doesn’t believe in rules and makes his own future. Fate separates him from the man he loves, but one touch renders him helpless to his own desires. Bonding with a monk is forbidden, and Zadra’s family sends him to deep space to avoid disgrace. Unable to give up, Zadra must find a way reunite with his Chosen.
Tormented by enforced separation, Initiate Riva Quinton struggles with his vow of chastity and risks all to rescue his lover. Together with his Eros, he stows away on board a star craft to follow his heart.
Four men defy destiny and tradition for love… but their love is a crime punishable by death.
Sex in the Xantha star system:
Song Di Wangan II: monogamy is seen as dangerous.
K'Dane: The craving forces them to search for their mates. Most people are bisexual and polyamorous.
Feri: believes if you are healthy enough and have the time go for it.
Viking Haven: System of lords and slaves enforced and the genders are segregated encouraging homosexual relationships.
ebook print
January 26, 2017
Queerness in Sci-Fi
EBOOK PRINTI wrote The Craving because I wanted to add my voice sci-fi. I wanted to share my vision of what sexuality is like in another star system... hoping the distance helps to shift the filters we view the world through to a more open, and accepting lens.
Lifemates? Soulmates? Denying who we are? Responsibilities over our hearts? The essence of BDSM slavery? Racism? Sexism? Ableism? I didn't dive deep The Craving is a romance after all but for readers who are looking they'll find some of these things explored (but none solved).
I thought this video was an interesting review of how Star Trek tackles social issues or not.
Hugs, Z.
January 19, 2017
The Craving vs Pon Farr
The Craving is my 1st sci-fi >>> it's a space opera. It takes places in the Xantha star system.
EBOOK PRINT
The title was named after an undeniable urge that drives K'Dane citizens to find their life mates---if only to sate their uncontrollable physical longings.
The craving would remind most sci-fi buffs of Pon Farr (from Star Trek). Here's a video from Star Trek explaining what happens when Vulcans go into the Pon Farr.
Pon Farr and the craving have some similarities:*Biologically Driven
*Out of Control To quote Tuvok from Voyage: "There is nothing logical about Pon Farr. It is a time when instinct and emotion dominate over reason..."
But there are significant differences: Though biologically driven K'Danes need the agreement of all parties involved. There's no forcing involved. In Star Trek pushing to the point of consent being questionable almost comes up.
K'Danes are proud of the progressive stance on sex (& much to the chagrin of Phoenix Dotir) talk about the craving openly so there is no embarrassment around it. Vulcans can resolve Pon Farr by taking a mate, meditation or ritual combat. K'Danes have wild sex which usually leads to finding their mate and in rare circumstances some medicate. Phoenix Dotir mediates. It's almost unheard of to do neither and survive but that's what star chaser Zadra Solav does.
The craving... a little like Pon Farr, but not.
Hugs, Z.
EBOOK PRINTThe title was named after an undeniable urge that drives K'Dane citizens to find their life mates---if only to sate their uncontrollable physical longings.
The craving would remind most sci-fi buffs of Pon Farr (from Star Trek). Here's a video from Star Trek explaining what happens when Vulcans go into the Pon Farr.
Pon Farr and the craving have some similarities:*Biologically Driven
*Out of Control To quote Tuvok from Voyage: "There is nothing logical about Pon Farr. It is a time when instinct and emotion dominate over reason..."
But there are significant differences: Though biologically driven K'Danes need the agreement of all parties involved. There's no forcing involved. In Star Trek pushing to the point of consent being questionable almost comes up.
K'Danes are proud of the progressive stance on sex (& much to the chagrin of Phoenix Dotir) talk about the craving openly so there is no embarrassment around it. Vulcans can resolve Pon Farr by taking a mate, meditation or ritual combat. K'Danes have wild sex which usually leads to finding their mate and in rare circumstances some medicate. Phoenix Dotir mediates. It's almost unheard of to do neither and survive but that's what star chaser Zadra Solav does.
The craving... a little like Pon Farr, but not.
Hugs, Z.
January 12, 2017
Misogyny... and you? me? What?
Misogyny is hatred of women.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary says, "Misogyny may be distinguished from the closely related word sexism , which signifies discrimination based on sex (although it most frequently refers to discrimination against women) and also carries the meaning “behavior, conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.” ((https://www.merriam-webster.com/dicti...))
Misogyny, sexism along with a whole host of other prejudices make up the filter we view the world through... kind of scary, huh? I've blogged about this before I was shocked to discover I was sexist but I've acknowledged it and I'm working on it.
Here's two videos I wanted to share with you.
We need to lose the belief that someone on the rainbow would NEVER hold outdated beliefs and act on them. (I wasn't.)
This next video shows how sexism & misogyny isn't coming just from males... Females have internalized it and most of us aren't even aware of it.
What can you do?
1) Be aware of it.
2) Examine your decisions with the knowledge you might have some subconscious bias against women.
3) Educate yourself
4) (if possible) Point out sexism when it happens.
5) Monitor your own negative comments.
Hugs, Z.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary says, "Misogyny may be distinguished from the closely related word sexism , which signifies discrimination based on sex (although it most frequently refers to discrimination against women) and also carries the meaning “behavior, conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.” ((https://www.merriam-webster.com/dicti...))
Misogyny, sexism along with a whole host of other prejudices make up the filter we view the world through... kind of scary, huh? I've blogged about this before I was shocked to discover I was sexist but I've acknowledged it and I'm working on it.
Here's two videos I wanted to share with you.
We need to lose the belief that someone on the rainbow would NEVER hold outdated beliefs and act on them. (I wasn't.)
This next video shows how sexism & misogyny isn't coming just from males... Females have internalized it and most of us aren't even aware of it.
What can you do?
1) Be aware of it.
2) Examine your decisions with the knowledge you might have some subconscious bias against women.
3) Educate yourself
4) (if possible) Point out sexism when it happens.
5) Monitor your own negative comments.
Hugs, Z.
January 5, 2017
Jordon Davis Speaks
FINALLY the story you have been waiting for: MY STORY is being written. It won't be out until next year but at least I'll be getting some happy times!!!Most of you know me as a little kid... but I'm not I'm 20. One of the things I did was to write love letters to my future husband... here's one of them. Z. Allora wishes you a happy, healthy and orgasm filled 2017! I hear it's the Year of the COCK (starting Jan. 28th). Dear Future Love,I know we haven't met yet because well I just finished up my sophomore year of high school and let's just say I've never won any popularity contests with the jackasses I went to school with... though it's really odd because I'm a great guy. Well if you're reading this you already believe that.
So I just turned sixteen and I've never been kissed. I had been sextexting some guys (don't get jealous I was hoping one of them was you)... well things got out of hand quick. It was screwed up but Zack was there to save my ass... literally. Dusty's boyfriend was the one who finally got me to speak to the police (apparently he'd not been as lucky as me). I don't think I'll attempt meeting anyone else soooooo hurry the hell up and sweep me off my feet. I'm READY for LOVE!!!
My mother tried to stop Zack and me from seeing our older brother but I couldn't handle that. We snuck around to see him but then I decided to come out. Maybe it wasn't the best time to blurt out my attraction to boys since my mother was having a church meeting at our house but I figured I'd test her unconditional love.
She failed. Her love had conditions. Within hours I was packed me up and she let my older brother have full custody of me. It's better this way but I don't know how you kick out your own child. Zack was booted later that same night so know we are all going on tour with Dusty, his boyfriend and The Dark Angels.
Oh yeah my oldest brother Dusty's a drummer and co-founder of The Dark Angels. Zack says he wanted to be a roadie for the band. So I'm going to do the rest of high school online, work on my art and see the world with my brothers (and search for you!).
I'm an artist. But you know that or you will because I'm going to include a drawing, painting or something with most of the letters. I love creating something exactly as it should be. You know when you like take a picture of a landmark and angle the camera so you cut out the people... that's what I do with anything I make. I don't believe I need to replicate reality but I alter it to make it pleasing. It take out the bad stuff so only the good interesting stuff is left.
I wish I could find out about you. I wonder who you are and what you look like? But that doesn't matter only that we love each other.
Love and long lingering kisses,
Jordon
So I just turned sixteen and I've never been kissed. I had been sextexting some guys (don't get jealous I was hoping one of them was you)... well things got out of hand quick. It was screwed up but Zack was there to save my ass... literally. Dusty's boyfriend was the one who finally got me to speak to the police (apparently he'd not been as lucky as me). I don't think I'll attempt meeting anyone else soooooo hurry the hell up and sweep me off my feet. I'm READY for LOVE!!!
My mother tried to stop Zack and me from seeing our older brother but I couldn't handle that. We snuck around to see him but then I decided to come out. Maybe it wasn't the best time to blurt out my attraction to boys since my mother was having a church meeting at our house but I figured I'd test her unconditional love.
She failed. Her love had conditions. Within hours I was packed me up and she let my older brother have full custody of me. It's better this way but I don't know how you kick out your own child. Zack was booted later that same night so know we are all going on tour with Dusty, his boyfriend and The Dark Angels.
Oh yeah my oldest brother Dusty's a drummer and co-founder of The Dark Angels. Zack says he wanted to be a roadie for the band. So I'm going to do the rest of high school online, work on my art and see the world with my brothers (and search for you!).
I'm an artist. But you know that or you will because I'm going to include a drawing, painting or something with most of the letters. I love creating something exactly as it should be. You know when you like take a picture of a landmark and angle the camera so you cut out the people... that's what I do with anything I make. I don't believe I need to replicate reality but I alter it to make it pleasing. It take out the bad stuff so only the good interesting stuff is left.
I wish I could find out about you. I wonder who you are and what you look like? But that doesn't matter only that we love each other.
Love and long lingering kisses,
Jordon
December 29, 2016
Interview with Zack Davis
BDSM is a spectrum. I’m compelled to explore the different facets of it through my characters.
Though everything I write seems to be kissed by BDSM, Lock and Key is my first official BDSM novel. I hope to celebrate the joy that can be found in BSDM.
I’d like to introduce one of my characters from Lock and Key. Please say hi to Zack Davis.
Z.: (smiles brightly) Welcome! I’m so glad you could make it.
Zack: (ducks his head) Hey, Z. Um, hi everyone. (Hissed whisper >>>) Z., I didn’t know there would be so many people here.
Z.: (looks around) Um, Zack it’s only me, and some readers.
Zack: Yeah, a lot of people. (Glances at the door as if he’s counting the footsteps to his escape)
Z.: So Zack, where would you say you fall on the BDSM spectrum?
Zack: (shifts around in his chair) Well, Lock and Key starts when I’m 18, but I’ve known almost my life that I’m a sub.
Z.: How did you know?
Zack: Um… (shrugs & looks down before peeking up at Z.) I guess I was 8 years old. It was late at night, but I was waiting for my older brother to get home. The Secretary was on TV.
Z.: The Secretary? That’s about the woman who discovers BDSM through her boss?
Zack: (chuckling) That would be the one.
Z.: Was this the first time you’d seen BDSM? And what did you think?
Zack: Well, yes and no. I’d always liked the Western’s especially when someone got tied up, but the sound of that spanking in The Secretary… and him micromanaging her… his control… I don’t know it did something to me. Everything seemed to make sense.
Z.: What happened?
Zack: (shakes his head) Nothing. I was 8… well, except I kept looking everywhere for more hints of anything that gave me a delicious nervous excited feeling.
Z.: How old are you when Lock and Key starts?
Zack: At the beginning of the book I’m 18 and I just started my first job as a roadie for my brother’s band. I put almost all the money I earned away to afford the crazy membership fees at Entwined.
Z.: Entwined?
Z.: (smiles encouragingly at Zack)
Zack: (bites his lower lip before answering) A club where BDSM dreams become a reality.
Z.: And did your dreams come to fruition?
Zack: (sighing he looked away and muttered) Z. to quote you my journey to subspace isn’t a direct one…
Z.: Any love interests?
Zack: (looking up at Z.) Plenty of playmates, but only one true love.
Z.: At such a young age…
Zack: I know it’s rare for someone to find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with at 18, but I did. (Hell, you married someone who you started dating at 18… and you knew right away too.)
Z.: (glaring) Insta-love happens… (Z. quiets a character from another book stating the physical impossibility of insta-love and quieting his detailed explanation as to why it’s actually insta-lust… Z. focuses on Zack) Tell us what it was like to start practicing BDSM.
Zack: Amazing (smiles dreamily) In chapter 2 I was sitting in a very basic BDSM class and I swear I thought I was going to come just by squirming in my seat.
Z.: (laughing) I know. To actually be in a place that your deepest fantasies are accepted by everyone and maybe even shared is… overwhelming. You no longer feel like you need to hide the part of yourself that most of society has labeled a sexual freak…. But Lock and Key is also about love, so let’s get back to that.
Zack: (sighing) Yes, it is. There is only one person I want to serve. My love for him made me desperate.
Z.: You’re young—
Zack: Not that young!
Z.: (back pedaling) So you were desperate…?
Zack: Hell, my thinking around him shrunk down to my needs and wants. I couldn’t think past my outright need for him. Even my breathing was about him and—
Z.: (leans forward) What happened?
Zack: He rejected me….
Z.: (looks away from the pain written all over Zack) It encouraged you to go in places you wouldn’t have went otherwise.
Zack: (shakes his head and shrugs) Yeah well… I have to, um go…
Z.: (nods) Well, Zack thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us.
Rejected. Heartbroken. Devastated.
Zack Davis wanted to serve only one man, Andrew Nikeman. He was denied because Andrew thought he was too young and because their brothers were together. So Zack crushed his submissive tendencies and focused on being the perfect Dom, giving every sub he played with something he couldn’t have.
After years of denying his submissive side, Entwined’s charity auction “Are you Dom Enough to be a sub?” gives Zack an excuse to get a little of what he’s always craved.
Andrew doesn’t know when his infatuation turned into more, but it kills him to see Zack with a constant parade of submissives. He’d refused to jeopardize his brother’s relationship or become Zack’s regret; however, Zack isn’t a kid anymore, and his brother’s relationship is unbreakable. Now Zack’s popularity and success as a Dom might ruin Andrew’s dreams of collaring him, but he can’t wait any longer to confess his feelings or he risks losing the man he loves forever.
Buy Link
Hugs, Z.
Though everything I write seems to be kissed by BDSM, Lock and Key is my first official BDSM novel. I hope to celebrate the joy that can be found in BSDM.
I’d like to introduce one of my characters from Lock and Key. Please say hi to Zack Davis.
Z.: (smiles brightly) Welcome! I’m so glad you could make it.
Zack: (ducks his head) Hey, Z. Um, hi everyone. (Hissed whisper >>>) Z., I didn’t know there would be so many people here.
Z.: (looks around) Um, Zack it’s only me, and some readers.
Zack: Yeah, a lot of people. (Glances at the door as if he’s counting the footsteps to his escape)
Z.: So Zack, where would you say you fall on the BDSM spectrum?
Zack: (shifts around in his chair) Well, Lock and Key starts when I’m 18, but I’ve known almost my life that I’m a sub.
Z.: How did you know?
Zack: Um… (shrugs & looks down before peeking up at Z.) I guess I was 8 years old. It was late at night, but I was waiting for my older brother to get home. The Secretary was on TV.
Z.: The Secretary? That’s about the woman who discovers BDSM through her boss?
Zack: (chuckling) That would be the one.
Z.: Was this the first time you’d seen BDSM? And what did you think?
Zack: Well, yes and no. I’d always liked the Western’s especially when someone got tied up, but the sound of that spanking in The Secretary… and him micromanaging her… his control… I don’t know it did something to me. Everything seemed to make sense.
Z.: What happened?
Zack: (shakes his head) Nothing. I was 8… well, except I kept looking everywhere for more hints of anything that gave me a delicious nervous excited feeling.
Z.: How old are you when Lock and Key starts?
Zack: At the beginning of the book I’m 18 and I just started my first job as a roadie for my brother’s band. I put almost all the money I earned away to afford the crazy membership fees at Entwined.
Z.: Entwined?
Z.: (smiles encouragingly at Zack)
Zack: (bites his lower lip before answering) A club where BDSM dreams become a reality.
Z.: And did your dreams come to fruition?
Zack: (sighing he looked away and muttered) Z. to quote you my journey to subspace isn’t a direct one…
Z.: Any love interests?
Zack: (looking up at Z.) Plenty of playmates, but only one true love.
Z.: At such a young age…
Zack: I know it’s rare for someone to find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with at 18, but I did. (Hell, you married someone who you started dating at 18… and you knew right away too.)
Z.: (glaring) Insta-love happens… (Z. quiets a character from another book stating the physical impossibility of insta-love and quieting his detailed explanation as to why it’s actually insta-lust… Z. focuses on Zack) Tell us what it was like to start practicing BDSM.
Zack: Amazing (smiles dreamily) In chapter 2 I was sitting in a very basic BDSM class and I swear I thought I was going to come just by squirming in my seat.
Z.: (laughing) I know. To actually be in a place that your deepest fantasies are accepted by everyone and maybe even shared is… overwhelming. You no longer feel like you need to hide the part of yourself that most of society has labeled a sexual freak…. But Lock and Key is also about love, so let’s get back to that.
Zack: (sighing) Yes, it is. There is only one person I want to serve. My love for him made me desperate.
Z.: You’re young—
Zack: Not that young!
Z.: (back pedaling) So you were desperate…?
Zack: Hell, my thinking around him shrunk down to my needs and wants. I couldn’t think past my outright need for him. Even my breathing was about him and—
Z.: (leans forward) What happened?
Zack: He rejected me….
Z.: (looks away from the pain written all over Zack) It encouraged you to go in places you wouldn’t have went otherwise.
Zack: (shakes his head and shrugs) Yeah well… I have to, um go…
Z.: (nods) Well, Zack thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us.
Rejected. Heartbroken. Devastated.Zack Davis wanted to serve only one man, Andrew Nikeman. He was denied because Andrew thought he was too young and because their brothers were together. So Zack crushed his submissive tendencies and focused on being the perfect Dom, giving every sub he played with something he couldn’t have.
After years of denying his submissive side, Entwined’s charity auction “Are you Dom Enough to be a sub?” gives Zack an excuse to get a little of what he’s always craved.
Andrew doesn’t know when his infatuation turned into more, but it kills him to see Zack with a constant parade of submissives. He’d refused to jeopardize his brother’s relationship or become Zack’s regret; however, Zack isn’t a kid anymore, and his brother’s relationship is unbreakable. Now Zack’s popularity and success as a Dom might ruin Andrew’s dreams of collaring him, but he can’t wait any longer to confess his feelings or he risks losing the man he loves forever.
Buy Link
Hugs, Z.
December 22, 2016
Perspective & Happiness: My Gift to You
Most reports say 2016 SUCKED! It was a tough year. (I discovered if you cry nonstop you can actually burn tear tracks in your cheeks). Sooooo I'm desperately grabbing perspective and happiness with two hands as often as I can.
We will all exit this plane of existence at some point in time. The reality of that SUCKS but it also allows us perspective (if we let it). When problems of daily life get us down (if you're able) look beyond it does it matter.
Sometimes yes: if so what steps do you need to take to fix it? (identify the problem, what's the solution, identify steps to get to the fix).
Sometimes no: what can you do to let the irritation/upset go? (identify the entire upset, use letting go techniques >>> my preferred is reaching for the happy)
There are few things that are worth being truly upset about... choose what to lose it on.
Happiness:
Buddhists strive to accept suffering is a part of life.
I'm going to encourage you to choose happiness as often as you can. It's not always an easy task (especially if you've lost your perspective). Sometimes our reality is so shitty we can't see how happiness can ever be part of our world again.
Start small. Find happy in a beautiful color, in funny memes on Facebook, in the joy of helping someone else.
Allow yourself the gift of happiness as often as you can. Seek it out.
What's the alternative?
I wish you love, happiness and romance always.
Happy Holidays and have a great start to 2017!!!
We will all exit this plane of existence at some point in time. The reality of that SUCKS but it also allows us perspective (if we let it). When problems of daily life get us down (if you're able) look beyond it does it matter.
Sometimes yes: if so what steps do you need to take to fix it? (identify the problem, what's the solution, identify steps to get to the fix).
Sometimes no: what can you do to let the irritation/upset go? (identify the entire upset, use letting go techniques >>> my preferred is reaching for the happy)
There are few things that are worth being truly upset about... choose what to lose it on.
Happiness:
Buddhists strive to accept suffering is a part of life.
I'm going to encourage you to choose happiness as often as you can. It's not always an easy task (especially if you've lost your perspective). Sometimes our reality is so shitty we can't see how happiness can ever be part of our world again.
Start small. Find happy in a beautiful color, in funny memes on Facebook, in the joy of helping someone else.
Allow yourself the gift of happiness as often as you can. Seek it out.
What's the alternative?
I wish you love, happiness and romance always.
Happy Holidays and have a great start to 2017!!!
